Ukhohliwe malunga nomhlangano obalulekileyo okanye ungafiki ngosuku? Musa ukuzithethelela ngenxa yokungalungiswanga - i-Psychology ye-Gestalt ibonisa ukuba iindlela zokukhusela zibonakalisa ngokwalo ndlela.
I-psyche yethu iphila ngemithetho yayo, engayithobeli i-logic yangaphambili. Kwaye ngakumbi nangakumbi, inako ukwenza izigqibo "ngokugqithisa" ukucinga.
Omnye wabaninzi bathi kulula ukubala ukunyuswa kwe-electron kunokuba uchaze ngendlela abantu benza ngayo izigqibo. Ngoko, lixesha lokufunda iindlela zokukhusela ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda kakuhle izenzo zakho kwaye ungazigxeka kwakhona kwakhona.
Kutheni sifaka iimpawu ezithile kubantu, silinganisa imeko efanayo, i-Psychological Psychology iyakwazi ukuchaza - iindlela zokukhusela, nangona zinzima, kodwa zibolekisa kwingcaciso.
Ukhuseleko luvela njani?
UGestalt uthi nanoma yiyiphi inkululeko iqala apho siphoqeleka ukuphazamisa umnxibelelwano. Kwaye, ngokucacileyo, zivela ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuba umnxibelelwano (uqhagamshelwano ngqo kunye nomnxibelelanisi) lubuhlungu ngathi.
Uxelela njani unyoko ukuba sele usakhulile kwaye ungenaso ukuzalisekisa zonke iimfuno zayo?
Uxelela njani umnini-boss ukuba abazange banikezele le projekthi ngenxa yalo (okanye iimeko ezingenakulungelelwano ezithe zangena kwi-flowflow work)?
Umntu onempilo ngokupheleleyo (ukuba ukhona nonke), ngokucacileyo, uyasabela ngokufanelekileyo. Oko kukuthi, uyaqonda ukuba uya kuxoka, okanye utshintshe kwenye isihloko. Kuye yindlela nje yokusombulula ingxaki. Enye into apho umntu enesimo esifana nesimo (kwaye apha iindlela ze-psyche zithinteka ngokuqinisekileyo).
Ukungabi nako amava okusombulula okanye ukufumana ingcinezelo yengqondo (ukukhala, ukukrazula ebuntwaneni ngenxa yokungayenzi, ayizange ingqalelo kwaye ishiye ukuxazulula umbuzo ongaphendulwanga ngaphambili), unyanzelekile ukuba asebenzise ngokuzenzekelayo indlela efanayo yokukhusela i-psyche ekutshatyalaliswa komfanekiso wehlabathi, ngaphambili.
Eminye kwi-psychology yeGestalt, iindlela zokukhusela ziqwalaselwa kwiincwadi ezinkulu. Enyanisweni, incwadi enkulu enamabinzana amathathu inokunikezelwa ekuhlalutheni uhlobo olulodwa lokukhusela. Okanye ii-recipes ze-mini zingahlakazeka ngeencwadi ngendlela yemifanekiso emancinci.
Nangona kunjalo, kwi-gestalt ngokubanzi akukho zixazululo ezilungiselelwe, iipilisi "zangaphambili". Kwaye kutheni lolu hlobo lwe-psychotherapy lusebenza kakhulu.
Luhlobo luni lokhuseleko olubunjwa ebuntwaneni, ebuntwaneni, ebuntwini?
Kukho iintlobo ezimbalwa zeendlela zokukhusela kwi-gestalt psychology. Oku kuqikelelwa, ukuqaliswa, ukubuyiswa kwemifanekiso, ukuxuba. Kuyavakala ukwethusa, kodwa ingqondo ye-Gestalt yeendlela zokukhusela empeleni ilula kakhulu.
Imibutho
Ukudibanisa yinkqubo evumela ukuba umama akhulise umntwana. Apha, ngokuqhelekileyo siva "thina" esikhundleni sokuba "mna naye." Khumbula ukhupha umama nabahambahambayo: "We pokakali" okanye "Sasidla izolo kashka." Xa umntwana ekhula, "singabantu abalungileyo, sinokufumana ezintlanu eziphezulu", kodwa "sitshatile" akunakutsho kwakhona.
Kodwa abazali bayaqhubeka bephila ubomi babo ngomntwana, bebambelela umbono wakhe. Yaye akuyiyo kuphela into eyinkwantayo: umntwana okhulileyo uyanyanzelekile ukuba acinge njalo ngoluvo lukaMama noyise. Ngoko iyakwazi ukuqhubeka ngonaphakade, kwaye emva kokufa kwabo. "Eyona nto", umama ocingayo kunye noyise, okanye umalume oyintloko, obonwabisayo kakhulu kubantwana bakhe, bahlale nathi ixesha elide. Kodwa kuphela kude kube ngumzuzu xa umntu engayifumani ingqibelelo.
Ngoko ke, ngokuchasene nendlela yokwenza intsebenziswano yendalo, musa ukucinga ngolu hlobo olulandelayo "inhlanganisela yeendlela ezininzi" kwindoda yakho, xa ekhangele kuwe ngeqhwaba. Mhlawumbi asikho kwisidlo sakusika, kwaye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba inwele zakho zibi - kukuba nje ukhathele ...
Projection
Zenze wena oko ungathanda ukukwenza kwabanye okanye ufumane kwabanye - elo lizwi lenene "lokuqikelela." Enye ibhansela, nokuba ngumzekelo onobuhlungu, ngumntu osebenza naye "ofumana isipho" iindidi zeentyantyambo ezivela kumntu ongaqhelekanga-ummemezeli, nangona wonke umntu uyazi ukuba akahlangabezane nabani na. Yaye eyona nto iyatshatyalaliswa ngumntwana osemtsha, ngoko "baxineke" ngabazali bakhe, ukuba uyazibulala.
Ulwalamano phakathi kwabo? Kulula kakhulu. Unqwenela ukuphindezela abazali bakhe, kodwa le yinto. Ngoko unokubangela intlungu eninzi ngokwakho nangangqalileyo - kubo ... Khumbula oku, xa uvuma ukuba awukhathazi - qhubeka usebenza ixesha elide okanye uye kwilizwe apho ulunywe yizinyoyi.
Ewe, ukuba ucacisa ngokucacileyo iingenelo zakho - "indoda iya kuzisola kwaye ayisayi kuphinda ifune ukuya kubazali", kwaye uya ngokuya ekuhlanjululeni, ufumana "iibhonasi" zabo, ngoko akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo. Xa umrhumo ungenakunqandwa "ngenzuzo", ngokuqinisekileyo uya kumisa ...
Introjection
I-Introjection nayo "inceba" evela kwimithetho yokukhuliswa kwabantwana. Ihlabathi eliphela kuye liyindalo engaqhelekanga kuye, unokukwazi kuphela kwimibono yabanye. Kodwa ngokugqithiseleyo kwexesha, sichaza ngokucacileyo ulwazi malunga nenyaniso ejikelezileyo, nangona kungekhona malunga nezinto, kodwa malunga neengcamango, imigaqo.
Indoda ekhulile isele yafumana amava. Kodwa kwenzeka nokuba umntu omdala "uthengiwe" ekuthengiseni "umshini wokuhlambela umbane osetyenziswayo naphi na." Kwaye kunzima ngakumbi umntu oqhelekileyo "uvikela" ukuqaliswa. Akunamsebenzi ukubuza, "kuba abamhlophe okanye ngamagcini" - njengokuba u-anecdote malunga nommelwane kunye netyuwa, uya kuphawula ngethuba ngalinye, njengoko kubonakala kuye, ukhetho olungakumbi.
Yaye xa kufika kwintombi enjalo inomngxobo wekhwama yezonyamelo kunye nekhathalogu - Ndiyesaba ukuba ndicinga ukuba yintoni inqabileyo engxamnye nesikhwama iya kugqiba ...
Imimiselo kunye nemithetho kufuneka ibe "eyakhe", ngokucacileyo isiseko, ukuze ungabi nantlungu kwizenzo zakho. Abazange bazibuze bona "kutheni ndifanele?". Unokutshintsha, uninzi kangakanani ufuna. Kodwa iinqanawa ziya kuhamba ngaphaya kangakanani, apho izithuthi zihlala zihlala ziguquka?
Igobolondo elikhuselekileyo lincinci ...
Ngoko, njengoko ingqondo yeGestalt iqhubeka, iindlela zokukhusela zisinceda sikhule, sitshintshe kwaye siyazi ihlabathi. Kodwa nje kuphela nje ngokuba bengabi ngamabhuleki ethu angenakwaziyo kwindlela eya empumelelweni, ukunwabisayo kunye nobomi.