Umsebenzi, uxinzelelo, umngcipheko omkhulu, kodwa nemali eninzi-oku kuhamba namhlanje. Kwenzeka njani ukuba awuzange ube kwi-skiing skiing? Ngaba awuzange ugxume ngeparachute? Ngaba akazange ahlanganyele empini ngaphandle kwemithetho yesihlalo somgadi? Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi impendulo engaphenduliyo kule mibuzo ingabangela ukungathandabuzeki ngokuqinisekileyo ekuthiwa ngumntu-oqaqambileyo kwaye onesibindi, oncomekayo kunye neglasi eyaziwayo.
Umngcipheko unyaka okhuselekileyo wobomi obuthulileyo. Ngoko iingcali zengqondo zithi. Xa yonke into ikhuselekile, kukho imfashini ephezulu. Kodwa ngokwemvelo, abantu abanenkalipho banomdla omkhulu, kuba bona, ingozi kunye nemihlali yimiba emihle. Nangona kunjalo, akuyiyo yonke le ndlela yokuziphatha isondele. Abaninzi bakhuphela amaqhinga ahlaselayo, kunye nokuzonwabisa okweqile, ukubonisa ubungqina babo.
Yongeza pepper?
Ngokutsho kweengqondo zeengqondo, ukubeka ingozi akusoloko kusho ukuba ube nesibindi kwaye uqine. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umnqweno wokuvuyisa ungenelisekanga kuwe okanye umnqweno wokufihla kwiingxaki. Musa ukulibala ukuba umlutha we-adrenaline ubizwa ngokuba yi-post-traumatic syndrome. Umzekelo oqhelekileyo ukukhangela iziganeko ezivuyisayo ngabasebenzi ababuya kwiindawo "ezifudumeleyo". Ngoko ke, xa umntu oqhelekileyo ongangena enkingeni enkulu engacingi ukuba ukhona ngaphandle kohlobo olugqithiseleyo, kungenzeka ukuba unengxabano engaphakathi.
Umbono wobudlelwane
Ingozi yinto ehambelana nayo. Ukuze umntu athathe imali-mboleko i-dollar ayikhulu-into efana nayo, kwaye umntu uyamoyika ukutshiza iinwele. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umngcipheko uchazwa njengento eyenzekayo ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kwithemba lokuphumelela kunye nesiphumo sesiphumo esonwabileyo. Ingcali yeengqondo kwiziko loPhando lweTeknoloji e-Stuttgart, i-Ortwin Renn, ichaza imifanekiso emine yengozi, ehluke kwizinga lokusongela kwangempela. Ukuba awukwazi ukwenza isigqibo malunga nale nto okanye isenzo, zama ukuvavanya ubuninzi beengozi kule nqanaba.
1. DAMOKLOV I-SWORD
Kulula nje, ipenki okanye yanyamalala. Umngcipheko ufumana amandla okugqibela, iziphumo ezingenakulinganiswa. Kwaye akukho xesha lokuhlangabezana nalo mngcipheko.
NGABANI ABAKHULU. I-paradoxical njengoko ibonakala ngathi, abantu abangenakucala. Njengoko kwakungathathwa amanyathelo angaphambili (ukuthwala ukuthetha nomntu okanye ukudibana nogqirha), imeko yaphuma ekulawuleni.
IBHAYIBHILE
Ukuthandana ngokungathandabuzekiyo, umvuzo omkhulu kwiNet, ukuhanjelwa kakubi kunye nezinye iinjongo. Kwaye nangona igalelo lihlala lide kude ngexesha, ingozi ibeka ingozi kwimpilo.
NGABANI ABAKHULU. KuTomas ongakholwayo. Kungcono ukufunda ngezinto ezinjalo kwabanye kunokuba uzivelele.
3. AMALUNGELO ATHENI
Olunye uhlobo lomngcipheko lunokuthiwa ngu-50 ukuya ku-50. Ingozi ingabalwa kwaye yenze i-balance balance dividends and losses. Oku akuncedisi kuphela xa kubalwa iimali, kodwa kwakhona kusebenza kwiimeko zengozi yengqondo. Umzekelo: "Ngomso kwintlanganiso, ndiya kugxeka iprojekthi N. Iindleko ezinokwenzeka - ukunyanga ubudlelwane noMnu A noNksz V. Iingeniso ezikhoyo: UMnu C no-M baya kuxhasa iphrojekthi yam."
NGABANI ABAKHULU. Ukuba ucinga ngokucokisekileyo ngeendlela zobuchule, umphumo wesiphumo esingathandekiyo sincinci. Ngokuphathelele iindleko, ngoko sele ulungiselelwe ngokwengqondo kubo.
4. IINKCUKACHA ZAMAHHALA
Akukho nengozi nganye. Kodwa kukho umnqweno wokufumana uvuyo. Olu hlobo lomngcipheko luquka zonke iintlobo zokuzonwabisa, ezifuna amava kunye nobuchule bokunqoba iimeko ezinzima. Iingozi ezinjalo zihlala zizithandela.
NGABANI ABAKHULU. Ngaphandle kokuba abaxhamli bezakhono bazigqithisele amandla abo.
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Isilinganisi sethu sokwenza umngcipheko njengendlela yokuziphatha kuxhomekeke kwisimo sengqondo, esithile senziwa yimiba yengqondo (ukuhamba kwengqondo kunye nesisindo). Ngoko, i-choleric kwimeko enobungozi ivakalelwa njengeentlanzi emanzini, kwaye oku kuyamsiza ukuba aphumeze iiprojekthi ezinzima. Nangona kunjalo, uzimisele ukubeka umngcipheko ngokungekho sikweni, umzekelo, xa edibanisa umfazi wakhe, ehla phakathi kobusuku emotweni aze ahambe apho amehlo ekhangele khona. Kodwa umntu osebenzayo, kodwa onokulinganiselayo we-sanguine akayi kufuna i-adventure evela kwintlungu: yena, ukuba unobungozi, ngenxa yengqiqo yobomi. Ukuze usebenzise i-phlegmatic kwaye ungakhathazeki: bakhetha u-adrenaline. Kodwa i-avoclic ekhuselekileyo neyiyo i-melancholic iyakunqanda ngisho novalo lomngcipheko. Akunakuncedo ukubeka i-melancholic kwiintlanga ezingenakuzicingela kwiinjongo zakhe. Ekuqaleni, kuya kuba ixesha elide ukulinganisela zonke iingxaki kunye nokuqhayisa, ukuva ubunzima, ekugqibeleni unqabe kwaye ngaphezu kokuqala ukuzihlambalaza ngenxa yokwesaba
Isimiselo imida ebekwe yendalo, kwaye akukho nto ingenakuphikisa ngayo. Umntu ojongene nomzabalazo wakhe ngengqondo akayi kufika into enhle. Ukongezelela, ukuzimisela kunye nesibindi ayifanelekanga kuyo yonke indawo kwaye kungekhona njalo.
Isizathu esibalulekileyo?
"Umngcipheko obunzima kukuba ungobuchule obunconywa ngabantu," kusho uGeorge Savile Halifax, ongumNgesi, owayengumntu wezobupolitika wenkulungwane ye-17. Yaye nangona ukukrokra nokungahambi kakuhle kunokuba luncedo kakhulu, akufanelekanga ukwenza ezi zimpawu zakho zobomi. Emva kwakho konke, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka usebenzise ingozi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uzinqume nge-parachute okanye ukhuphuke kwelinye ilitye. Kungenxa yomngcipheko wendalo yengqondo, oko kukuthi, malunga nokwenza izigqibo kwiimeko, isiphumo esingazi kakuhle. Ezi zivivinyo, udliwano-ndlebe, ukuqhelana nabazali bomntu othandekayo, kunye nengcaciso kunye nentombi, kunye nesigqibo sokugqiba emthunzini uze uzivakalise. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukwenza nto kwaye uzithuthuzele into ethile engazange ibuhlungu kwaye ufuna. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba emva kwalokhu "Andifuni" ngokufihlakeleyo "Andikwazi".
Ukuhlukanisa ukungaqiniseki okungadingekile kwinqanaba elifunekayo, iingcali zeengqondo zicebise ukuphendula imibuzo emibini: "Ndiyintoni na ingozi?" Emva koko konke, ngokutsho kukaFriedrich Nietzsche, xa uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kutheni unako ukuma.
Ngendlela, ukufaneleka kwale aphorism kuqinisekiswa yizinzulu. I-Psychologist, uprofesa weZiko lezoNyango e-Cleveland (USA), uMarvin Zuckerman, ngenxa yeminyaka emininzi yophando, wafika kwisigqibo sokuba sonke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba sinobuchule kunye nezinto ezithandayo, ziyakwazi ukubeka umngcipheko kwiimeko zezenzo ezingabonakaliyo (xa sifumanisa imeko) kunokuba imigaqo yomdlalo inikwe iimeko. Kuphela ukugqithiswa kweengcamango zomntu kunye nesigqibo esithathwe yedwa, senze izinto ezinobungqingili, nokuba zingozi. Ekubeni kulo mzekelo umntu ufuna ukuvavanya amandla akhe aze aqonde zonke izicwangciso zakhe nezicwangciso.
Ukutyekela kumngcipheko njengendlela yokuziphatha kumntu ongenakho. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba phantsi kweemeko ezithile akayi kuba nako ukuthatha isinyathelo esinqumayo. Inkalipho kunye nobukhulu bomngcipheko awuyikuphela kwayo, kodwa indlela yokuphumelela. Nangona kunjalo, amathuba okuba nemiphumo efanelekileyo ayixhomekeke kuphela ekuzimeni kwethu ukuthatha ingozi. Okubaluleke kakhulu kukukhuthaza, ukuzinza kunye nentlangano. Ngendlela, abagijimi bangempela, abanqamlekanga abayilibala le nto. Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokubeka iithagethi ezinqabileyo okanye uzivelele kwiimeko ezinzima, mamela ilizwi lokuqiqa. Yaye ungayihoyi intuition yakho. Emva koko, akukho nto ngaphandle kwendawo yokugcina engenalo ulwazi lwethu nolwazi olunzulu.