Konke oku kunye ngokuqhelekileyo kuhlaziywa ngokunyanzeliswa ngokwesondo. Kwaye amadoda athambekele ngokupheleleyo ekukhatyeleni, kufuneka nje abone ukuba isondo sele silahlekile.
Abafazi basoloko bethetha kwiimeko ezinjalo ukuba baye balahlekelwa yinto enobungakanani kwibudlelwane. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba oku kukuphela komtshato kunye nomtshato, emva koko, akunakukwazi ukubuyisela ubudlelwane. Enyanisweni, musa ukwesaba kwaye wenze ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza. Kanye njengoko akufanele uwuhoye le ngxaki. Ukuba ucinga malunga nento oyenzayo, xa intshayelelo ebubudlelwaneni iphela, kufuneka uqonde imibuzo ebalulekileyo.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ukupholisa omnye nomnye kwisi sibini kudla ngokuhamba kunye nokukhwabanisa ngokwesondo okanye ukunyaniseka. Ukubeka nje, uyeka ukufunana, kwaye isondo soxilongo luqala ukudibaniswa nomsebenzi onzima okanye umsebenzi onzima. Ukungaziqondi kakuhle kwezitshatileyo kule meko ngumnqweno wokunciphisa ubomi bezesondo ngokusebenzisa izilingo ebhedini. Okubi nakakhulu, ukuba umntu udibanisa nale mizamo - umthandi okanye inkosikazi.
Isisombululo esilungileyo nesisetyenziswayo kwimeko apho ulwalamano olusenyongweni lulahlekile, ngokuqhelekileyo luphikisana nomqondo oqhelekileyo. Iqulethwe kwinyaniso yokuba ukukrazula le ngxaki yokupholisa ngesondo, kufuneka siphume. Kubalulekile ukuba ungasebenzisi iindlela ezintsha zesini kunye neqabane elikrakrayo, kodwa ukufuna nokusombulula iingxaki zesimo esiphezulu: emoyeni, ngokomoya, kwengqondo, ngokuziphatha okanye iingxaki ezinxulumene nazo zonke iintlobo zeengxabano.
Ezi ngxaki zinjengomthetho, ngokwazo. Baziqhayisa njengeengxabano eziqhelekileyo malunga nodoti olungenakunokuthi okanye umbhede ongaphazamanga. Kodwa ngokwenene azinqabile ngokufanayo kwiintsapho ezahlukeneyo.
Ukucaphukisa, okuvame ukuba yimbangela yokunyamezela emtshatweni, kunokubangelwa kwiimeko ezininzi. Ngethuba lethu, indima yabasetyhini kuluntu iya kuba yimbangela yale ngxaki. Ukuba umfazi ngokukhawuleza ufumana isikhundla esiphezulu kunomntu, kumenza ambonise igunya lakhe nasekhaya. Amadoda ngokubanzi acinezelekile ekusebenziseni ukunyanzelisa kwaye asebenze kakubi kubo. Kwaye ukuba umntu unqwenela ukunqanda ukuxabana, ukungquzulana kunye nokuxhatshazwa kobudlelwane, uxinzelela ngaphakathi kuloo nkohlakalo, okuba sisizathu sokupholisa umfazi wakhe. Esikhundleni sokukhupha umsindo, umyeni uqala ukuphepha ukudibana nomfazi wakhe. Kukho iingxaki xa umfazi ezama ukunyenga umyeni wakhe, kwaye ufumana ukungavumi. Le yimeko ephazamisayo kwaye engathandekiyo ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane kwintsapho. Ngoko ukuba ucinga malunga nento omele uyenze, xa ulwalamano olusenyongweni luphela, okokuqala, cinga ngendima yomfazi kwintsapho. Akufanele iholele kungakhathaliseki izinto eziphathekayo. Kwaye ukuba umfazi engasetyenziselwa ukukhokelwa, kufuneka aqikelele ngokubelana ngemida yempembelelo kunye nokuba yienkokheli ekuxazululeni imiba eyahlukeneyo engapheliyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukulahlekelwa kwamandla ngendoda kwintsapho kukhokelela ekuphuhliseni umzabalazo ofihliweyo wamandla. Ingathatha iifomu ezicacileyo, kodwa ihlala ihamba ngendlela yokubhikisha okanye ihoxise izicelo kunye nezimvo zomkakhe. Oku kunciphisa isiseko sobuntu bolwalamano kwaye kukhokelela ekunciphiseni kobudlelwane obusondelene.
Ezi ngxaki ngokusasazeka kweendima kwintsapho zibonakala zizinzulu. Enyanisweni, kwinqanaba lomqondo oqhelekileyo, nawuphi na umfazi uyakwazi ukutshintsha indlela yakhe yokuziphatha kwi-short and feminine. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuphela oku kungabangela ukunyuka kobudlelwane kunye nokuphakama okutsha, kuvuselele ukuziphatha kwaye kuvuselele "entsha".
Kukho izizathu ezinzulu zokupholisa umoya. Ezi zibandakanya, umzekelo, iingxabano ezingaphendulwanga kunye nabazali bomnye wabatshatileyo. Kubudlelwane bomtshato, imimiselo yeentsapho zabazali bobabini ngokubanzi ibamba indima ebalulekileyo. Ukuba indoda okanye umfazi unengxabano engaphelelanga kunye nonina okanye uyise, unokutshintshela kumlingane kwaye uphukise ama-scandals apho iqabane lingekho. Udibene kuphela nomzali onobungozi, kwaye akukho ziingxaki zangempela. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ibhinqa likhulile kwintsapho yendoda engathembekanga, ingaba nomona omkhulu, ingabalulekanga umyeni wayo. Kwaye ukuba indoda ingathandeki ekungcatshiseni, iyakumcasula kwaye ibangele inkqubela ecacileyo okanye efihliweyo yentsapho.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunjani, kuzo zonke iimeko, xa ulwalamano olusenyongweni luphela, okokuqala kubalulekile ukubheka izizathu ezicacileyo, kwaye ngokufihla zifihliwe, ukuxabana kweentsapho. Ukusebenza nale ngxabano yinto enqabileyo yinto enqabileyo, ukuba ufuna ukugcina intsapho.