Enyanisweni, ubomi obudibeneyo abuhlali kulowo mthando omnye, olu lwalamano lufana nokuyila kwimihla ngemihla, apho umgangatho omnye ugcinwa ngeendleko zenye. Olu lwakhiwo lufana neenkqubo eziyinkimbinkimbi, kunokuba isipho sesiphumo. Nangona iimpawu zothando kakhulu zifanele zibale izinto ezinjalo ezinokungaxhatshazi njengokuzinza kwemali, ukwahlula kwamandla kwintsapho. Ulawulo luba yinto eyayiyinto engafaniyo.
Ulwalamano olukhululekile kwibini lenye yeendlela zokubambisana zobomi, apho ukuziphatha kwamahhala kubini okanye omnye umlingani kubonisa. Kukho iintlobo ezimbini zobudlelwane be-mahala - ezi zibonwa ngokungahambelani kunye nomnqweno wenkululeko yenye yeqabane. Ngokuqhelekileyo le ndlela yokuziphatha ibanjwe ngabantu.
Abasetyhini, baninzi banomndeni oqhelekileyo, abantwana, umyeni othembekileyo, oko kukuthi, umzekelo wamacandelo olwalamano lwentsapho. Kulo mzekelo, imfuneko yokunyuka kwamagxa, ifuna ukuqonda ukuba ngamaxesha anzima baya kuhlangula. Kubantu beli qonga lehlabathi ukuba imbono yobudlelwane obukhululekile ayithandi kakhulu. Bakholelwa ukuba ulwalamano olukhululekile lubalekela kwiimbopheleleko kwaye akusikho inqaba esithandweni. Kuninzi kubo, ukufudumala kweentsapho, ukuvakalelwa kwokhuseleko kunye nokuzithemba kwimicimbi ezayo. Kule meko, umfazi ofuna "ukufundisa kwakhona" umntu onjalo, ukunyaniseka, akunakwenzeka.
Olunye ukhetho, umntu osebenzisa ukuthembela kuye ngokwakhe, kuba bonke abantu bayatshintshana, uyabuxabisa kakhulu ithuba lokuvuselela ubomi bakhe ngemizuzu. Aba ngabaxhasayo bobudlelwane be mahala. Laba ngabantu, ngenxa yomgaqo-siseko wendalo okhethekileyo, abakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle komnye kunye kwaye akunandaba nokuba uyindoda okanye umfazi. Isidingo esisoloko sinobuchule, i-adventurism, i-adrenaline ijonga egazini labo. Olu luhlobo lwezinto zokuzalwa zesithembu, abakunzima nale nto, ngoko ke abagwebi. Kubantu abanjalo, uthando luyimbopheleleko yokomoya (njengoko bayithiwa) kunye nabalingani basemva nje banelisekile ngesimo semvelo. Ngobudlelwane obukhululekile, umona kunye nombono wobunini ziingcamango ezidliwayo.
Inkululeko ngobudlelwane - njengendlela efanelekileyo yobudlelwane beentsapho, ukulungisa isigqibo ngasinye. Ukuba udibene, kodwa ukuzithela ngokwakho, yakha iimbono zakho uze udibanise i-psyche yakho ayifanelekanga, akukho nto intle ifumaneka kwenye yezinto ngaphakathi kwayo kwaye ayiphume kuyo.
Enyanisweni, ngexesha lethu, umntu ngamnye wesibini ukwesaba ubudlelwane obunzulu. Emva kwakho konke, akusiyo wonke umntu ofuna ukuqonda ukuba ubudlelwane buyinto yokuzibophezela kunye noxanduva oluthile lokulungelelanisa kunye nokwazi okhethekileyo ukungaqapheli iimpazamo zomnye. Ukuba into ayisebenzanga ebomini, abafazi bajwayele ukugxeka amadoda ngenxa yalokhu, kwaye amadoda akholelwa ukuba ingxaki yemihla ngemihla ihlala kubafazi. Ewe, kukho, zombini zilungile. Kodwa kudla ngokwaneleyo ukuziva sizivuyisa kakhulu ukwesaba kwethu kunye neengxaki eziphazamisayo.
Emva koko, ubudlelwane bokudala buyakhelwe kuphela ekuthembeleni, ngokunyaniseka nangokuvuleka. Ukuthetha nokuphulaphula ingxaki kuthetha ukuthabatha amanyathelo okuqala ukulungisa isisombululo, ngoko kubalulekile ukuthetha omnye nomnye, kungekhona ukuhlala uqikelele into engqondweni yakhe.