I-Naivety ibonakaliswe kwinto yokuba ukholelwa kwindlela efanelekileyo yokwakhiwa kwehlabathi naphezu kwengqiqo, kodwa kwenye indawo kwindawo ede kakhulu yomphefumlo osikrokrelayo ukuba ngokwenene konke akunjalo. Kodwa ke, yintoni le miqondiso yokwehliswa kunye nendlela yokwenza izinto ezincinci kunye nabafana - kwaye kuyafaneleka ukuba kube njalo? Mhlawumbi, umfanekiso wesinyithi kunye namanga angenakonakalayo uya kubuyela kuwe?
Kubantu, olu hlobo lwabasetyhini luyinto enye ethandwa kakhulu. Ucinga ntoni, kutheni? Ewe kuba kulula kwaye kulula. Akayibonakalisi nengozi kumntu, kuba ngezibuko zakhe ezibomvu akaqapheli okwenzekayo phantsi kwempumlo yakhe. Kwaye akayi kucela kumntu inkcazo okanye utshintsho olubi ebomini bakhe. Uyazikholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngamazwi nangezenzo zeqabane lakhe kwaye ulinde iiyure okanye nobusuku ekuhambeni okungaqondakaliyo okanye kwiintlanganiso. Kwaye, naye uyamondla ngamabali athembekileyo malunga nokuba usebenza nzima kangakanani, kunzima kangakanani, kodwa konke kuye. Kukho ndawo kakhulu ukuba ingcuka yayiphakanyiselwe izimvu zayo. Kwaye bonke, njengomnye oya kuqiniseka ukuba ingcuka yinkonzo yabo kunye nomkhuseli! Yiyo indlela ebomini. Uyondla ngamanga, uyidumise ekudumiseni kwakhe kwaye ahlambe ngothando nangothando.
Masiqaphele ukuba kutheni kungalunganga ukuba sibe neengxaki. Kungenzeka ukuba uqale ubuncinane kunye nenyaniso yokuba i-naivete ayisoloko isichazela inkolelo kwimigangatho ephakamileyo. Ukubonakaliswa kwayo kukukholelwa othandweni phambi kwengcwaba, ngokunyaniseka nokuthembeka kwehlabathi lethu. Le ndlela ihamba yedwa kusihlwa epakini, emaphethelweni esi sixeko, ingabi nezobugcisa bokulwa.
I-Naivety yinkolelo yokuba xa unikezela konke onokukwenza kwiqabane lakho elikusebenzisayo kwaye lixoki kuwe, uya kufumana okuthile kuye. I-Naivety ibonakaliswe kukuba ukuba uqalise umtshato nomntu otshatileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuqhawula ngenxa yakho, ngenxa yokuba uyakuthanda, kwaye wenza konke okwenziwe ngumfazi. Ewe, kwaye ungcono kwaye uncinci kunako. Kwaye, ngaphezu koko, yena ngokwakhe uxelela ngale nto, unyaka sele ukhona, kodwa umfazi-mfazi akayi kumnika umtshato. Kuyinto engafanelekanga ukucinga ukuba umntu ongenakuthandana uya kutshata aze amthandane emva kokuba ukhulelwe. Oku kutshabalala nje ukuhlupheka, kwaye umntwana ongenayo uyise uya kukhula, oko kukubonakalisa ukungabikho nje kuphela, kodwa no-egoism. Kububudenge kwaye kungenangqondo ukuxhomekeka ukuba xa usele utshatile umntu, unokuhamba ngeenxa zonke kwindlu engcolileyo ingubo, kunye neenwele eziphazamisekileyo kunye nemilenze engenakukhutshwa. Kufuneka ukwazi ukukhuphela kuphela umntu, kodwa nokugcina, oko kunzima kakhulu. Kwaye kule fomu akunakwenzeka ukuba oku kuya kwenziwa.
I-nevety akufanele ibe yindlela ye-idiocy. Xa senziwe ngokusemthethweni durra, kwaye sonke siyabhala ngokubunzima, ubunzima obunzima kunye nobudlelwane obunzima nabazali bakhe. Sihlala ebusuku sijwili kwaye sizithuthuma ngemibuzo enjengale "Ndingayikholelwa njani na?", "Sisiphi isihlwili", "Hayi, akakwazi ukwenza oku kum", njl njl. Kwaye ngoko kusasa simbiza, sigijime, siya kuye ukuxolisa, cela uxolo kulokho akwenzele kuwe! Emva kwexesha, yonke into iyaphinda. Uphinde uphendule izikhalazo kunye nesiqingatha-ntliziyo, intlungu ebuhlungu kuwe. Unyathela ngokwakho kwaye ... kwakhona kwakhona.
Kodwa kukho abantu abafana namantombazana angenangqondo nje kuphela ngenxa yokuba banokulawulwa lula, kodwa ngenxa yokuba banokuziva bebekhuseli beentombi zabo. Ngaloo ndlela, bayaziqonda iimfuno zabo zezilwanyana zasendle.
Nazi izimbalwa ezimbalwa ezibalulekileyo kwi "Imiqondiso ye-naivete kunye nendlela yokwenza izinto ezincinci kunye nabafana", kodwa ngaphambi kokufaka zonke iingcebiso kwiinyani, kuyafaneleka ukucinga ngako: kodwa ngaba unayo indlela enhle yokudlala i-naivete enhle?
Emva kwakho konke, kuyimfuneko ukuba ungabi nongqondo ngaphandle kokwenene, kodwa ukuzonwabisa. Emva koko kubonakala kuhle kwaye kwendalo. Musa ukukhathaza nabani na, ingakumbi iqabane lakho. Ndikuncede ebomini, kodwa akuyi kuphazamisa. Vumela intanda yakho iqonde ukuba unamandla, unobulumko kwaye unamava kunoko. Kodwa oku kufuneka kwenziwe ngokuhlakanipha. Le ndlela izomeleza ulwalamano lwakho kuphela. Uyayazi yonke into kwaye uyayibona yonke into, kodwa yenza sengathi uhlala ungazi kwaye awuqondi nto. Kufuneka ufunde ukuba awukwazi ukuthemba omnye umntu ekupheleni, kwaye umcebisi wakho ongcono kakhulu ngumama wakho. Yaye yonke into ekhoyo kweli hlabathi iyakwenzeka, zombini ummangaliso kunye neentlekele. Ngelishwa, ubudlelwane obuhle kunye namadoda abakho.