Akunakwenzeka ukuba nokuba kuthi, xa singena emtshatweni, sicinga ngekhefu. Imithendeleko enesidima, izalamane ezonwabileyo, injabulo ... Kodwa into edidekileyo kukuba imitshato emihlanu inokuhlukanisa ezintathu. Umtshato - oku kukuxininisa kunamandla, iinkundla, iinkohlakalo, abantwana abangonwabileyo. Ngaba ndinokuyinqanda imeko yam emva kokuba konke kwenzeka? Indlela yokufumana ubomi obutsha emva komtshato? Ukuba ufuna uncedo, landela iingcebiso zethu malunga nendlela yokujamelana nale meko nzima.
Ngokukhawuleza emva kokuqhawula umtshato.
Ubunzulu bokulimala emva kokuqhawula umtshato kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi. Okokuqala, ixesha elide uhlala ngayo emtshatweni. Kunzima ukuhlukana nomyeni oneminyaka engaphezu kweyishumi ehlala kuyo, kungakhathaliseki ubunzulu beemvakalelo kunye nohlobo lolwalamano. Ndikholelwe: nangona wayenxilaba, ekhohlakeleyo okanye evelele, awuyi kuba lula ngaphandle kwakhe okokuqala. Oku kuyindlela yokuphendula engathandekiyo, igama elisisiseko "umkhuba". Okwesibini, lowo owaqalisa umtshato uya kubalulekile. Ukuba ukhona - yonke into ilula lula. Kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba unokuphephezela uxinzelelo, ulahlekile. Okwesithathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uhlala phi ngaphambi kokuba uqhawule umtshato, nokuba utshatile ngothando, ubuninzi kangakanani, ukuba izihlobo zakho zaxoxisana njani.
Ngokukhawuleza emva kokuqhawula umtshato kwintloko yam yonke into ididekile. Akukho zicwangciso zexesha elide elizayo. Uphazamiseka kukuba unesizungu , uvelwano, umsindo, ukuphelelwa yithemba okanye ukwesaba (kuxhomekeke kwimeko). Kodwa into ephambili kukuba awuqinisekanga ngomso. Yonke into yaba yinto engacacanga, engacacileyo, engaqinisekanga. Ubomi obunokuhlala. Makungabikho ngaso sonke isikhathi lowo uphuphayo ngaye, kodwa wayesazi kwaye uyaqikelela. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza kwahluka. Kwaye akukho nto ongayenza ngayo. Okanye unako?
Into ephambili okumele uyikhumbule: imeko yakho iyinto eqhelekileyo! Awugugu, awuyikusilela kwaye unecala. Kwenzeka nje. Zithobe. Yamkele oku njengento kwaye ulungele ubomi obusemva. Kuya kuthatha ixesha lokuphilisa amanxeba kwaye uqalise ubomi obutsha emva komtshato. Kuqhelekile ukuba uhlala ixesha elide uya kulila ukulahleka kobudlelwane bakho. Unokuziva unzima kakhulu, kodwa khumbula, kukho ubomi emva kokuqhawula umtshato, kwaye amawaka abantu azuze ngempumelelo kwaye aqhubeke nokwakha ubudlelwane kunzima kunokuba bebenjalo ngaphambili. Abantu "baphucula" ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo, ngokukhawuleza, kwezinye ixesha ixesha elide. Lo mntu ngokwakhe - indlela yokufumana ubomi obutsha emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Kodwa, ngomgudu othile, wonke umntu unokuhlangabezana nale nto. Ndikholelwe: umtshato awuyikuphela. Le yindlela yokuqala yobomi obutsha. Yeka indlela engaqhelekanga ngayo.
Kwinyanga enye emva komtshato.
Unokuziva njani.
Khumbula ukuba inyanga yokuqala uya kuziva ukhuselekileyo ngokomzwelo, mhlawumbi "udibanise" kunye nokuphazamiseka. Uninzi lwezengqondo ziqhathanisa imeko yangoku kunye ne-coaster coaster. U no kuziva:
- Ukuthukuthela kunye nentukuthelo, njengoko amaphupha kunye nethemba lekamva elihle liye laphela.
- Ukuthotyelwa kunye neentloni, ukuba ucinga ukuba umtshato wakho kwaye ungaqhawuli umtshato ude. Awukwazi ukwabelana nabanye ngeemvakalelo zakho.
- Ukukhanyela ukuba ubuhlobo buphelile. Awukwazi ukucinga ubomi ngaphandle komlingane wakho kwaye uzive ulahlekelwe ngokupheleleyo.
- Uziva unetyala. Ucinga ukuba le galeko yinto ephosakeleyo yakho, nokuba ayikho.
Umbono wengcali:
"Ungakhathazeki. Zonke ezi zinto zihluke ngokupheleleyo. Ulwalamano luye lwahlula, kwaye oku kuhlale kulahleka. Unokuziva ulahlekelwe kakhulu, utyhafe ngokupheleleyo, uzive unzima kwaye unetyala kwizinto ezenzekile. Amaninzi emibuzo ephendukile entloko yakho. Okanye unako ukuzaliswa ngumsindo kumlingane wakho uze umsole ngenxa yokuba intsapho iyonakalisiwe. Uya kutshatyalaliswa ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama, ngoko ungazifuni ngokwakho ngeli xesha. "
Yintoni oyenzayo.
- Kufuneka sifumane inkxaso kule nqanaba. Kubalulekile ukuba umntu osondele kufuphi nawe - umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho. Oku kuya kunceda ukugcina iingxaki zakho.
- Musa ukuzigxeka. Inyaniso yokuba ulwalamano lwakho luyekile luthethi ukuba ungeyiphutha okanye ukuba yayiyiphutha lakho.
- Zama ukungakhathazeki ukuba kukho inqwaba yelineni ehlambulukileyo engahlambulukanga endlwini okanye cha. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka uzinike ixesha elikuphela kwakho.
Kwiinyanga ezimbini emva komtshato.
Unokuziva njani.
- Iimvakalelo zakho ziya kusasa. Usenokuba uqalile ukuqonda izinto eziphathekayo zeengcambu zakho, ezifana nokunyamekela abantwana kunye nomthwalo womsebenzi, umzekelo. Kodwa ababonisi indlela oziva ngayo.
- Ukuthembela kwakho nakwabanye kungancipha ngokukhawuleza, kwaye unokuziva uzixinezelekile.
- Unokuziva uloyiko lokuba awusoze wakwazi ukumthemba umntu kwakhona.
- Uziva uchithekile. Konke oku kuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunempembelelo embi kwimeko yempilo yakho yengqondo kunye nengqondo.
Umbono wo bungcali.
"Gcina imeko ingatshintshi, ubuncinane ngethuba lokuqala. Ngoko uhlala wazi apho ukhona. Lo akusiyo umzuzu omhle wokwenza izigqibo ezinzulu-ezifana nokuhamba okanye ukuguqula imisebenzi - nokuba uvakalelwa kukuba esi sisisombululo esihle. Emva kwezinto ezithile oye wazijwayele, unokukwazi ukuhamba ngamaxesha amaninzi. Ubuhlungu buhlala ngaphakathi kuwe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uya kuphi. Zinike ixesha lokufumana amandla ngaphambi kokwenza izigqibo ezinzulu. "
Yintoni oyenzayo.
- Ukujongana nomsindo. Ukuba 'usadla' kufuneka uyimise ngoku. Intukuthelo idla ngokufihla into oyiva ngayo. Uloyiko kwaye uyabuhlungu. Ukuba uvumelekile ukuhamba nomsindo wakho - ungaqala ukuhamba.
- Thetha ngayo. Zama ukubona oko uvakalelwa ngabahlobo nezihlobo.
- Gwema iimvakalelo zetyala. Ungazifumani uphando: yiyiphi into engafanelekanga? Kutheni? Njani? Yintoni endiyenzayo? Uya kuba yinkxwabo nje ebuhlungu bakho nangentlungu.
- Khangela oko kwenzeka ngokwenene. Kuya kuba buhlungu, kodwa zama ukubhala phantsi iingcamango zakho uze uxubushe nomntu onokumthemba. Inceda ngokwenene ukuqhubela phambili.
Kwiinyanga ezintathu emva komtshato.
Unokuziva njani.
- Awunakho ukuzithemba okwaneleyo. Ukwahlukana kunokunyanzela ukuzithemba kwakho.
- Unenkxalabo ngekamva lakho kunye nemali enkulu yezinto omele uyenze.
- Uyakuvakalelwa ngakumbi "kwinqanaba," uze ukhululeke ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho.
Umbono wo bungcali.
"Into ebaluleke kakhulu okwangoku kukunika ingqwalasela kubantwana. Abantwana bakho, ukuba unayo, kubaluleke kakhulu "isikhubekiso" ngokuqhawula umtshato. Kumele basinde kule drama, kwaye oku kunokuba yinto enzima kakhulu kubo.
Into ephambili kukuba ekunxibelelana nabantwana wena kunye nomyeni wakho wangaphambili unye. Uya kufuneka uxoxe ngale nto ngaphambili kwaye wenze isigqibo malunga noko uza kuxelela abantwana. Musa ukusola omnye phambili phambi kwabantwana! Chaza ukuba umama nobaba abakwazi ukuhlala kunye kunye, kodwa ukuba bobabini babathanda kakhulu kwaye bafuna ukuba nabo ngexesha lokuqala. "
Yintoni oyenzayo.
- Zihlolisise. Unokungena kwiinkathazo zokulala, njengoko iingcamango nemibuzo iphinda iphinde iphinde iphindwe kwakhona engqondweni yakho. Zama ukukuphepha. Yidla ngokufanelekileyo. Musa ukuvumela isimo sakho sengqondo sichaphazele impilo yakho yonke. Thatha i-multivitamins imihla ngemihla kwaye ulale ngokubanzi njengoko ufuna.
- Ukuxhatshazwa kancinci kunokunceda ixesha elithile xa uvakalelwa kakhulu. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu xa isetyenziselwa ukudibanisa neyeza.
- Beka izinto eziphambili. Mhlawumbi uza kuziva ukuba ulungele ngoku, ubuncinane, ukusombulula iingxaki ezibonakalayo. Uya kuhlala phi, indlela yokukhulisa abantwana, indlela yokusombulula iingxaki zemali. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, qhagamshelana negosa elicebisa iingcebiso.
Kwiinyanga ezintandathu emva kokuqhawula umtshato.
Unokuziva njani.
- Uthobile ngokwaneleyo ukuba uqale ukuhlenga iinyani ngokusebenzisa iimvakalelo zakho.
- Unokuqala ukuziva unamandla ngakumbi ngoku, ngokwenyama nangengqondo. Awunakhathala.
- Usalusizi, kodwa intlungu ingaba yinto enzima njengoko yayisetyenziswa.
Umbono wo bungcali.
"Unyango lunceda ngokwenene. Ufuna umntu onokuthetha naye ngasese, ngoko kufuneka abe nobulumko, onolwazi, nolwazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukunxibelelana nosapho kunye nabahlobo akwanele, cela icebiso kwisazi sengqondo.
Unokuziva uzibi xa ubeka ityala lakho iqabane okanye wena, kwaye ungacingi ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ulungelelane. Okanye awufuni ukuba abantwana bakho bazi ukuba udidekile. Unokwenene ngokuqinisekileyo kwiimvakalelo zakho kunye nomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo.
Yintoni oyenzayo.
- Thatha ixesha lokuphumla - nokuba uhamba okanye uhlambe olumnandi - akunandaba. Kubalulekile ukuba uzame ukuqeda uxinzelelo, zenze uncedo lokuhlangabezana neengxaki zemihla ngemihla.
- Musa ukuzihlazisa phambi kwabantwana - xa uziva ungenalutho, banokugqiba ekubeni akukho nto ifumaneka ebomini. Ukuba nayiphi na imisebenzi ekufuneka ixazululwe yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kwaye ingenakunqunyulwa. Ukufezekisa amanyathelo amancinci oyifunayo kwaye usethe iinjongo ezincinci. Oku kuya kukunika ukuzithemba ngakumbi xa ubona ukuba uphumelele into ethile.
- Hlangana nabahlobo bakho. Awunako ukukwazi ukubonakala phambi kokuba ungavalelwanga, ukugqoba ngokukhawuleza ngaphandle kokwenza. Ngamanye amaxesha kunceda nokuba uziphoqe ukuba uphume uhlekise kunye nabahlobo bakho. Le yileyona yonyango elona lihle kakhulu.
Unyaka emva komtshato.
Unokuziva njani.
- Ukuzithemba kwakho kusele kuthatyathwe
- Mhlawumbi uqala ukuthatha isimo esitsha, kwaye abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho baya kukubona ukuba uhlaziywa, kwakhona.
- Awuthetheli ngokuphathelele umtshato wakho ngexesha lonke.
Umbono wo bungcali.
"Kuthatha ixesha kubahlobo kunye nosapho ukuze uqaphele utshintsho ebomini bakho. Ngoku baya kuqonda isimo sakho esitsha kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kufumanisa ukuba bacinga ntoni ngokuqhawula umtshato wakho. Bavakalelwa kukuba akudingeki ukuba ube kude nakwi "shell shell" yakho.
Yintoni oyenzayo.
- Cwangcisa. Ngaphambi kwexesha, bhala uluhlu lwezinto oza kuyenza ngeli suku okanye ngeveki. I-Kleite "izikhumbuzo" kwifriji, xa unganakulungele - oku kuya kunceda ukuba ungayihoxisi ishishini ebalulekileyo.
- Hlangana nabantu abatsha. Khumbula: ayikho ixesha elifanelekileyo okanye elingalunganga ukuqala ukuthandana, kwaye emva kokuqhawula umtshato akufanele kube yinto engenakwenzeka. Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungathanda ukudibana nomntu, qalisa ngokukhawuleza ukujoyina abahlobo kumaqela ahlukeneyo, iipikniksi, imithendeleko yomkhosi. Ukutshata "malunga" kungaba yindlela enhle yokudibana nomntu.
- Hambisa phambili. Uya kudibana nabanye abantu endleleni yakho, oye wangena ekutshatyalaliswa, kwaye uya kufumana uncedo ngolu hlobo lweengcebiso ezixabisekileyo. Kubalulekile ukujamelana nemvakalelo yakho kwaye ufumene ukuba kutheni ulwalamano lwakho selufikile kunye nendlela yokuphepha ngayo.
Emva kweminyaka emibini emva komtshato.
Unokuziva njani.
- Uvume ukuba ubudlelwane buphelile kwaye ulungile.
- Ukuthembela kwakho kuwe nakwabanye kukhula kwakhona.
- Unokulungela ubuhlobo obutsha.
- Awusayi kujonga imeko ngethuba lomsindo, unokwenza izigqibo ezicacileyo.
Umbono wo bungcali.
"Musa ukukhawuleza ukwakha ubudlelwane obutsha ukuba ungaziva ulungele. Abahlobo abathandayo abanokuzama ukukwazisa abantu, ngokwamvo zabo, ezifanelekileyo kakhulu kuwe. Kodwa awukwazi ukukwazi ukufikelela kwiindawo eziphezulu kunye nokuhla kwakhona ekwakheni ubudlelwane obutsha. Ndikholelwe: oku kuqhelekileyo.
Nguwe kuphela oya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba nini kunye kunye nobani. Ukongezelela, unokudibana nomntu nje ngengozi, efanelekileyo. Uya kukwazi xa uza kuba ulungele ulwalamano olunzulu kwakhona, kodwa oku akufanele kube sexesha elide kakhulu. Ubudlelwane akufuneki ukuba bufezeke ebomini. "
Yintoni oyenzayo.
- Ixesha lezisombululo ezinzulu. Ukuba usaphila ukuhamba okanye ufumane umsebenzi omtsha-kutheni ungahambi kuwo?
- Thatha ngokungathinteli ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uya kuziva ucinezelekile. Ewe, iminyaka emibini emva kokuqhawula umtshato, kufuneka ulungile, kodwa kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba unokusebenza kakubi. Unokugijima kwisithuba sakho sokuqala esiza kukubetha kwi-rut, umzekelo. Vumani nje ukuba kwakunjalo, kwaye uhlala ngoku.
- Ziqhayisa. Khumbula: usabathandwa. Abantwana bakho, abazali bakho nabahlobo. Ucinga kakhulu, wakhala kakhulu kwaye wafunda ezininzi ngawe ngenxa yale nto. Ngoko vumela utyhuke kwaye uhlaziswe. Yiba "phezulu" - uyifanele!