Indlela yokufumana ubomi obutsha emva komtshato


Akunakwenzeka ukuba nokuba kuthi, xa singena emtshatweni, sicinga ngekhefu. Imithendeleko enesidima, izalamane ezonwabileyo, injabulo ... Kodwa into edidekileyo kukuba imitshato emihlanu inokuhlukanisa ezintathu. Umtshato - oku kukuxininisa kunamandla, iinkundla, iinkohlakalo, abantwana abangonwabileyo. Ngaba ndinokuyinqanda imeko yam emva kokuba konke kwenzeka? Indlela yokufumana ubomi obutsha emva komtshato? Ukuba ufuna uncedo, landela iingcebiso zethu malunga nendlela yokujamelana nale meko nzima.

Ngokukhawuleza emva kokuqhawula umtshato.

Ubunzulu bokulimala emva kokuqhawula umtshato kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi. Okokuqala, ixesha elide uhlala ngayo emtshatweni. Kunzima ukuhlukana nomyeni oneminyaka engaphezu kweyishumi ehlala kuyo, kungakhathaliseki ubunzulu beemvakalelo kunye nohlobo lolwalamano. Ndikholelwe: nangona wayenxilaba, ekhohlakeleyo okanye evelele, awuyi kuba lula ngaphandle kwakhe okokuqala. Oku kuyindlela yokuphendula engathandekiyo, igama elisisiseko "umkhuba". Okwesibini, lowo owaqalisa umtshato uya kubalulekile. Ukuba ukhona - yonke into ilula lula. Kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba unokuphephezela uxinzelelo, ulahlekile. Okwesithathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uhlala phi ngaphambi kokuba uqhawule umtshato, nokuba utshatile ngothando, ubuninzi kangakanani, ukuba izihlobo zakho zaxoxisana njani.

Ngokukhawuleza emva kokuqhawula umtshato kwintloko yam yonke into ididekile. Akukho zicwangciso zexesha elide elizayo. Uphazamiseka kukuba unesizungu , uvelwano, umsindo, ukuphelelwa yithemba okanye ukwesaba (kuxhomekeke kwimeko). Kodwa into ephambili kukuba awuqinisekanga ngomso. Yonke into yaba yinto engacacanga, engacacileyo, engaqinisekanga. Ubomi obunokuhlala. Makungabikho ngaso sonke isikhathi lowo uphuphayo ngaye, kodwa wayesazi kwaye uyaqikelela. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza kwahluka. Kwaye akukho nto ongayenza ngayo. Okanye unako?

Into ephambili okumele uyikhumbule: imeko yakho iyinto eqhelekileyo! Awugugu, awuyikusilela kwaye unecala. Kwenzeka nje. Zithobe. Yamkele oku njengento kwaye ulungele ubomi obusemva. Kuya kuthatha ixesha lokuphilisa amanxeba kwaye uqalise ubomi obutsha emva komtshato. Kuqhelekile ukuba uhlala ixesha elide uya kulila ukulahleka kobudlelwane bakho. Unokuziva unzima kakhulu, kodwa khumbula, kukho ubomi emva kokuqhawula umtshato, kwaye amawaka abantu azuze ngempumelelo kwaye aqhubeke nokwakha ubudlelwane kunzima kunokuba bebenjalo ngaphambili. Abantu "baphucula" ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo, ngokukhawuleza, kwezinye ixesha ixesha elide. Lo mntu ngokwakhe - indlela yokufumana ubomi obutsha emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Kodwa, ngomgudu othile, wonke umntu unokuhlangabezana nale nto. Ndikholelwe: umtshato awuyikuphela. Le yindlela yokuqala yobomi obutsha. Yeka indlela engaqhelekanga ngayo.

Kwinyanga enye emva komtshato.

Unokuziva njani.

Khumbula ukuba inyanga yokuqala uya kuziva ukhuselekileyo ngokomzwelo, mhlawumbi "udibanise" kunye nokuphazamiseka. Uninzi lwezengqondo ziqhathanisa imeko yangoku kunye ne-coaster coaster. U no kuziva:

Umbono wengcali:

"Ungakhathazeki. Zonke ezi zinto zihluke ngokupheleleyo. Ulwalamano luye lwahlula, kwaye oku kuhlale kulahleka. Unokuziva ulahlekelwe kakhulu, utyhafe ngokupheleleyo, uzive unzima kwaye unetyala kwizinto ezenzekile. Amaninzi emibuzo ephendukile entloko yakho. Okanye unako ukuzaliswa ngumsindo kumlingane wakho uze umsole ngenxa yokuba intsapho iyonakalisiwe. Uya kutshatyalaliswa ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama, ngoko ungazifuni ngokwakho ngeli xesha. "

Yintoni oyenzayo.

Kwiinyanga ezimbini emva komtshato.

Unokuziva njani.

Umbono wo bungcali.

"Gcina imeko ingatshintshi, ubuncinane ngethuba lokuqala. Ngoko uhlala wazi apho ukhona. Lo akusiyo umzuzu omhle wokwenza izigqibo ezinzulu-ezifana nokuhamba okanye ukuguqula imisebenzi - nokuba uvakalelwa kukuba esi sisisombululo esihle. Emva kwezinto ezithile oye wazijwayele, unokukwazi ukuhamba ngamaxesha amaninzi. Ubuhlungu buhlala ngaphakathi kuwe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uya kuphi. Zinike ixesha lokufumana amandla ngaphambi kokwenza izigqibo ezinzulu. "

Yintoni oyenzayo.

Kwiinyanga ezintathu emva komtshato.

Unokuziva njani.

Umbono wo bungcali.

"Into ebaluleke kakhulu okwangoku kukunika ingqwalasela kubantwana. Abantwana bakho, ukuba unayo, kubaluleke kakhulu "isikhubekiso" ngokuqhawula umtshato. Kumele basinde kule drama, kwaye oku kunokuba yinto enzima kakhulu kubo.

Into ephambili kukuba ekunxibelelana nabantwana wena kunye nomyeni wakho wangaphambili unye. Uya kufuneka uxoxe ngale nto ngaphambili kwaye wenze isigqibo malunga noko uza kuxelela abantwana. Musa ukusola omnye phambili phambi kwabantwana! Chaza ukuba umama nobaba abakwazi ukuhlala kunye kunye, kodwa ukuba bobabini babathanda kakhulu kwaye bafuna ukuba nabo ngexesha lokuqala. "

Yintoni oyenzayo.

Kwiinyanga ezintandathu emva kokuqhawula umtshato.

Unokuziva njani.

Umbono wo bungcali.

"Unyango lunceda ngokwenene. Ufuna umntu onokuthetha naye ngasese, ngoko kufuneka abe nobulumko, onolwazi, nolwazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukunxibelelana nosapho kunye nabahlobo akwanele, cela icebiso kwisazi sengqondo.

Unokuziva uzibi xa ubeka ityala lakho iqabane okanye wena, kwaye ungacingi ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ulungelelane. Okanye awufuni ukuba abantwana bakho bazi ukuba udidekile. Unokwenene ngokuqinisekileyo kwiimvakalelo zakho kunye nomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo.

Yintoni oyenzayo.

Unyaka emva komtshato.

Unokuziva njani.

Umbono wo bungcali.

"Kuthatha ixesha kubahlobo kunye nosapho ukuze uqaphele utshintsho ebomini bakho. Ngoku baya kuqonda isimo sakho esitsha kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kufumanisa ukuba bacinga ntoni ngokuqhawula umtshato wakho. Bavakalelwa kukuba akudingeki ukuba ube kude nakwi "shell shell" yakho.

Yintoni oyenzayo.

Emva kweminyaka emibini emva komtshato.

Unokuziva njani.

Umbono wo bungcali.

"Musa ukukhawuleza ukwakha ubudlelwane obutsha ukuba ungaziva ulungele. Abahlobo abathandayo abanokuzama ukukwazisa abantu, ngokwamvo zabo, ezifanelekileyo kakhulu kuwe. Kodwa awukwazi ukukwazi ukufikelela kwiindawo eziphezulu kunye nokuhla kwakhona ekwakheni ubudlelwane obutsha. Ndikholelwe: oku kuqhelekileyo.

Nguwe kuphela oya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba nini kunye kunye nobani. Ukongezelela, unokudibana nomntu nje ngengozi, efanelekileyo. Uya kukwazi xa uza kuba ulungele ulwalamano olunzulu kwakhona, kodwa oku akufanele kube sexesha elide kakhulu. Ubudlelwane akufuneki ukuba bufezeke ebomini. "

Yintoni oyenzayo.