Bobabini enu kulindelekileyo ubomi bentsapho obonwabileyo.
Kwixesha elidlulileyo, kwakukho ixesha elonwabileyo, iingxaki ezidibeneyo, ukuzalwa kwabantwana bakho. Bekunye kunye nosizi novuyo. Unabanye abantu abasondeleyo nabathandwa kakhulu. Ngamanye nomnye babenemigxala kunye nenkxaso, babehlala beyazi ukuba umntu onothando nothando wayekulindele ekhaya.
Kodwa, namhlanje yonke into iyahluke, umtshato wakho uphatyalaliswe. Yisiphi isizathu sokuqhawula umtshato - ukutshatyalaliswa komntu othandekayo, ukungcatsha okanye ukuvalelwa - akubalulekanga. Ngoku kubalulekile ukubuyisela uxolo kwengqondo emva komtshato. Ungaqala njani ukwakha ubomi obutsha? Sinokujonga njani kwikamva ngokuzithemba?
Ziziphi iimvakalelo neemvakalelo ozifumanayo emva komtshato? Ngaba ulahlekelwe ukuzinza kwakho? Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngoku awufuni ukubona okanye ukuva umntu. Uninzi ufuna ukushiywa yedwa kunye neengcamango zakho. Ukugxotha kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye nje ube lusizi uze ukhale ngento engayi kwenzeka ebomini bakho. Ufunga wena zonke iimpazamo ozenzileyo. Uqalekisile umfazi wakho wangaphambili ngokukhohlisa kunye nentlungu ayenze yona.
Uthembisa ukuba uya kuziphindisela; ukuba akekho omnye oya kumthemba aze angavumeli nayiphi na indoda entliziyweni yakhe. Uxolo lwakho lwengqondo emva kokuba umtshato uqeshwe.
Iimbongi zeengqondo zibulela ukuhlola, zafika kwisigqibo sokuba umntu osinda kwisiqhawulo somtshato, aphephe iinyanga ezingaphezu kweenyanga. Into yokuqala umtshato uchaphazela ngayo ukuzithemba nokuthula kwengqondo yowesifazane. Kodwa, ude ufunde ukuzithanda kwakhona uze uvuseleleke - awuyi kuphila ngokunyanisekileyo.
Buyisela uxolo kwengqondo emva kokuqhawula umtshato - ngaba kunjalo? Kubalulekile ukuqonda le ngcaciso ngokubanzi kwaye uzame ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kwengxaki.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka iqondwe kukuba imeko yakho yokudandatheka yindlela yokuphendula ngokuqhelekileyo yomntu ekuqhutyweni okunzulu kwengqondo. Ufuna ukukhala nokudabuka - okwenene, nokuba ngumntu ophilayo owaziyo ukuvakalelwa kunye namava.
Ukuze ubuyisele uxolo lwengqondo emva kokuqhawula umtshato, kufuneka ulahlekise umbane kumphefumlo. Ukuba ungumama, ngoko uThixo uye wanikezela ulonwabo olukhulu - abantwana. Khumbula ukuba akulula kubo ngoku nokuba: uyise ubashiyile, kwaye unina usondele ekulahlekelweni umnqweno wokugqibela wokuhlala. Ufuna ukuba abantwana bakho babe nolonwabo? Ngoko ke. Awunalo ilungelo lokudandatheka - uyabudinga ngoku. Nika abantwana bakho uthando nokunyamekela, intlungu yakho iya kuhamba.
Ngaba awuqinisekiswa ngesithembiso sokuba yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle? Awukwazi ukuwamkela ukuba "yonke into eyenziwe yinto engcono"? Enyanisweni, intloko yakho iyaqonda ukuba yonke into iyinyaniso. Kodwa intliziyo ibuhlungu kangangokuba ayikwazi ukuwamkela inyaniso enzima.
Abahlobo bayacetyiswa ukuba bafumane isithandwa esitsha baze baqhube kwihlabathi lothando nothando? Kodwa, ngoku useburhulumenteni ukuba nakwiibuko uloyiko ukukhangela.
Musa ukwesaba kwaye ungabi namahloni malunga neemvakalelo zakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ububukhuni babengazange babonakale kuwe. Ngaba ufuna ukukhala? Zinike eli thuba, kodwa kuphela ngelinye ilanga kwaye kungekho ebusweni babantwana.
Qonda ukuba umtshato awuyikuphela kokuphila. Uxolo lwakho lwengqondo luxhomekeke kwimvakalelo yakho.
Umsebenzi - ukugxotha iingcamango ezimbi, ukukhupha ukuxakeka kunye neenkumbulo. Phila ngoku.
Ngokukhawuleza xa usinda kwixesha lokudakumba emva kokuqhawula umtshato - uza kubuya uxolo kwengqondo, ukuphucula isimo sakho sengqondo, ufuna ukuhlala nokufuna ulonwabo.