Umcinga weGrike wamaGrike uDiogenes, ngamanye amaxesha ehamba emgodini, wayengenaso ukwesaba u lonwabo kunye nefilosofi ngenxa yolonwabo lwakhe noluntu ngokulungileyo.
Iingcali ezivela kuDiogenes, nawuphi na umfazi ohlukileyo ngaphandle kokuba ube ngowesinye isini. Ngenxa yokuba nganye ngokwemvelo inelisekile, apho ubuninzi, ubuninzi beemitha, lithuba elihle lokuba yedwa, ufilosofi, wenze into emnandi kwaye uphelelwe yintanda yakho, oye wahamba iintsuku ezimbalwa kwihambo loshishino. Enyanisweni, ukwesaba isizungu kunzima kakhulu. Ukubeka omnye okanye omnye umaski, ubunyulu buya kuguqulwa ngobuqili kwaye ngokukhawuleza kubandakanye nabasetyhini kwisenzo sawo sokuthi, ukuba, ukukhalaza, umzekelo, ngesifo somzimba okanye ubunzima obunzima, abaze bonile kwisona sonyani.
Ngubani okhetha yedwa?
Iimbangela zokhuseleko zisoloko zisencinane. Sekude kubekho iingcali ukuba ukuphuculwa kwengqondo komntwana onqatshelwe uthando kunye nokunyamekela kunokugqithiseleyo kunokontanga yakhe, kwaye umthwalo weemvakalelo ezingekho phantsi uhlala kwimemori malunga nobomi bonke kwaye uzive ukhululekile nakwiifomu ezimbi.
Ubomi benkwenkwezi enye ibonakala kwiprogram yekhompyutheni enentsholongwane, eyesizathu esinye okanye esinye safumana njengomntwana. Ekuqaleni intsholongwane ayizicaluli, ifihla ekujuleni kolwazi, kodwa ngexesha elifanelekileyo lihamba lize lizele ngokupheleleyo. Ukubandezeleka kokungaqondakali kwabanye, ukuziva ingxaki okanye ukulahlekelwa ithemba lokuhlangana nomntu othandekayo, abafazi abaziqondi izinto ezibangela ukwesaba, kodwa balwa nabo - ngokusemandleni abo. Ngokomzekelo, bazama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba ... oogogo babo babengabahlolokazi ngexesha lemfazwe, kodwa, njengoko kwaziwa, abafanga ngokulangazelela. Okanye uzame ukunqamla abanye, benethemba lokuzibeka bona. Okanye bahlakulela ukuhlambalaza emphefumlweni wabo, ngokukhawuleza baphenduka babe yi-egoists engavumiyo kunye ne-samoyedok. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, badibanisa amandla engqondo kunye nemvelo ukulwa neengxaki ezibuhlungu kwaye, bengakwazi ukuba benzani, ziquka indlela enamandla yokukhusela ngengqondo. Kodwa ingxaki ihleli, kwaye umfazi usetyenziswa ukuhlala enentlungu - ukungaqondi, ukudideka, ukungakhathaleli, kuba akaqhelekanga ukuba afake izicelo "ezinjalo" kwiingcali.
Ngexesha elide, imeko iqhutyiswa ngakumbi kwaye, kubonakala ngathi, akucaci isizathu sokuba "ixhoba" lomsulwa liqala ukuba neentloni, ziphelelwe yintlungu, ziphendukela kwintsholongwane yentsholongwane ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle kwimizi yokuya esikhathini. intsholongwane iyonakalisa indlu yayo ngaphakathi. Ukongezelela - ngaphezulu: impilo yengqondo iyabuhlungu. Iziganeko ezininzi zibonakaliswa ngenyameko, yonke into encinane ibandakanyeke kakhulu, kwaye imeko ngokwenene ikwazi ukuphela ngokudabukisayo.
Umzekelo wolu ngumfanekiso weLisa ohluphekileyo egameni elinye lomlobi uKaramzin. Intombazana yayikhula yedwa kwaye ebuntwaneni bakhe ayiboni, njengoko izazi zengqondo zithi, imizekelo yolonwabo lwentsapho. Imvakalelo yakhe, evutha ngumfanekiso oqaqambileyo ka-Erast, yayikude kakhulu kwiingxaki zangaphakathi, nokuba ingcinga yomama omdala ongazange ahlupheke yintombi enye ayizange imvimbele ekubeni enze isigqibo esibi.
Abanye besetyhini, bezama ukufihla kwedwa, bashade, baqhawule, babele abantwana, bazele iintombi zeentombi ezingenakubalwa, kunye nabo, ngokubanzi, abanalo nantoni na. Ngelinye igama, "banqabisa" ukulondeka kwizinto ezingento. Ngaba iyasebenza? Hayi, hayi. Kungenxa yokuba kwisihlwele unganokuziva uwedwa ngaphezu kwakho.
Freud iza kusincedaUSigmund Freud, uyise we-psychoanalysis, wayengeyena nje ugqirha ochwepheshayo, kodwa naye umntu onesizungu. Ngesinye isikhathi, ehleli edeskini yakhe aze ahlalutye ingxaki yakhe, wayilahla, "wasuka" ephepheni. Ngaloo ndlela, iingcali zifumene enye yezona ndlela zichanekileyo - i-psychoanalysis, esetyenziswayo nanamhla. Isigulane, phantsi kwesigxina esisigxina se-psychoanalyst, sithetha ingxaki yakhe kwaye siyayilahla - oku, kwintetho yokuqala, icebo lonyango lokulunga.
I-PSYCHOTHERAPEUTIC ADVICE:
- umva wokuzikhukhumeza, ukuziva unetyala kunye nokungabi nantoni, ukungabi nantoni ngokomoya - ezi ziyimpawu zokuswela isizungu;
- ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho, zibeke iingcamango zakho ngokufanelekileyo;
- Sombulula iingxaki njengoko zivela;
- Musa ukugcoba - ukuhamba ukusuka kwingcamango ukuya kwisenzo esisebenzayo;
- Zama ukuphepha ukuxhalaleka komzwelo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwemizwa;
- Ungavumeli ukuba isizungu singene kwimiphefumlo yabantwana bakho;
- kusele kuninzi ukwenza ukhetho ngokuphathelele ubomi.