Iingxabano zangaphakathi zafunyaniswa nenani elikhulu leengqondo zengqondo, kuquka uSigmund Freud, owathi waqala ukubhekisa ubunzulu beli lizwe. Kukho uxhatshazo olusondeleyo olunxulumene nenani elikhulu lokuphikisana kumntu: ezentlalo, inkcubeko, ukuqhuba, iiminqweno.
Iintlobo zeengxabano ezingabambanga
Kukho amaqela amathandathu angundoqo eengquzulwano zangaphakathi, ezithatha ngamnye kuthi.
- Ukukhuthaza - ukuphikisana kweenjongo ezahlukeneyo.
- Ukuziphatha - ukuphikisana kweminqweno kunye neemfanelo zethu. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuvela ngenxa yokungafani phakathi kweminqweno yethu kunye neemfuno zabazali okanye imo.
- Ukungabonakali okanye ubuncwane obuphantsi. Ulwaphulo lwangaphakathi lwolu hlobo luvela xa iminqweno yakho ingaguquki. Udla ngokubhekisela ekunganeliseki ngokubonakala kwakhe, okanye amandla akhe.
- Ukungqubani-mbambano kwenzeka xa umntu ethatha iindima ezimbini kwaye akanakukwazi ukuba ngubani owamkelekileyo kuye. Ngokomzekelo, umfazi wesifundo okanye umama.
- Ingxabano eguquguqukayo ivela xa iimfuno kwilizwe langaphandle azifani namathuba. Ngokuqhelekileyo kufumaneka kwicandelo lobugcisa.
- Ukuzithemba ngokwaneleyo kubangelwa ukuvela kokungahambelani phakathi kwezifiso zakho kunye nokuhlolwa kwamathuba.
Iingxaki zoLwaphulo-mthetho
Njengoko sithe satsho, ukuxabana kwangaphakathi yinkqubo evamile yomntu ophuhlisa. Enyanisweni, oku kungumphumo wokuzifuna rhoqo, ukulwa kwindawo ethile ebomini. Kodwa ukuba abanako ukusombululwa ngexesha, banokumisela umntu kwisithuba sokuhlala esipheleleyo se-existential, ehambelana nomvakalelo wokungabi nalutho kunye nokushiywa. Iimeko ezinjalo zingabangela ingxaki enkulu, eyinto ehambelana nenkolelo yokungabikho kwenjongo yobomi.
Phakathi kwezizathu eziqhelekileyo: ukuphikisana, iimfuno ezahlukeneyo, iimfuno ezimbalwa kunye nobunzima bokubeka izinto eziphambili. Ezi ziphikisanayo kummandla weminqweno, iinjongo, iinjongo. Ukungabi namathuba okuqonda into ethile, kwaye ngelo xesha, ukungakwazi ukungawunaki umnqweno. Oku kubonakaliswe okhethekileyo kokusebenzisana ngokuqhelekileyo kwamacandelo ahlukeneyo wobuntu bomntu.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba ukungquzulana kwangaphakathi kuvela kuphela xa iimbini ezimbini ezilinganayo zifaka uxinzelelo kumntu. Ukuba omnye wabo akabalulekanga ngokulinganayo, njengesibili - sikhetha ukhetho olungcono kakhulu kwaye ukhuphe ukungqubana.
Indlela yokulungisa ingxabano yangaphakathi?
Nangona iimbambano zangaphakathi zikarhulumente eziqhelekileyo zomntu okhulayo, kufuneka zisombululwe okanye zithintelwe. Ngenxa yoko, kukho iindlela ezithile. Siza kukunika iingcebiso zokukunceda uqonde ingxaki kwaye uqale ukuyilungisa.
Qala ngokwazi. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ngokucacileyo zonke iingenelo zakho kunye neentsilelo. Ngaloo ndlela, emehlweni akho uya kuba ngumntu opheleleyo, opheleleyo.
Hlaziya iimpazamo zakho kunye nokungaphumeleli ngokubhekiselele kwimimiselo yokufumanisa ukuba unakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo kumntu ugxininisa inani elikhulu lezinto ezinqanda ukuphuhlisa kwakhe:
- Umkhwa wokutshintsha uxanduva
- Ukholo kwabanye, kodwa kungekhona kuwe
- Ukhohlisi, ube ngumkhwa
- Ukungafuni ukuphandlelela ulonwabo kunye nokukhusela
- Ukuzihlambalaza kwamandla, okukhuthaza ukuphuhliswa
- Gxininisa kwi-secondary and inessential
Zama ukuchaza ngokucacileyo iimpawu zakho.
Ukuphuhlisa ukuzithemba: qwa lasela izinto ezintsha, ungagqugquzeli, ungabi nomona okanye uzihlazise, ungazithethi wena kwaye ungazami ukwenza izinto ezingamanga kwabanye, ungahambisani nokusingqongileyo.
Qala ngokutshintsha wena kunye neengxabano zakho zangaphakathi ziya kuzincama ngokwazo, kwaye uya kuziva ukukhula kwangempela kwamakhono akho.