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Vatulko Victoria
Xa ebuzwa ukuba kukho ubuhlobo phakathi kwabasetyhini, unokuphendula ngokuqiniseka ukuba kukho. Amantombazana amaninzi athi kubo ubuhlobo obuninzi bamabhinqa luthetha: ufana nodade kum, baphikisana impendulo yabo. Kodwa yintoni ekubambe kwaye yimalini yayo? Makhe sibone.
Iqala ngento yokuba ubuhlobo, ingcamango yomntu ngamnye. Amadoda anobungane obukhethekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba umhlobo ugula, akulungele ukuwela ngisho nomphefumlo wabo. Kuba umfazi, ngokuchaseneyo, kwindawo yokuqala uyindoda ethandekayo. Kuye, indlu, intsapho, ubudlelwane nomthandayo kubaluleke kakhulu. Yaye ukuba umhlobo ngandlela-thile akabukeli umthandi wakhe, ngoko unako onke amathuba okuba abe ngumhlobo wesibini. Kwaye akukho nakwesikhwele, kodwa kuba nomona, kuba ekunyameni komphefumlo wonke umfazi ufanisa nentombi kunye kwaye ufuna ukuhlala emdlula. Xa oku kungenzekiyo, ukuxabana okuqala kuqala kwiintlobo kunye nomhlobo ogqwesileyo uphendukela kwiintshaba ezimbi. Konke oku, nangona kunjalo ukuba yonke intokazi inqwenela ukutsala ingqalelo yindoda, kwaye ukuba le yindoda yomhlobo ongcono, ngoko-ke umonakalo ubonakala kabini.Ngokufanayo, umgangatho wobungane besifazane kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezibangele ukuba kwenzeke. Ukuba umfazi ukhetha umngane wakhe umphefumlo, ukuze aqonde umhlaba wakhe ongaphakathi, kwaye ukuba akaphambukanga ekukhethweni, ngoko sinokuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba aba bafazi baya kuba ngabahlobo abakhulu. Kule meko, ubungani bunokuphazanyiswa ngenxa yenguqu kwisimo sesinye seentombi. Kwakhona, ibhinqa lingakhetha intombi xa kuthelekiswa, ukujonga bhetele imvelaphi yayo. Olu buhlobo, njengomthetho, aluhlali ixesha elide. Emva kwakho konke, abafazi baninzi baziva ukunyaniseka komhlobo, kodwa kaninzi abazithethi ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa baqale ukuphindisela ngokuphindaphindiweyo, basasaze iindlebe ezimbi baze banike iimfihlelo.
Kwabaninzi abasetyhini, emva komtshato, ixesha elingaphantsi nancinci lihleli kwiintombi. Nangona intombi ingatshatanga, kunzima ukuba aqonde enye. Ngenxa yoko, ubuhlobo buthathaka. Ngenxa yoko, umtshato esinye isizathu sokuba kutheni ubuhlobo besifazane bulahleke. Akunjalo nje kuphela! Ujika waba ngumona, kuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, elo lonke ibhinqa lifuna intsapho, indoda enothando nabantwana. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba intombi ngoku ayikwazi ukunika enye intombazana ixesha elifanayo kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, owokugqibela uqala ukuthukuthela. Uqala ukuba nomona kwaye uhlushwa nje ngumbuzo othi "Kutheni enomntu othandekayo, kodwa mna? Yintoni engcono kunam? ". Kwaye kule meko, kuya kuba kuhle ukuba engabi yindoda yomyeni wakhe. Emva koko, le nto yinto eqhelekileyo, xa umhlobo omhle eba yinkosikazi yakhe.
Enyanisweni, wonke umntu unomntu ohlukileyo. Kwaye nangona kubonakala ngathi intombi ibe ngumphefumlo, kufuneka uqaphele, kuba yonke into ebomini iyashintsha. Kodwa oku akufanele ukwesaba, kuba akukho nto iphakade. Ubuhlobo bunokuchazwa njengengcaphuno evela kwi-Master noMargarita: "Kufuneka kwenzeke into ethile, kuba akukho nto eyenzekayo ngonaphakade."
Akukho nto kuba abantu bathi akukho buhlobo besifazane. Mhlawumbi kunjalo, kodwa abantu banombono ohlukileyo wobuhlobo, oku kukhankanywe ngasentla. Ngaba ubonile ubuncinane ibhinqa elinye, phakathi kobusuku, liza kuphosa umntwana okhulelwe ngokukhawuleza kwaye likhawuleze ukugcina umhlobo wakhe, owathi umfana olandelayo uphonsa? Kuyafana! Nangona kunjalo, kukho ukuhlala kungabikho.
Yaye inyaniso yokuba iqabane elihlala lihlala lidlula elinye? Ingaba ngokubhekisele kwembonakalo, okanye isimo sezenhlalakahle, okanye kwiimpawu zokomoya. Ewe, bonke banemiphumo yabo, kodwa luhlobo luni lomhlobo xa elula ukukhumbula imeko yesibini? Kwaye loo matyala, ngendlela, ivela rhoqo.
Ingxaki engakaze yenziwe ngayo, malunga nobuhlobo phakathi kwabasetyhini, unokuqiniseka ngokupheleleyo ukuba kukho. Ewe, ewe, ndifuna ukukholelwa kuyo. Kufuneka nje ufumane umntu ofanelekileyo-onobubele, onyanisekileyo kunye neengcamango ezicocekileyo. Abantu abanjalo bakhona, kwaye ubuhlobo babo abuyi kupheliswa yintsapho, umsebenzi kunye nobuhle. Kulula nje, idibeneyo kwaye iyaphaya ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa kunjalo.