1 indlela.
Indlela yokuqala kunye elula yokuzikhusela ekugxeka okungafunekiyo yinto elula yokunyaniseka. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukugxekwa kukubuntu, ngokwenene abamangaleli bathetha ngokungaphantsi. Okuqhelekileyo ukuba awuyithandi. Musa nje ukunyamekela umntu ozama ukukusebenzisa ngale ndlela. Ukuba awuphendulanga ngombono womntu, umntu uya kulahla ezama ukuzithumela kuwe.
2 indlela.
Shintsha ingxoxo kumnxibelelwano. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba izenzo zakho azidingi izimvo, kwaye awuzange uzicelele iingcebiso, abantu abaneengxaki zabo siqu baphazamise. Buza ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo kumntu, nokuba uyaziva kakuhle, nokuba yonke into iyahlelwa ngaphambili okanye emsebenzini. Oku kuya kunquba intshaba ngaphandle kwenzeni kwaye ibeke izizathu. Le ndlela isebenza kakuhle xa ungesabi ukulimaza omnye umntu, kuba mhlawumbi loo mbuzo uza kuphazamisa umqondiso kwaye ubangele ubundlobongela.
3 indlela.
Tshintsha izibonda zencoko yakho. Uphulaphule ukugxekwa, kwaye ukuva uzame ukufumana iziphumo. Kuyaziwa ukuba kuyo yonke imingxobo yobusi kukho i-fly in the ointment, ngoko uzama ukwenza ubusi. Ngomntu ongenakunyakazelayo unokubona ukulungelelanisa, ngokukhawuleza ngokuthe ngqo kunye nokunyaniseka, ngokukhawuleza - umnqweno wokuhlala uhambelana nokufezekisa iziphumo ezilungileyo.
4 indlela.
Musa ukuvumela ukutshintshwa kwesazisi. Izenzo zethu akufanele zibe zizathu zokuvavanya iimpawu zethu. Oko kukuthi, ukuba uthe waphula i-vase, oku akuthethi ukuba kwakukho ithuba lokugxeka. Isenzo asizange sibe mnandi kakhulu, kodwa, kunokwenzeka, ngethuba. Awusayi kuba nzima, kwaye oku akuthethi ukuba ungumntu ongendawo.
5 indlela.
Chaza iinkcukacha. Abatshutshisi nabagxeki bavame ukuvelisa, ukugqithisa iingxaki okanye ukungaphumeleli komntu. Ngokomzekelo, i-vase ephukileyo inokuthi ibe yisizathu sokuthi: "uhlala ulahleka." Musa ukuvumela ukuveliswa okunjalo, kuba abananto nantoni na. Ngethuba lobomi bethu, ngamnye wethu waqhekeza izinto ezininzi, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba siphula into ethile imihla ngemihla. Yaye akusiyo isizathu sokubamba amalebula.
6 indlela.
Phendula kuphela ngoqobo. Ukugxeka abantu abanqabile ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zabo kuwe, kwaye kungengokuthi ingundoqo yintoni ingxaki. Kule nto, kukho ukunyaniseka okucacileyo. Ngokomzekelo, ufike emva kwintlanganiso, umntu ongeyena isigulane uya kuthi ukulinde ixesha elide, okanye kwiiyure ezintathu. Phinda ukhulume: "Ndandingumzuzu we-15 nje." Oku kuya kunceda umchasi ukuba ahlolisise ngokwaneleyo umlinganiselo we "ntlekele".
7 ngendlela.
Phatha umdlali wakho ngehlazo. Musa ukubuyela emva kwimeko xa izenzo zakho okanye ungavumi, kodwa zama. Ngokukrakra umdlalo ngabantu abatshitshisa i-scandal kwizinto ezincinci. Zama ukuhlala uxolo, kwaye uya kubona ukuba umntu ozama ukukugxotha ngokwakhe ukhangeleka njani.
8 ngendlela.
Ukuqonda isizathu.
Ukugxeka kudla ngokuzama ukukusebenzisa, inzame yokukhupha iimvakalelo zetyala. Unganikeli ukucaphukisa, xelela ukuba uya kusebenza njengoko ubona kufanelekile. Qinisekisa izenzo zakho nokuba kutheni zibonakala zilungile kuwe. Ndixelele ukuba kwimiba eminye ummandla wempembelelo yomchasi uphela. Oku kunyanisekileyo xa ugxeka ubomi bakho okanye wena ngokwakho, kungekhona izenzo zakho.
9 ngendlela.
Buza kwakhona. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu baphosa amagama athetha ukukhubekisa nokucaphukisa. Umzekelo, unokuva ingxelo engalunganga malunga nekhanda lakho elitsha. Kule meko, kuya kulungele ukubuza kwakhona kwaye kucacise ukuba umgxeki wayenengqondo ukuba iinwele zakhe ngumgangatho wesitayela. Ukungaziqondi kweli meko kuya kuchukumisa umchasi wakho.
10 ngendlela.
Thetha ngqo. Musa ukufihla imizwa yakho kunye nelokuba uyaqonda isizathu sokugxeka. Ukuba umntu ungumhleko kwaye uyakuthanda ukuphosa impumlo yakhe kwishishini labanye abantu, mxelele ukuba akayikunwa ngxubusho yinto engathintiyo kuye. Ukuba umntu wenza okuthile ngenxa yomona okanye impindezelo, tshela ngokucacileyo kwisicatshulwa esi sizathu sokunxibelelana. Ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba, ngokukhawuleza uza kuphelisa impikiswano engento.
Ukuze ulungele ukumelana nemeko enjalo, khumbula indlela oyenze ngayo kwiimeko ezinjalo oziphosakeleyo oko ungathanda ukuphendula kummangaleli. Xa uvavanya izenzo zakho, cinga ngeendlela oziphathe ngayo, awuyi kuphinda ubanjwe kwiimeko ezinjalo. Yaye khumbula: musa ukugxeka abo bangenzi nto.