Indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane nabazali bomfana

Xa ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda kunye nentombazana buba lukhulu ngokwaneleyo, umzuzu wokuba wazi abazali. Ukususela kwindlela oqala ngayo ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye nomthandane nomama wakho, ubuhlobo bakho obusondeleyo buxhomekeke ngqo. Yingakho kufuneka ufunde indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane nabazali bomfana.

Fumana umgangatho oqhelekileyo

Ukuze ufumane indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane nabazali bomfana, okokuqala kufuneka ufune ukuba yeyiphi intsapho enayo. Ufuna ukuthanda unina noyise womfana, ngoko kufuneka uqale wazi ukuba ngubani kunye kunye nento abayilwelwe ngayo. Ukuze bakhe ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo, nabani na abantu kufuneka babe neenqweno kunye neemfuno eziqhelekileyo. Apha le nto kwaye ubuze umfana abathanda uyise nomama wabo, ngubani na obenomsebenzi, bathanda ntoni kuwo, benzani ngexesha labo lokuzimela. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba iziphumo zakho zihambelana ngandlela-thile yazo, kulungile. Emva koko, ekunxibelelaneni nabazali, qiniseka, kodwa ngokungaqhelekanga, khumbula, umzekelo, ukuba, njengomama wenkwenkwana eyenza iintyatyambo ze-kanzashi, okanye ususwe ebuntwaneni bakho ngokuzingela kwaye uyayithanda le midlalo ethile, nje kunye nodade wakho womthandi.

Ukuba ungekho mdla oqhelekileyo kunye nabazali baka-guy, musa ukugqithisa kwaye wenze into ethile. Ukwakha ulwalamano, abaninzi baqala ukudala amaphupha athile oqhagamshelwano. Kwaye oku kungalunganga. Emva kwakho konke, kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kufuneka uvume ukuba awunakho konke ukuthanda ukubethelela umnqamlezo okanye ukuqokelela iintlobo ezinqabileyo zeengcambu. Kwaye zonke izinto ezakhiwa ngokutsha zingatshatyalaliswa, kuba abazali bomntu omncinci baya kukufumana ungumqambimanga owenza nayiphi na indlela ukuzithemba.

Yiba yinkosikazi, kodwa ungayidluli.

Ukuqhagamshelana nabazali, zama ukuziphatha ngokwemveli nangokwesifazana. Kodwa kule meko, kunjalo, ungagxininisi. Awunayo ukuhlala njengokuba uginyile insika, uziphatha ngokuthe tye kwaye uqine kakhulu. Ngokwemvelo, ekuqaleni umntu unzima nabangamaziyo ofuna ukukholisa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ubona ukuba abazali banabantu abalula, banomdla, banokuqhagamshelana ngokulula, unokukhululeka kwaye uxhumane ngoxolo nabo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akufanele uvumele ukuba ungabi nongcolileyo, hamba ukuhleka, uhleka kakhulu. Sekunjalo, bafanele babone ukuba kwantombazana yabo kwintombazana, kwaye kungeyena umntwana wesitalato.

Kodwa yintoni omele uyenze xa ubona ukuba abazali bomntu omncinci bomelele kwaye balungile, kwaye uhluke ngokupheleleyo? Kule meko, zenzele isigqibo sokuba uhlala udlala phambi kwabo ibhinqa lenene. Ukuba kunjalo, ziphathe ngendlela engcono, indlela abayifunayo kwaye balindele. Kodwa ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukuma nanye kanye, ungazitshutshisi uze udlale. Yiba njengawe, kwaye kukho ixesha eliza kuxela ukuba baya kukuvuma okanye cha. Kule meko, akusoloko kulungele ukuthemba ubuhlobo obuhle nabazali. Kodwa ngakwelinye icala, akudingeki udlale abaphulaphuli kwaye uhlale uzihlakulela.

Musa ukuthetha okubi malunga nentanda yakho

Ukuze bakhe ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo kunye nabazali bomfana, akukaze kulungele ukuxoxa ngonyana wabo kunye nabo kwaye baveze loo mntu ngokukhanya okubi. Nangona umama noTata bethetha ukuba unyana wabo uphosakele kwaye uyangalunganga kwiimeko ezithile, ngokufanayo, zama ukubeka izimvo kwizenzo zakhe kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ungayibonakalisi loo nto. Khumbula ukuba bonke abazali bathanda "ukuthintela", bathethe malunga nokuba abantwana babo benza into engalunganga, kodwa abafuni ukuyiva kwabanye abantu.

Xa unxibelelana nabazali bentombazana, khuliswe ngokufanelekileyo kwaye uchane. Khumbula ukuba awukho oontanga, amabali amaninzi onokuxelela abahlobo neentombi, abazali akufanele bave. Nangona bahlala benovuyo kwaye banamhlanje, into enye ukuva into malunga nabantu abangaziwayo kunye nabanye - malunga nentombazana yonyana wayo. Musa ukulibala ukuba bonke ootata nabamama babecinga oonyana babo oonyana abafanelwe yimikhosazana yangempela.