Sebenza kwiibhugi
Iingcali zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuba amava okubuhlungu kunye neenkumbulo ezimbi zisinceda sifunde izifundo ezibalulekileyo ebomini. Ngokuchanekileyo sichaza ezo zihlandlo kunye neengxaki apho sasibe sinawo kwaye ngubani na onokusola. Ngoko ke, okulungileyo kunabo bonke, sithatha kuwo amava nakwixesha elizayo, indlela yokusebenza kwimeko efanayo.
Iingcamango zethu ngokwabo zakhiwe kwiimemo zethu. Yingakho kubalulekile ukukhumbula izinto ezimbi, kodwa nawe kufuneka ulahlekise intlungu ekhupha iinkumbulo ezingamnandi. Kodwa indlela yokubenza bangabi bubuhlungu kwaye baphenduke into engathathi hlangothi, apho singayi kubandakanyeka ixesha elide?
Imemori emibini
Umntu ngamnye unemibuzo emibini. Enye imemori i-autobiographical, kwaye enye ingummori-ulwazi. Ulwazi lweememori lugcina ulwazi olungasibangeli nabuphi na iimvakalelo. Ngokomzekelo, amabini amabini alingana amane, inkulu-dolobha yase-Ukraine yiKiev, kwaye iVolga iya kuLwandle lweCaspian. Kwimemori yendalo, ngokuchaseneyo, zonke ezo ziganeko ezinxulumene nokuhlola kwethu, amava, njalonjalo zibekwe. Ngoko ke, libale malunga neemeko ezingathandekiyo ze-nepoluchitsya, kodwa unokutshintsha imemori yakho kwimemori enye ukuya kwelinye kwaye uzame ukubenza bangathathi hlangothi.
Sonke siphosakele. Kodwa ngeli xesha elizayo uza kukhumbuza amava aphelileyo kwaye ungavumeli ukuphindaphinda kwesi simo. Ngomqondiso ofanayo, uya kuba ulungele ngokuziphatha nangokomzwelo ngenxa yoko, ngoko ke, ungaxinzeleleki xa ungaphumeleli ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Ukulibala, qho khumbula
- Buyisela ixesha elimnandi entloko yakho. Emva kweyesihlanu, ukuphindaphinda kweshumi okanye kweshumi elininzi, iimvakalelo zakho ziya kuthatyathwa yinto engenakucala. Ukuqonda okubuhlungu kuza kushiya, kwaye ngenxa yoko kuya kuba yinto nje kuphela: "Ewe, yenzeke ...".
- Ukuba unengcamango ecebileyo, kwaye unolwazi olufanelekileyo ngalo mbandela, khawuze ucinge iziganeko ofuna ukulibala okanye ukuphosa ngaphandle kwememori umfanekiso ocacileyo. Ukuba ukhangeleka ngokwengqondo ixesha elide, baya kuqala ukutshatyalaliswa kwaye bayeke ukubonakala bengachukumisi.
- Rethink imeko ezimbi. Oku kuhle kakhulu kwenziwe nge pencil kunye nephepha. Xa sicamngca le meko, siyaqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba asikwazi ukutshintsha rhoqo ukuba ibe ngcono, ngokwenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Mhlawumbi, ngenxa yento oyenze kanye kanye eyenzekayo kanye into efunekayo namhlanje. Kufuneka uqaphele ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukuba isiganeko asisayi kulungiswa. Ukuba oku kuqondwa kwaye kwamkelwe, iphutha elibulalayo liya kuba yinto engathathi hlangothi, kwaye iinkumbulo zalo ziya kukunqanda ukuhlushwa.
Iingcali zengqondo zithi indlela enokujonga ngayo ukutshintshwa kweziganeko ezithile kwimeko ethile yenza ukuba ukhululeke kwixesha. Ukongezelela, kuya kukusindisa kwixinzelelo lokufihla kunye namava.
Ileta engekho
Ukukhawuleza ukuphelisa ukukhathazeka kwengqondo, unokwenza usebenzise indlela elandelayo yengqondo. Bhala ileta. Oku kuya kunceda ukunciphisa imibala engqondweni yeembulelo ezingathandekiyo. Ileta inokunikezelwa kuwe okanye wakho umoni. Into ephambili kukuthetha konke okukukhathazayo kwiinkcukacha ezincinci. Awudingi ukuyithumela. Into ephambili kukuba ngexesha lokubhalwa kweso siza kusivumela ukuba sicinge ngokukwenzekayo. Kukho imithetho emininzi ekufuneka ibandakanywe ngayo xa ubhala ileta:
- Qinisekisa ukuba uqale ileta yakho ngokubulela kumntu owonayo. Siyabonga ngamava owamkelayo kwaye ubhala isiphi isifundo esinokuyifunda kwiimeko ezikhoyo.
- Emva koko kufuneka uvume into eyenzekayo: "Ewe, kwenzeka. Ndatshitshiswa, ndatshutshiswa, ndishiywe njalo njalo. " "Ewe, ndiphosakele, ndandisoyika, ndashiya ...".
- Emva kokuba zonke ezi ngasentla zenzeke ungaqala ukubhala iimvakalelo. Chaza ngokucacileyo, yonke into ovakalelwa ngayo, yonke into edilizayo. Unokuzibeka kakubi kwaye uzisole ngetheta: "Ndiyithiyile ngenxa ...", "Ndikulungele ukunqumla izicucu ...". Yonke kufuneka ifake inxalenye ebalulekileyo yokubhala kwakho.
- Inxalenye yokugqibela yale leta kufuneka iqulethe apho uza kuchaza indlela ubomi bakho butshintshile ngayo. Ungalibali ukubhala malunga nokuba ungayitshintsha njani emva kwithuba elithile lexesha: inyanga, unyaka, ezimbini.
Ukuba unokucinga ngokucacileyo ukuba ungatshintsha njani ubomi bakho kwiminyaka emibini, ngoko uye wahlangabezana nalo msebenzi. Ngoko ke, wena uya kunqoba yonke into engathandekiyo.
Imidlalo kunye nesizathu
Maxa wambi amava anamandla, kwaye abantu abakwazi ukujamelana nabo ngokwabo. Kule meko, isazi senzululwazi siya kunceda ukuqonda, ukuvuselela nokusinda konke oku. Namhlanje, kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokusebenzisana nabantu abaye babhekana nosizi. Oku kunokuba yinto ephilileyo, unyango olusisigxina ngomzimba, unyango lwezemidlalo (oluqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantwana), indlela yokwenza amava amaninzi ngokuhamba kwamehlo yesazi sengqondo se-American D. Shapiro.
Khumbula ukuba abantu abaye babhekana nosizi abanakukwazi ukuqaliswa kwisimo sengqondo kunye nokunyanzeliswa ukuba baphucule ngokusebenzisa iindlela zokuphumula. Oku kunokunyusa imeko. Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba umntu ngamnye kufuneka afune indlela yakho kunye nendlela yokonyango. Yintoni enokuba yinto enokuba yinkathazo elula, ngoko kwabanye ingabangela ukulimala kwangempela.
Kukho imeko xa kubonakala ngathi sinako ukubuyisela. Kukhona ezinye xa singenakunceda. Kodwa sinokuqonda njani ukuba sifuna uncedo lweengcali? Kulula:
- Ukuba uthetha abanye abantu malunga neengxaki zakho, kodwa akukwenzi kube lula kuwe, kodwa kunzima kakhulu, koko qhagamshelana nengcali yeengqondo. Ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zigqithise ngakumbi, uyazisola ngokufumanisa abanye.
- Ukuba uhlala ujikeleze isikhumbuzo seemeko ezingathandekiyo.Angaze ube ngamaxesha anjalo, ungazihlukanisi kunye noluntu kwaye ungavali ngaphakathi kwakho. Ngoko uya kubuyela ngokukhawuleza.
- Ukuba uya kuzikhupha zonke ixesha kunye nokukhathazeka kokuziphatha, emva kwexesha kuya kuthintela umzimba wonke. Uya kuqala ukuziva ubuthathaka emzimbeni, izihlunu, unokuba neentlungu kwi-back or back back. Insomniac, irritability, ingxabano ikhula kwiimeko ezingapheliyo. Loo mqathango awukhuthazwa ukuba uphathwe ngempilo. Enyanisweni, amacwecwe aya kukunceda ukulibala into eyenzekayo, baya kukunceda ukuba uphumule ixesha elithile. Ngoko ke, ukuba iimpawu ezinjalo zibonakala, ugqirha kufuneka ahambe ngokukhawuleza.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni
Ebomini, kukho inkathazo eninzi. Kwaye asinakuguqula oku. Yonke into esinokuyenza yifunda nje ukuqonda izinto ezithile uze wamukele ingcamango yokuba awuyi kubuya. Awukwazi ukuzityhaphaza ngenhlanhla, ayiyi kuphazamisa kuphela inkqubo yeentlanzi, kodwa kunye nempilo yakho.Izixinzelelo zibangelwa zizifo ezininzi ezinzulu: i-cardiovascular system, i-thyroid gland, i-pancreatic kunye ne-oncology. Ngenhlanhla, namhlanje unokubhenela uncedo lwabafundi bezengqondo kunye namachiza . Oku kuya kusinceda sikwazi ukujamelana nantoni na, nokuba yimeko enzima kakhulu. Zizinakekele, mantombazana amancinci, kwaye uhlale uhle kwaye unempilo.