Ndiyayithiya indoda yam, yintoni endiyenzayo?

Ngobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi bonke. Ngamanye amaxesha i-idyll yentsapho ingahlakulela inzondo ehlangeneyo, kuba ayikho into eyaziwayo ukuba ithi ukususela ekuthandweni kuya enzondweni yinto enye kuphela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umfazi ecinga ukuba uyeka ukumthanda umyeni wakhe, uqala ukuzigxeka ngoku, ngokukodwa xa eqonda ukuba umtshato uza kuwa. Nangona kunjalo, iimvakalelo ezinjalo kulo mfazi akenzakali nantoni na ukuba ziyanqotshwa kwaye ziqondiswa ngendlela efanelekileyo ngexesha. Emva koko ihlabathi liya kubuya kwintsapho kwaye liphumle. Njani ukunqoba inzondo kumyeni wakhe?
Akukho ngcebiso enganyaniyo kwaye ilungelelaniswe njani ukunqoba inzondo kumyeni. Yonke imeko yeentsapho kufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo ngokwahlukileyo. Kodwa ke unokufumana iindlela eziliqela zokukunceda ukusombulula le ngxaki. Into ephambili kukuba unayo amandla kunye nomnqweno wokugcina umtshato wakho. Ukuba yonke imihla ucinga ngakumbi malunga nokuba uqale ukumthiya umntu osondele kuwe, kufuneka uhlale phantsi ucinge izinto. Kubalulekile ukuqonda isizathu, ngenxa yento enokuvakalelwa ngayo, kwaye sele sele ukhangele indlela yokuphuma kule meko. Kwaye ukuba umnqweno wokuqonda ingxaki unayo, ngoko kuhlale kuphuma indlela.

Kukho ixesha eliqhelekileyo xa abafazi behluleka ukuthanda amadoda abo. Kwaye ukuze kuhlolwe ngokwaneleyo isimo sengqondo sakho kwingxaki, kuyafaneleka ukuthelekisa nabanye.

Isimo 1: Amadoda njengabantwana
Musa ukulibala ukuba wonke umntu emphefumlweni womntwana, kwaye uya kuhlala njalo ngonaphakade. Abanye bamadoda "baxhomekeke" kwiminyaka emihlanu kwaye bambalwa kuphela abalawulayo "ukukhula" ukuba babe ngabantu abadala. Umfazi, ngokuchaseneyo, ukhula bonke ubomi bakhe, ukuguqula ixabiso, imibono, umdla. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza indoda ayizange ikwazi ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo kwinto eyenziwa ngumfazi wayo, ngoko ke akukho nto yokumangalela, kungakumbi kumthiyile. Emva kwakho konke, awuyeki ukuthanda abantwana, ngamanye amaxesha abakwazi ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo imeko yangoku kwaye baqale ukuba bengenangqondo. Abantwana kwiimeko ezinjalo bafundiswa ukuphendula okuchanekileyo. Mhlawumbi kukufanele ukunceda umyeni wakho afunde indlela yokwenza ngokuchanekileyo?

Isimo 2: Ziqonde kuwe, mhlawumbi isizathu sakho
Ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa, elitshutshisa umyeni wayo, lizama ukwenza ubomi bakhe bukhulu. Uqwalasela iimfuno zakhe ngaphantsi nangaphezulu kwaye uphulaphula ngokubanzi nangakumbi kwiimfuno zekhethi ezingakhethiyo ngelo xesha. Inzondo yakhe ikhula ngakumbi. Indoda, ecinga indlela yonke into ehlelwe ngayo, ngokuchaseneyo, izama ukukhupha le mvakalelo, ukuze ikhululeke ngakumbi. Ngoko njani? Imveliso iyilula: yeka yonke into kakuhle, yiqonde imeko. Mhlawumbi wena ngokwakho, ukwenza ubomi bakhe bube bhetele, kwaye ngokwakho, ngokulandelanayo, ngokugqithiseleyo, yimbangela yenzondo yakho kwaye ngexesha elifanayo awuvumeli ngokupheleleyo iimpazamo zakho.

Isimo 3: Ukhohlakele, ndimele ndenze ntoni?
Esinye isizathu sokuzonda umyeni wakho kukungcatsha. Kubonakala ngathi bonke abafazi abangatshatanga bayazi ukuba abakhethiweyo bezithembu, kodwa xa bebafazi, bayeka ukuyiqonda. Ngesahlulo sesigxina esicacileyo sokungcatsha-esi siganeko sibini. Ukuba umntu wazama ukwenza yonke into ukuze umfazi wakhe angazi malunga nalolu qhinga, kodwa usenokuzibonakalisa ngengozi yonke into, akukho nto inokuthiyileyo. Kule meko, isiseko sokutshatyalaliswa komtshato akusayi kuxoka, kodwa ukuthula, ukungabonakali kunye nokuthotyelwa, okugqibeleni kukukhokelela inzondo efihliweyo. Nantsi kungcono okanye bonke ukuba baxoxe baze batshale "i", okanye ukuza nesicwangciso sakho sokusombulula ingxaki. Ukuba umntu uyazi ukuba umfazi uyazi ngokungathembeki kwakhe, uthando lwakho luya kukhula ngakumbi kunentanda yakhe. Kufanelekile ukuxolelana neemeko, okanye ukutshisa amabhuloho okanye ukuphuhlisa isicwangciso sokuphindezela.

Isimo 4: Iingxabano zomakhaya
Ukuba zonke iimeko ezingenhla zifanelekile zakho, kufuneka uqhubeke ucinga nokuhlalutya isizathu sokuxabana. Ngamanye amaxesha inzondo yintlumba - imihla ngemihla. Umyeni angakwazi ukusela kwikomiti yakhe oyintandokazi, uphonsa amasokisi, uthathe indawo oyithandayo ngekhompyuter, iTV, njl njl. Kwaye le nto ingaba yeso sizathu sengqondo. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba imbangela yenzondo ibangelwa ubomi bemihla ngemihla, kufuneka uxoxe nomhlobo wakho. Mhlawumbi akayi kuba nobunzima bokusebenzisa indebe okanye ukutshintsha izihlalo. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo - gxininisa kwizinto ezintle zobomi bentsapho.

Isimo 5: Ndiyayithiya, kodwa ndiyakuthanda
Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi bayazibamba bacinga ukuba bobabini bayabathanda baze bazonde abayeni babo. Ukuba inzondo yakho yile nqanaba, ngoko akufanele ukhathazeke nonke. Ulungele ukuthanda umyeni wakho uze umxolele. Nje ngobudlelwane bakho yinkxalabo encinci. Mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba engayinaki ingqalelo, akanikeli iintyatyambo okanye ukuncoma. Musa ukubuhlungu, kufuneka nje uvuselele ubudlelwane obusondeleyo.

Jabule!