Ngaphandle kweendonga kunye nemisebenzi yomsebenzi, kwakungekho mitshato eminyeneyo, kodwa ukususela kwiminyaka elishumi elinesine ukuya kweleshumi elinesihlanu, amantombazana sele sele esecatshulwa ngokuthi "ukutshatyalaliswa" kwabesifazane. Enyanisweni, ukuqaliswa kwentombazana leyo kwintombazana yadlula ekukhuleni, xa le ntombazana yakwazi ukukhulelwa nokukhupha. Imitshato yasekuqaleni phakathi kwamadoda amancinci ayengaqhelekanga, kodwa umfana oneminyaka engamashumi amabini anesihlanu ubudala wayesele "bobyl". Isizathu esona sizathu salo mnqweno ngumnqweno wokugcina ubungcwele bomtshakazi ozayo. Ngu mtshakazi, ngokuba, njengokuba i-Cossacks ithi: "Le ndoda inoxanduva lobungakanani, kwaye lona wesifazane uphumelele." Ukuze uphephe izilingo ezingadingekile, intombazana yanikwa umtshato.
Namhlanje, imitshato yokuqala imtshato weshumi elinesibhozo. Ukuthetha malunga neenzuzo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwemitshato yokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukwenza ukugcinwa ukuba yonke into ixhomekeke kwisi sibini. Ubomi beendawo ezininzi zibonisa ukuba umtshato uza kuba yintlekele okanye uza kuphila ngonwabo iminyaka emininzi.
Ubuncinane buyakwazi ukulingana neentlobo zombini kunye neempembelelo zemitshato yokuqala. Ngakolunye uhlangothi unamava angakhokelela ekubeni abantu abatsha banquma ukutshata ngokusekelwe kwezinye, nokuba banomdla onamandla kakhulu, kodwa abanako ukubonana ngokwenene. Umtshato wokulungelelanisa, ukuba unengqondo ekubaleni, ngoko kuthetha "okomoya", oko kukuthi, uluntu lwemimandla, ukukwazi ukufumana ingcamango, inhlonipho yabantu - inokwenzeka kuphela umntu oqolileyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ucocekile, ukholelwa ekuthandaneni kunye nothando olungunaphakade, iintliziyo ezincinci zinokumelana nokubethelwa kwexesha elide.
Kwiintlobo ezininzi, iimpazamo zomtshato zibangelwa ukungakwazi ukwahlula phakathi kwethando, uthando nothando. Akunabathandi abangeke bathembise uthando olungunaphakade komnye nomnye, kwaye akukho uthando oluya kuhlala ixesha elide kuneminyaka emine. Ukuba sibheke kuphela ubunzima bobudlelwane kunye neyona nto ibonakalayo, ngokukhawuleza, (alas, sele kunabantwana) kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo umntu uya kufumana into entsha yethando elithandayo. Kwaye umnqweno uhlala udlula.
Uthando luhle, owokuqala lukodwa, kodwa kusekude kakhulu nothando. Uthando ngumama onyana, osinika izithembiso. Kwaye ishishini lethu kukuzalisekisa emva koko. Buza nawuphi na umtshato osekhulile oye wahlala ubomi obonwabileyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufunda ukuba banelungelo lwabo lonwabo okanye uthando lwasendle, akukho nantoni ekhethekileyo yothando. Kwaye ukuba banobubele, abanomonde, abanenceba, abantu abalungileyo abaziyo ukufumana ingcamango, abanengqiqo kunye nokukwazi ukunqanda ukuthanda kwabo.
Uthando, uthando lokwenene, umnqweno ozolileyo, ofihliweyo entliziyweni-engabonakaliyo kwiifilimu kunye neencwadi, ngoko ke-ezingenakwenzeka kwiingcinga zoluntu "zothando." Nokuba ulungelelaniso lwencwadi kaJane Austen ethi "Ingqondo Nemvakalelo", apho ukuphakama kwengqiqo yenhliziyo engenalwazi kunokukhazimuliswa, kwachazwa kwintengiso "njengomzabalazo weentliziyo zothando kunye nokuziphatha okuzingcwalisayo" ukuze kuhlanganisane abaphulaphuli kwiidema. Hayi, ngaphandle kwalo "ukuziphatha okuzingcwalisayo" umtshato wokuqala usenokuba neengxaki.
Izibonelelo zomtshato ezigqityiweyo phakathi kwabaselula abakwimeko apho isibini eso sibini:
- Ngokwenene unomnqweno wokwakha intsapho, uyayiqonda umthwalo wayo kunye nomnye kwaye ufuna ukwabelana nje ngovuyo kunye nombhede, kodwa iintlungu, izifo, ukungabikho kwemali, ubomi, ubunzima bokukhulisa abantwana kunye nezinye iingxaki zobomi bethu.
- Ngaba ulwalamano oluhle nabazali bancinci kwelinye lamacandelo, kwaye mhlawumbi - kunye bobabini.
- Kukho ubuncinane unyaka ngaphambi komtshato! Ayikho imini ngaphantsi!
Ngaphezu koko, ukuba ubuncinci ukusuka kwicala lentombazana kwakungekho namava ezesondo, zonke ezi zinzuzo ziyakwandiswa ngamabini. Umtshato onjalo usenokwenzeka ukuba uhlala "ixesha elide kwaye uvuyo."
Kwimeko apho abantu abatsha banquma ukutshata, ukuba:
- Abakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle komnye, kwaye akukho mntu kwihlabathi lonke, ngaphandle kwababini babo, kuyadingeka (esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuqhawula umtshato omnye okanye emibini iminyaka yokuhlala ndawonye).
- "Wahamba".
- Ndifuna ukulahla ukugcinwa kwabazali bam ngokukhawuleza.
- Ndifuna ukuhlala ndifumana intombazana ecaleni kwam "onika".
Ukuba umtshato onjalo usoloko uhlaselwa ukuba ube ngumzamo wokuqala kunye nokuphumelela ekufuneni ngonaphakade kwintlalo engaziwayo.
Uthando lufanele lufundwe. Uthando lu sebenza. Uthando alufaneleki, kufuneka lukwazi ukufundisa nokugcina. Kwaye ke umntu uya kuqonda ukuba yinto entle kakhulu ebomini. Enyanisweni, nje ngenxa yalo kwaye kulungile ukuhlala.