Ulonwabo luvakalelwa kukuba umntu unako ukuva. Nangona kunjalo, ingaba yingozi kwabanye? Ngokubanzi, yintoni igama elithi "ulonwabo" lithetha ntoni?
Ingozi Yabesifazane Abonwabileyo
Enyanisweni, akubona wonke umntu onokuchazela ingozi yolonwabo lwabesetyhini. Emva koko, enyanisweni, xa intombazana evuyayo, uhlala ehle, ukhangeleke kakuhle kwaye uzive ekhulu. Ngoko yintoni inokuba yinto enobungozi yowesifazane, ukuba kuvuyisa kuphela uvuyo? Enyanisweni, ulonwabo lwabasetyhini, okokuqala, lunokuba yingozi kubantu, kuba ukuze wenze unoyolo oluthandayo, kufuneka ubeke umzamo omkhulu. Amantombazana ahlale eqonda ukuba kunzima kumadoda. Kwanamsebenzi amancinci, azinikele kuphela ukuvuyisa othandekayo, kodwa akavuyisi uvuyo kubantu abancinci ngokwabo, ekugqibeleni abe ngumthwalo omkhulu. Ngoko ke, umnqweno wesifazana wokwenza umntu osondeleyo kunokwenzeka kwiyona nto iyingozi. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu osemncinci uyathula ebomini, kodwa uzama ukuba ngumphefumlo wenkwenkwe intombazana, ekugqibeleni uyayeka ukuqonda ukuba wenza imizamo yokuhlangabezana neemfuno zakhe. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba umfana, ubuncinci ngomzuzu, uyabuyisela kwaye abe yinto eyiyo ngokwenene, intombazana inokuqala ukuyikhathaza kwaye ibone indlela yakhe yokuziphatha njengento yokuhlambalaza, ukulibala malunga nokuba unzima kangakanani umgudu wakhe. Kwaye kuyingozi kakhulu ulwalamano, kuba ibhinqa isetyenziselwa ukulungiswa komsebenzi ongenakulibaleka kwaye ayifuni ukumkela umntu njengako. Kungoko, ulonwabo lomfazi, olufezekiswa ngumntu, ukuziqhayisa, ekugqibeleni, lunokutshabalalisa ubuhlobo. Ngokuchanekileyo, akusiyo yonwabo, kodwa ukungabi khona kwayo.
Ubumnandi benkcazelo
Kwakhona, ulonwabo lwabasetyhini lunokuthetha kwaye lufumane ukuzonwabisa kwizinto eziphathekayo. Kwaye oku kuyingozi, kokubili ubudlelwane, kunye nenhlalakahle yempilo yomntu omncinci. Nangona bethetha ukuba "awukwazi ukuthenga ulonwabo ngemali", kukho amajaji amaninzi anamhlanje abonwaba ngokwenene kwizihombo ezibizayo kunye nezinto ezizenziweyo. La mabhinqa angonwabile kuphela kwimeko enye, ukuba unamathuba okumangalisa ukwanelisa zonke iimfuno zabo kwifowuni yokuqala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, elowo mntu unelungelo lokwenza isigqibo sokuba yiyiphi ibhinqa ekhethayo kunye nendlela yokonwabisa, kodwa ubudlelwane obusekelwe kwintlalo yezinto eziphathekayo zintombi zihlala ziphela xa umntu engakwazi okanye engafuni ukunika intombazana intonwabo ngokusebenzisa iindleko ezibizayo kunye neempahla zokugqoka .
Ingozi Yabesifazane Abonwabileyo Kwabesetyhini
Ngendlela, ukuba sithetha ngengozi yolonwabo lwabesetyhini, ke kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ngabafazi ngokwabo. Yiyiphi injabulo enokubasongela? Enyanisweni, ulonwabo lwabasetyhini luyanciphisa ubuqili. Ukufumana ukunyamezela okuqhubekayo, amantombazana aphumle kwaye aphelelise ukuvavanya ngokwaneleyo okwenzekayo. Kakade ke, ukuvuya kunye nokuvuya kukuhle kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, ngelishwa, ubomi bethu abukabi njengokuba sifuna ukuba. Ngoko ke, yonke into inokwenzeka kwaye ulonwabo luya kuphela. Emva koko le ntokazi, eyayivuyayo ixesha elide kwaye ikhululekile, izakufumana imeko enzima kakhulu kuye. Yena, ejwayele ukuba yonke into enhle kwaye ayinyamekele, angakwazi ukulahlekelwa isifiso sobuchule kunye nokukwazi ukuhlola imeko ngokukhawuleza, khawuleza ujonge izisombululo kwaye ungesabi ukutshintsha into ethile. Ulonwabe lusenza sibe nesilwanyana esincinane. Yingakho abesifazana bengavumelekanga ukuba baphumule baze banikele ngokupheleleyo kwimvakalelo yolonwabo. Ngokwemvelo, akukho mntu uthi ufanele uhlale ucaphukile kwaye ucaphuke. Ngokulula, nokuba novuyo, kuyimfuneko, njengoko bethetha, "gcina iindlebe zakho zivulekile".
Ngaloo ndlela, sinokuthi nanto nayiphi na into esiyifunayo, ulonwabo lwabesifazane aluphelelanga nje kuphela kodwa luhlu olubi. Yingakho kulungile, xa kutyhaxwa kwamanxuwa okudakisayo kwisiselo esiluncedo sokuphila, okukuvumela ukuba uhlale uhlala kakuhle.