Umzali ngamnye uya kuqinisekisa ukuba ukukhulisa umntwana akuyona into elula, apho kungakhathaliseki ukuba yinyameko, ingqwalasela kunye nezenzo ezithile zibalulekile, kodwa zonke iilwimi zithetha kumntwana. Iingcali zeengqondo ezibandakanyeka kwi-psyche yengqondo yabantwana, zikhuthaza ukuba abazali bacinge ngezinto, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba baxelela njani abantwana babo. Nokuba iinkcukacha ezincinci, ezichazwe ngumntu omdala, zingalimaza umntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubudala. Kule nqaku ndifuna ukuphawula inani leengxelo ezikhethekileyo kubantu abadala abangaba nefuthe elihle kubantwana. Kodwa kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba akukho mabhunga onke kufuneka athathwe njengenqobo, kuba ngamnye umntwana, nokuba encinci, usengumuntu.
1. Wenza yonke into e-netak-ndiya kwenza yona!
Yonke inzululwazi iza kukuxelela ukuba ezi ngxelo zilimaza umntwana. Iintetho ezinjalo zivusa kumntwana ukwesaba ukuba uyisidenge kwaye uyisicwenge, ukuba umama akayi kuvuyela kwaye uya kuphinda ahlaziye. Iingcamango ezinjalo zingaba ziinkimbinkimbi ezingavumeli abantwana ukuba baphumelele.
2. Hamba, thabatha, into ephambili ithule!
Kunzima kubazali abaninzi ukujamelana nokugxeka kunye nokucela abantwana babo. Ngako oko, abantu abadala bayavuma ukunyamezela umnyelisi omncinci, ukuba nguye kuphela owamshiya yodwa. Kodwa oku akuyona indlela echanekileyo ngokubhekiselele ekukhuliseni, kuba ukuba unika umntwana kumntwana, uya kuqonda ukuba sele esazi indlela yokwenza oko ufuna. Ngale ndlela, igunya lomzali lahleka, kwaye ukuthintela ebuntwaneni buntwana kuthetha nto encinci.
3. Ukuba ndiyaphinda kwakhona, ndiya kukunika!
Khumbula, ukuba uyayilumkisa umntwana wakho nantoni na, yiletha izilumkiso zakho kwinqanaba, ungazithobeli izinto ezingenanto. Ingundoqo yale nkcazo "engenanto" ayifinyelele kumntwana. Leli bhunga alibizi ngandlela-thile ukuba lisongela abantwana babo, umntwana kufuneka aqonde ukuba ukuba ulwaphulo-mthetho okanye ukungathobeli kuya kuba nesijeziso, ekuboneni ukuthotywa kwabazali babo, umzekelo, okungekho ukubonakalisa ngokukhawuleza, i-adelicate. Zama ukudlulisela umntwana ngaphandle kokumemeza into kwaye kutheni engenayo.
4. Ndixelele nabani na (a) ayeke ngokukhawuleza!
Akumele uhlaziye kakhulu umntwana wakho. Kodwa ukuba ngokwenene awuzange uphume, xolisa. Emva koko, ilizwi elibukhali kubazali linokubonwa ngumntwana osondelene nentliziyo. Ukuphendula kwiingxelo ezinjalo akunakuthobela ukuthobela, kodwa ukukhukula okunobundlobongela, ngendlela yezinyembezi nokukhala.
5. Uyaqonda ukuba ...
Uninzi lwa bantwana aluyi kuwamkela ibinzana elinjalo, likhulu kakhulu kubo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, uya kukhangela nje into enomdla okwangoku. Umntwana uya kuhlawula ingqalelo kwiinkcazo ezinjalo, ukuba akanelisekile okanye akonwabele. Qonda, kwiimeko ezinje, into ephambili kukufumana igolide ekuthethwa ngayo phakathi kokumemeza kunye neemfundiso ezibuhlungu.
6. Amantombazana amhle (amakhwenkwe) akwenzi oko!
Akukho imfuneko yokuphinda izitatimende zolu hlobo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kuba kusebuncinaneni kumntu ukuba kusekwe imimiselo yemigaqo ethile kunye nemigangatho, ekuza kuvela kwixesha elizayo libe yinkimbinkimbi ephazamisa ubomi ngokubanzi. Kwaye le nkcazo ingenakuchaphazeleka kakhulu kwiimbono zendoda ekhulayo.
7. Musa ukukhala ngenxa yezinto ezincinci!
Kutheni unqume ukuba into engabalulekanga kuwe yinto encinane kumntwana wakho? Ngeli xesha elithile, ukuqonda kwakhe kugxile kulokho kubaluleke kakhulu kuye, kwaye ukuba uyacaphukisa ukuba amqinisekise ngokubonisa inxaxheba, kungabandakanyeki. Emva koko, oku kuya kuxhomekeka kubuhlobo obusondeleyo.
8. Cinga ngempilo yam!
Kwenzeka ukuba amama abhekise esi sibheno kubantwana babo. Oku kwixesha elizayo kunokudlala nawe ihlaya elibi. Kungekudala okanye kamva umntwana uyayeka ukuthatha le nkcazo ngokungqongqo, kwaye nangona oko kwenzeka ukuba umama ngokwakhe akayi kuvakalelwa ngokwenene, umntwana uya kunqunyulwa, ukuba akuyinto engathà sina kwaye ayifuni kubalulekile ukuba uqikelele kunye nezicelo zakho okanye impilo yakho.
9. Hayi, andiyi kuthenga kakhulu (akukho mali)!
Kunzima ukuchazela umntwana ukuba kutheni umama angathengi yonke into kanye, ngokukodwa xa kukho izilingo ezininzi. Kodwa xa uphendula iimpendulo zomntwana ngendlela efanayo, uya kumkhokelela ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwisigqibo sokuba ukuba kukho imali eninzi, unokuthenga yonke into. Ukungaziboni izicelo zomntwana akufanelekanga, kungcono ukunika isizathu esaneleyo sokuba anqatshelwe ekuthengeni okungenakulungiswa.
10. Nantsi umntu (ummelwane, umhlobo), abantwana abaqhelekileyo, kwaye wena ...
... ezinjalo - syakoy, ezingenakulinganisa, ezingcolileyo, ezixakile kunye nezilwanyana. Akufuneki ukuba zibeke ezinqumleziweyo ezincinci kubantwana ukususela ebuntwaneni, le ndlela ehambelana nendawo ephantsi. Umntanakho ulungile njengoko kunjalo, kwaye mxelele ukuba uyamthanda ngenxa yalo.