Ubuhlobo ngenxa yenceba.
Kuyavakala ukuhlekisa, kodwa kwenzeka. Kuvela ukuba kwimeko yomyeni wakho ngokukhawuleza kubonakala umfazi onomzekelo wexhoba leklasi. Umyeni wakhe wamshiya, nguye yedwa ovelisa umntwana, okanye nokuba emibini, akahambelani nolwalamano lwakhe kunye noogxa bakhe, uxinzelela abaphathi bakhe, abamelwane abanobubi, kwaye uhlala eba iifowuni kunye nemali yokugqibela esitratweni. Umfazi ongonwabi omele abe nesihe.
Kodwa uyabona ukuba umyeni wakhe wamshiya, ngenxa yokuba unomdla ongathandekiyo, oogxa abamthandi ukuzama ukuhlala phantsi, abaphathi abamqondi, kuba ufuna ukuyeka umsebenzi wakhe kumagxa omnye umntu. Neengxowa? Akalokothi afunde kwiimpazamo zakhe.
Umyeni wakho ubona ntoni? Emehlweni akhe, lo mfazi omncinci, okhubekileyo ozama ukuba nesibindi novuyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni. Ufumanisa izizathu zokuhlonela kuyo oko kungenanto ngcaciso. Ngenxa yoko, uyamkela uncedo kwaye uyasetyenziselwa ukumbiza ngethuba lemihla yokucela icebiso okanye ukukhala, uyakwendwendwela rhoqo endlwini yakho, kwaye kufuneka uyamkele, kwaye ukuba uyaphikisana, ngoko umyeni uyalala ebusuku.
Kodwa le ngxaki ingasombulula. Cinga ngako, ungakanani uthabatha wena? Ngamehlo omyeni wakhe, ubukeka njengomntu onamandla, onelaneleyo oye wazisebenzisa ukujongana nazo zonke iingxaki. Kwaye kukho impembelelo engabonakaliyo engafanga, ufuna umntu ukuba asindise. Ngoko mnike ithuba! Ungazami ukusombulula yonke into ngokwakho, unganqikazi ukukhalaza ngezinto ongazange uziqwalasele ngaphambili. Ngokubanzi, mnike "intombi" yakhe. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba indoda yakho ayinanto enkulu yokukhupha umthwalo ngaphandle kwabasetyhini ababesweleyo. Kungenzeka ukuba, ukhetha lowo unengxaki kuye kwaye uthinte ngaphezulu, oko kukuthi, wena.
Ubuhlobo obuvela kwimemori.
Ukuqhagamshelana nabanye abantu abadala kunye nokuthandana banokuzulazula nendoda ixesha elide - ukusuka kumtshato ukuya kutshata, unyaka unyaka. Kwenzeka ukuba phakathi kwezinye izinto kukho umhlobo omdala, ngubani, kubonakala ngathi akayinkosikazi, kodwa nje ngumhlobo, kodwa akavumeli umyeni wakho ahambe iminyaka emininzi.
Zidibaniswa yizikhumbuzo, ulutsha, ukonwaba kwabantwana kunye nothando lwabantwana, baye bazizana ixesha elide kwaye basebenzisa ukuthembelana. Ukujongana nalo mbambano ngeke kube lula.
Ukuba awukwazanga ukumnciphisa ngaphambi komtshato, kwaye ke awukwazanga ukumwamkela, ngoko usebenze ngokuzithoba kwaye ucolile. Okokuqala, ungesabi ukuthetha ngaye nomyeni wakho, kodwa kungekhona kumbono wommangaleli. Musa ukwenza amabango, kodwa ubuze imibuzo efanelekileyo. Umzekelo, cela ukuba intombi ivuyiswe. Ukubukeka okumangalisa, kuthetha ukuba abafazi abonwabileyo bathanda ukuchitha ixesha abangenabahlobo, kodwa kunye nabathandekayo. Ungabi namahloni ukuvula amehlo akhe kwezinye iimpawu ezintle, umzekelo, ukuxhatshazwa. Ewe, ngaba akayiqondi ukuba ngothando ufuna ukuba wedwa ngeveki? Kwaye, okubaluleke kakhulu, gcina lo lwalamano olulawulwayo - ungaluvumeli ukuba luphume kwamehlo akho, kodwa ungavumeli ukuba lube lusondele kakhulu. Ngenxa yoko, izalathisi ezindala ziya kunika ezitsha, kwaye umyeni wakho uya kukulibala malunga nomlingani. A. mhlawumbi, kwaye ngelinye ilanga uya kulungisa ubomi bakhe bobuqu kwaye akuyeke akukhathaze.
Ubuhlobo kwimiphefumlo.
Kuyamangalisa ukuba ngamanye amaxesha amadoda athule! Kodwa apha kuza ebomini ibhinqa elingaphandle ngokupheleleyo elinesibini-nangona indoda ivaliwe ilungele ukuthetha imini nobusuku. Into leyo, yena, ngokungafani nawe, wambona kuye into eyamkholisa. Makube nje ingxoxo engenangqiqo ngezopolitiko, ibhola okanye iikhomputha.
Lahla le ntombi ilula. Mamela ukuba zeziphi izinto abazithethayo, baqonde intsingiselo kwaye bachukumise abathembekileyo ngobunzulu bokuqonda. Mbuyisele kuye, ube ngumlingane wakhe. Ngokukhawuleza xa ubonisa umdla onyanisekileyo kwizinto ezithandayo, akukho zikhumbuzo ezivela kwindwendwe engavunywanga.
Ubuhlobo ngokuchaseneyo.
Mhlawumbi uqaphele emva kwakho ukuba awugciniwe kwiimvakalelo, ngokuqhelekileyo uyacaphuka kwaye unganqikazi ukubonisa? Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda awayithandi kakhulu abafazi abanengqondo. Ngoko ungamangaliswa ukuba umyeni wakho ngokukhawuleza unomhlobo ozolile, njengetanki nayiphi na imeko.
Musa ukukhawuleza ukuhlambalaza kunye nomntu osithandayo. Tshintsha izinto. Yingenakunceda kwaye uhlaziye, ungadli apho uhlala khona, ufunde ukugcina iimvakalelo zakho ezandleni zakho. Futhi uphazamise umyeni wakho ngento - nangona uhambahamba kunye, nangona umntwana oqhelekileyo. Uya kubona ukuba uza kubuya ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uza kukujonga njani.
Xa indoda kunye nomfazi behlobo, kukho indawo yokucinga kunye nokusola. Kodwa oku kudla ngokuba ngumqondiso woluphi ucelomngeni oluye lwalukhula ebuhlotsheni bakho nomyeni wakho. Zama ukutshintsha, kwaye uya kubona ukuba akukho mfuneko yokwenene yokuba ngumhlobo nomnye umfazi. Into ephambili ngezihlandlo ezinjalo - musa ukwenza iimpazamo kwaye unganyatheli kwi-rake efanayo.