Iintlobo zobudlelwane phakathi kwamantombazana kunye namantombazana

Mhlawumbi, abaninzi abasetyhini bacinga malunga naluphi uhlobo lwentsebenziswano phakathi kwamadoda kunye namantombazana. Ewe, kwindawo yokuqala, lo buhlobo lobuhlobo, kodwa kukho abanye. Kule nqaku, siza kuthetha ngobuhlobo kunye nohlobo olubizwa ngokuba ngumhlobo ngamalungelo.

Iintlobo ezikhoyo zobudlelwane phakathi kwamantombazana kunye namantombazana ahlala ephumla kwimiba yobomi-kwaye ke ahlale kuwo, okanye ahlalisane kunye nobudlelwane obukhulu, okanye aphule, okanye abe ngumhlobo wobungqina bokuthandana nobuhlobo. Abaninzi baphikisana malunga nokuba indoda kunye nomfazi bangaba ngabahlobo. Ewe, banako. Kodwa kuphela kwimeko xa bengenakunqabana ngesondo. Vumelana, kuba njalo xa uqhelana nomfana, uyazi: unjengomzalwana kum. Nayiphi na ingcamango yokuba unokuba yinto engakumbi, iyacaphuka kwaye ibe yinto enyanyekayo. Oluhlobo lobuhlobo, lunokwenzeka, luya kuhlala ixesha lobomi kwaye lingabi yi-peretechet into ethile. Kwaye ukungabikho kokukhanga akuthethi ukuba le ntombazana ayinomdla okanye iziphatha njengentombazana. Ngokulula, ebomini bethu ngamanye amaxesha kukho abantu abangenjalo uhlobo lwethu. Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, basondele ngokomoya. Ngelo xesha lo mvakalelo wobuzalwana, ubuhlobo bokomoya, obungaze bube ngumnqweno wenyama, kuvela. Ngelishwa, abafazi bonke abanenhlanhla kule nto. Abanye abadibana naba bantu, kunye nabanye abafana nje abaqondi ukuba ngumhlobo. Enyanisweni, ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nentombazana kuyisipho esihle sengozi. Kuphela nje ukuba umntu ubeka ezi zipho njengoko zivela kwi-cornucopia, kwaye umntu ophantse akawamukeli, yingakho engakholelwa ukuba oku kungabikho.

Ukuba umntu kunye nentombazana bangabangane bobuhlobo, ubudlelwane babo bunokuba namandla kunezihlobo ezimbini, iintombi zamantombazana, okanye nakubini isibini. Kulula nje, ababonani nokhuphiswano kwaye abananto yokwabelana nabo. Ukongeza, abafana abasetyenziselwa ukugcina i-brand kwinkampani yendoda, ngaphambi kokuba umhlobo wabo omhle angasusa imaski kwaye baziphathe ngokunyanisekileyo, apho bayabulela kakhulu. Kwaye kunye namantombazana ahlala ecela iingcebiso malunga namanye amalungu esondo esomeleleyo. Ngabahlobo, bahlala bethetha ngezinto abantombazana abanako ukuthetha ngazo. Kwenzeka nje ukuba intombi, ngokuqhelekileyo, iyaqonda ngakumbi kwaye yenza amabango ambalwa. Ngoko kwavela ukuba sisetyenziselwa ukuzimisela abafana bethu abathandekayo, ngoko sizama ukutshintsha, ukuzilungelelanisa kwizinto ezifanelekileyo. Kodwa abahlobo abakhulu baqonda yonke into njengabo. Kungenxa yoko abahlobo banokuthenjwa ngazo zonke iintlobo zeemfihlelo ezifihliweyo, cela iingcebiso kwaye uhlale uphulaphule umbono wakhe. Amantombazana aphinde aphathe abahlobo bawo. Izimo zengqondo, ngokuqhelekileyo, zihlobo oluhle kakhulu lobuhlobo, kuba akukho nantlonelo yindoda kunye nomona wesifazane. Kule buhlobo, wonke umntu uhlala ekhona ngokwenene, kunokuba uzame ukubonisa umngane ukuba ungcono, unobulumko okanye untle. Ukuba ngabahlobo baxhatshazwa ngokwesini, banokulingana ngakumbi kunanini ngaphambili, kuba ngamnye kubo ulunge ngendlela yabo kwaye awanalo mqondo wokuziqhayisa nokuncintisana. Ubuhlobo kule fom lubuhlobo obuhle kunye nokusebenzisana phakathi kwabameli bezesondo ezahlukeneyo.

Kodwa, ngaphezu kobuhlobo ngendlela ecocekileyo, kukho ubuhlobo kunye namalungelo. Ngobudlelwane obunjalo, ubuhlobo buzaliswa ngokwesini. Kule meko, abantu banomtsalane ngokwenyama, kodwa abanalo iimfuno ezifanayo kunye neembono. Okanye, abanye babo bathanda nje kwaye bakhethe ubudlelwane obunjalo ukuze benze okungenani ukungaqondi.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, abahlobo abanjalo baninzi bafana, kodwa abayibonakali ebantwini ngokulula kwaye ngokukhululekile njengabangane abaqhelekileyo. Ngokuyinene, abo bathandana abathandana nabo benza sengathi phakathi kwabo akukho nto ngaphandle kobuhlobo. Ewe, bayaqonda ukuba akunakunceda ukufihla, kodwa baqhubeka bedlala indima yabo. Ngobuhlobo obunjalo, into ephambili ayiyikulimaza umntu. Ukuba zombini i-traction iphela kwinqanaba lomzimba, ke yonke into iyahlelwa. Abahlobo abanjalo banokudlala ibhola ebudeni bemini, kwaye balala ngesondo kwaye kuya kuba kubo ngohlobo lwezinto. Ukuba umntu ovela kweso sibini ufumana umntu okanye intombi, ngoko umntu wesibini uya kumkholisa ngokunyanisekileyo aze abe ngumhlobo oqhelekileyo.

Okubi kakhulu, xa omnye wabahlobo abathanda isibini. Kule meko, yena udlala indima nje ngumhlobo, kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo, lo mntu akwenzi oko ngokwakhe, kodwa ngenxa yokuba intanda yakhe iyimfuneko.

Ukuba uthetha ngomntu omthandayo, ngoko unako ukuhamba nobudlelwane obunjalo, kuba uyabubelelana nentombi yakhe, kodwa akayithandi, ukusuka ekuphelelwe yithemba okanye ngokunyaniseka. Ngokuqhelekileyo, lobu buhlobo buphela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.

Inketho yokuqala - umntu ufumana uthando lokwenene. Kule meko, okwesibini uqala ukubandezeleka aze ahlupheke aze azame ukubuyisela konke. Kodwa ekubeni akukho nto yokubuya, iintlungu ziba namandla ngakumbi. Oku akumangalisiyo, kuba ukukhohlisa kuphukile, kwaye ngoku, kubalulekile ukuba uphile ngokuqonda ukuba umntu uzikhohlisile. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, unxibelelwano luyeka okanye luyancitshiswa ubuncinane. Mhlawumbi, ngokuqinisekileyo, kungekhona ngonaphakade, kodwa ngelo xesha, kodwa umthandi akahlali ehla, kwaye iimvakalelo aziyi kupholisa.

Inketho yesibini kukuba uthando lugqithisa kwinkqubo yobuhlobo. Kule meko, ubudlelwane buqhubeka ngefomu efanayo, kodwa akukho mntu uhlupheka ngakumbi, okanye, bayeka kwaye abantu baba ngabahlobo nje. Ulwalamano oluqhelekileyo olusondeleyo emva kokubelana ngesondo. Into eyona nto kukuba akukho mntu ufanele azive evakalelwa ngothando.

Inketho yesithathu kukuba, emva koko, uthando. Kule meko, umntu ogxininisa ubuhlobo naye uyaqonda ukuba unemvakalelo. Mhlawumbi bekunye naye ekuqaleni, kodwa akazange akwazi ukuzivuma yena, umhlobo wakhe, uye kumhlobo, ngokubanzi, phambi kwabo bonke. Iimeko ezinje, kwaye zihlala zanele. Abantu bafihla emva kwesondo ukufihla umnqweno wokwakha ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, olu khetho lona luhle kwaye luyamkeleka kumacala omabini.

Ngoko, sinokugqiba ukuba kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwano phakathi kwamadoda kunye namantombazana. Ingaba ngumhlobo ococekileyo, uthando olumsulwa kunye nomtsalane ohamba phakathi kwezi ngcamango. Yiyo le ngxaki eyona nto iphikisanayo kwaye yenza ukuba uzibuze ukuba kukho uthando ngaphandle kobuhlobo, kunye nohlobo olungenalo uthando.