Xa ufika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini, ushiywe wodwa nawe. I-melancholy enamandla ivula i-cocoon enzima. Uzibamba ucinga ukuba sele usathetha ngokuvakalayo kunye nemikhosi yesiteshi sakho senomathotholo oyintandokazi, kwaye iTV ephathekayo ibe yilungu elipheleleyo lentsapho ... Ngokubhekiselele kwintlanzi yabesifazane, indlela yokujongana nayo kwaye iya kuxutyushwa ngezantsi.
Ukuzixhalaba yindlela yokwazisa ngokwakho, njengento yonke eliliweyo, ekhutshiwe, eshiywe, eshiyiwe. Ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukulwa kunye nesizungu, kufuneka uqonde izizathu zayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ezintathu kuphela:
Ukulindela ngokweqile
Imiqathango yethu kaninzi ayifani nemilinganiselo yabanye abantu. Abantu abakujikelezileyo kubonakala ngathi sisisithakazelo, singathandeki, sinokomoya. Ukukhangela umntu ofanelekileyo kunxibelelwano kunokulibaziseka, kunye nosongelo lokuba ubomi buhlale bodwa buya kukhula kuphela.
Isixazululo:
Musa ukukhangela umntu ophelileyo, umhlobo ophelileyo. Akukho zizathu! Ngokuqhelekileyo umfanekiso ongenakunqwenelekayo awunakuvela kwimfundiso yokwenene yangokwenene, kodwa kuvela kwiingcamango zomntu. Uxhumo oluphukileyo kunye nehlabathi lokwenyaniso alunakuvumela ukuba siqonde ukuba ebomini obuqhelekileyo aba bantu abanokuba ngabahlobo abahle, abathintana nabo, abathandi. Ngokukhawuleza uza kufumana "amanqabana" amaninzi kunoma yimuphi umntu, oya kubakhokelela ekulahlekelweni kwanoma yiphi inqabileyo. Isisombululo esihle kakhulu kukugxila kwi "pluses".
Ukwesaba ukukhishwa, ukwesaba ukunxibelelana
Njengazo naluphi uloyiko, ukwesaba ukunxibelelana kubangelwa ukuzithoba. Uloyiko lokuthetha nabantu abangafaneleki, ngenxa yokwesaba ukungabi nantoni. Kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba awufanelanga uthando, ngoko awuyi kulinda! Khumbula oku.
Isixazululo:
Ukuthetha ngokubanzi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani kwaye kungathandeki ekuqaleni. Akukho ndawo yokuhlala ekhaya lonke ixesha! Umntu onqwenelayo kunye nomntu oyedwa kuphela ongenakwenzeka ukuba avele ngokukhawuleza "ukusuka apho ungayi". Awudingi ukufumana i heroine yebhayisikili eyaziwayo ekhangela phantsi kombhede iminyaka emashumi mane, ezama ukufumana indoda apho, kwaye emva kwamashumi amabini anesigxina enye, ukuze amathuba okukwazi ukunyuka.
Ngoku izigidi zabantu ziyazi i-Intanethi. Oku, akunjalo, akusisona sitshixo sempumelelo, kuba abantu bahlala befuna ubudlelwane bexesha elilodwa. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abaninzi kwinethiwekhi bavakalisa ngaphandle kokwesaba iimvakalelo zabo, ukuthandana ngothando kunye nokudlala ngothando. Khetha! Ungakhawulezi ukuba uxhomeke entanyeni ye-blonde ephathekayo kunye nefayile yeprofayili kuphela ngenxa yokuba uthe akukho nto.
Ukungafuni ukuthetha
Abantu abanjalo babonakala benqwenela ukunxibelelana, kodwa ngokukhawuleza banamathisela kwaye inzala ilahlekile. Ukuvakalelwa kwedwa kunye neendawo ezahlukeneyo zokudandatheka kulo mzekelo zivela ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa phakathi kweminqweno yabo yemfihlelo kunye nokuphendula kwabantu. Olu hlobo lonwabo alusekelwe kumntu, kodwa kwiimpawu zakho. Iphutha zizonke izicwangciso zakho ezicwangcisiweyo, ezinzima ukulungisa.
Isixazululo:
Zama ukuzithanda! Hlala ngokuvisisana nelizwe lakho eliphakathi. Ewe, akulula. Ekuqaleni, kuya kufuneka siyeke ukubona ihlabathi njengoko kubonwa ngabasetyhini abadala kwi-benki, bebuza: "Kwenzeka njani ukuba uneminyaka engama-30 kwaye ungatshatanga, ungabantwana?". Ukuqeqeshwa ngokuzenzekelayo, hlawula lonke ixesha lakho lokukhulula. Yenza into oyithandayo, gcwalisa usuku ngeemvakalelo ezikhanyayo. Jonga ibhayisikobho yakho oyintandokazi, uthathe uhambo ngaphambi kokulala, uthathe ibhafu elifudumeleyo, funda incwadi yakho oyithandayo, mamela umculo. Kumntu osasaza ukuvumelana, abantu bahlala belula. Ubumnandi obumnandi kunye nethemba lakho aliyi kushiya abanye abangaboniyo.