Umnqweno womntu ukuba athande kwaye abe nolwalamano luqhelekileyo into eqhelekileyo kubo bonke abantu. Kukholelwa ukuba abantu abangenalo uthando lwesini esahlukileyo, baninzi kunezifo ezingapheliyo nezinye izifo. Ngoko masicinge ngoluphi uthando kunye nendlela yokuyifumana? Ngokuqinisekileyo, abaninzi babuza lo mbuzo, impendulo awazange bayifumane.
Sifuna ingxaki.
Vumelana ukuba kuhle kakhulu ukujonga isibini esithandanayo, indoda kunye nomfazi abathandana ngayo yonke intliziyo yabo. Abambalwa bayazi ukuba yintoni uthando lwenene lweentliziyo ezimbini ezilungileyo. Enyanisweni, kule planethi bambalwa abantu bayazi indlela yokulala ngesondo ngokuchanekileyo, nangona banesifiso sozesondo. Ingxaki kukuba abantu abazi indlela yokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo ngokumalunga nabanye, kungenxa yoko oku baziva bengenanto ngaphandle kwabo kwaye bazame ngawo onke amandla ukuba bafumane konke abakwaziyo.
Uninzi lwethu luyimfuneko ngempela indoda eselula, kwi-satellite, ezininzi zinengxaki ezininzi ekufumaneni umntu onjalo. Abantu bazama ukufumana uthando lokufuduka kwilizwe lenene, ukusuka kuyo nayiphi na ubunzima babo kwaye bazama ukuvalela kwihlabathi labo, apho kungekho mntu uya kubachaphazela. Abantu abanjalo bavame ukufumana izizathu ezininzi, abanye bathi ukuze bazive bevuya, kufuneka umntu othile okhethekileyo, abanye bathi akukho nto ifuna ukuba yenzeke, kwaye iqabane lakho kufuneka likufumene. Ekupheleni kwesizathu, abantu abanjalo abafumani nabani, okanye bafumane, kodwa badidekile kumntu. Ngamnye wethu uzama ukukholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane buyakwazi ukuhlala ubomi kunye nokuba iimvakalelo zihleli ngonaphakade. Nangona kunjalo, iimvakalelo zineendawo zokuhlala kwirefri, kodwa ziza kuhlala zide kangakanani kuphela kubantu abathandanayo. Sifuna ukukholelwa ukuba okhethiweyo wethu ulindele kwindawo ethile, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esingaqondakaliyo sihlala sizifumana kwindawo engafanelekanga ngexesha lokungafanelekanga kwaye sikhethe umntu ongalunganga. Uthando alulula ukuyifumana, kuba le nto ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba ube nomonde.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, abantu ababazi nje ukuba ngubani abayidingayo kwaye abayi kuze baqaphele nantoni na, ukuba kungekhona ukufumana okuthile okubalulekileyo.
Kwenzeka ntoni?
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umntu othembele ekudaleni, ungumnikazi weembono zefilosofi zobomi. Uthando luvakalelo oluphucula kakhulu indlela yokuphila. Vumelana ukuba xa simthanda ngokwenene, asinakucinga ngathi ngathi, sinokucinga ngento yokububula, sicinga ngeqabane. Ukuthanda ukuhlonipha, ukuxabisa, ukunceda, ukumhlonela abantu. Nangona abesini ngesini bengenayo ingcamango echanekileyo yento abayidingayo kwaye ngubani abayidingayo, ekugqibeleni baya kubhekana nento ethiwa "ingxaki yobundlelwane", kwaye ayiyi kuzisa ukwaneliseka kumntu. Iphelisa ngento yokuba abantu abatsha baya kuhlolisana ukuze bafumane iimpendulo kwimibandela enomdla. Esi sibini siza kulingana, kwaye oku akuyi kubakho nantoni na, kuya kuba negalelo ekudakaleni. Kwaye kwezinye iimeko kwenzeka ukuba abantu abakwazi ukuqonda kunye nokuzama ukufumana ukuqonda komnye umntu, benethemba lokufumana uthando ngexesha elifanayo. Ngamanye amaqela kwiimeko ezinjalo alindele ummangaliso kwiqabane lawo, kodwa ekugqibeleni adidekile aze adibanise, ngelixa bevalelwa.
Ndingayifumana njani uthando?
Ukufumana uthando lokwenene kunye nokuziphatha, kunele ukuba ube nomonde omkhulu kwaye wenze intshutshiso eninzi kulo. Kufuneka ube neengcamango ezichanekileyo zeziphi iimpawu kunye nalapho uza kufumana khona umfana oza kukulandela. Namhlanje kukho iindlela ezininzi zokufumana umntu ogqibeleleyo. Ungasebenzisa i-Intanethi, yiya kwesosiza ukuze ufunde kakuhle.
Wonke umntu udinga uthando lokwenene nolungenabugovu. Akunzima ukufumana uthando, ukuba wenza imizamo eninzi kwaye ube nomonde. Musa ithemba lokuba uthando luya kubonakala ebomini bethu. Kufuneka ufunde indlela ozenza ngayo, ngexesha lethu kukho iindlela ezininzi kunye nokwenza ukwazi umntu kwaye ukhethe ofanelekileyo. Zonke ezandleni zakho, zilwela ulonwabo!