Umzabalazo wokuphumelela.
Yonke into iyaziwa ukuba kubalulekile ukuba amadoda abe okanye ubuncinane abonakale aphumelele. Khawucinge nje ngolu hlobo: umntu wakho ungumkhokeli ocacileyo okanye ufuna ukuba nguye, kodwa impumelelo yikho kuphela. Ufanele aqinisekise ukuba akabi nakakhulu, kungekhona nje kuwe, kodwa nakwabahlobo, izalamane, kwaye, ngokubalulekileyo, kuye. Masithi uqale umsebenzi wakho ngexesha elifanayo kunye nezimo ezilinganayo: imfundo efanayo, izakhono ezilinganayo, iinjongo kunye neenjongo. Kwiminyaka embalwa usuvele ungumphathi, kwaye usengumabhalana onokuthobeka. Indoda iya kubakho uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo, ukuzama ukuqhubeka kunye nawe, iya kubona i-grins nokuba ingabaphi, inomona kuwe kunye nempumelelo yakho, nakwamanye amadoda aphumelele. Enyanisweni, izibini ezinjalo zifumana utshintsho kwiimboli zesini, apho inkokheli ingunaphakade okanye ixeshana ngumfazi.
Ukuba uyaluxabisa indoda yakho, zama ukukwenza ubomi bakhe bube lula, kuba uninzi kangakanani ukuziphatha naye, kuxhomekeka kakhulu kulwalamano lwakho. Ukuba unomona ngabalingane bakhe, musa ukuzifihlela. Umzekelo, mema indoda yakho eofisini, apho unokuqiniseka ukuba, nangona uphumelele, akanalo abachaseneyo. Ukumncoma, uhlawule ngakumbi ingqalelo kubantu, kodwa iimpawu zobungcali. Ukudumisa akulona ubuhle kunye namandla, kodwa ingqiqo, ukukwazi ukucinga ngokucwangcisekileyo, ukubonela phambili. Kodwa ungayithobeli, iya kubonakala ngokukhawuleza. Ziqhenyce ngaye, kwaye makumve njalo ngokuthanda kwakhe.
Ukulwa "ngendondo".
Kwiimeko ezininzi, indoda yakho ethandekayo ikude neyokuqala, kwaye iyazi kakuhle kakuhle. Nangona ebonisa ukuba uyabambelela kwiimbono zamahhala kwaye akananto echasene nayo, ukuba ngaphambi kokuba ube namava kulwalamano, oku akuthethi nantoni na ukuba akabi. Indoda inikwe inani elikhulu lokwesaba kunye neengxaki, esingenakukwazi ukuzicingela. Uhlala eqhathanisa nabo baye bahlala kunye nawe ngaphambili, kwaye oku kuthelekiswayo akunqabile. Indoda ifuna ukuba yowokuqala kunye neyona nto ibhetele, kodwa imbali yakhe ibele iinduna ezinkulu zezocansi ezikujikelezile ngaphambili.
Mkhusele kwiingxaki ezingadingekile. Musa ukuphendula imibuzo echukumisayo, ungamcaphukisi ukuba ungoyena mhle kunabo bonke. Nangona oku akunjalo. Ukuze udlule umona, kunelungelo lokumkholisa ukuba awunakuvuyela ubukhulu, ubuchule okanye ubude, kodwa kuphela kwinto yokuba nguye owenzayo. Oku kuya kumnceda ukuba akholelwe kuye.
Ukulwa nemimoya.
Ubudlelwane obunakho phambi kwendoda yakho, oku akusona nje ithuba lokungabaza ebhedeni. Ngokuqinisekileyo ukhankanya umntu owayedlulile - umntu ombi kakhulu, umntu omhle kakhulu, umntu wakuphosa, umntu othile. Indoda yakho inomsindo, iyatshise ngomona okanye umona. Kanti uhlala engathandabuzi ukuba uyamthanda kakhulu, awucingi ukuba ucinga ngento ocinga ngayo ngo-Vasya olahlekileyo okanye umfazi we-Petya?
Okokuqala, thintela iingxoxo ezinjalo kunye nonke. Ukuba ufuna ukuxoxa ngento ethile, zigqibo wena-kuthetha nentombi yakho okanye isazi sezengqondo. Ukuqala, wena ngokwakho kufuneka uvale ngokupheleleyo umnyango wobudlelwane bakho obudlulileyo. Ukuba imibuzo kunye neengxoxo ziphakama, zithemba ukuba yonke into ebeyidlulileyo ayifanelekanga ingqalelo. Kholisa indoda ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uyonwabile.
Umzabalazo welungelo lobumfihlo.
Ngaba awuzange uqaphele ukuba amadoda awanqabile kakhulu ukwabelana nawo ngamava abo? Kwaye, mhlawumbi usukwazi ukuphawula ukuba iingxoxo zakho zexesha elide okanye uxoxe kunye neentombi ezisekhitshini, nazo, azizondli umntu? Akaqondi nje ukuba kutheni ukuba anikezele kwiingxaki zobomi bakho bemizi. Oku kukuthi kuwe, Lena okanye uMarina - abahlobo abakhulu abavela kwii-nursery, kodwa kuye le yinto evamile. Ukongeza, amadoda ayesolokoyika ukuba ezi ngxoxo aziyi kuxoxwa ngazo iimpawu zabo ezimnandi, zonke iintsilelo kunye neempazamo.
Okokuqala, ungafihli kwiintombi zakho ubuhlobo bakho, mhlawumbi bazakuzama ukufumana ulwazi ngokwabo, oku kungakhokelela kwimiphumo engalindelekanga. Kodwa ungathethi kakhulu, kuba nayiphi na ingcaciso ingasetyenziswa ngokumelene nawe. Thetha kuphela into ongayi kuba neentloni ukuva kwabanye.
Ulwalamano luhlala lusebenza. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba asiyiyo yodwa esinokuyikrakra, umona, umona okanye uphoswe. Yinyamekele indoda yakho, kuba ngamanye amaxesha iyancinci kwaye ifuna kakhulu ukukhuselwa kunye nokunakekelwa kwethu.