Ndiyintombazana yokubukeka obubanzi kunye nomntu ongudala obomvu. Kodwa kungekudala, ndavumile ukuba ndibe ngumfazi kwaye ndiza kucacisa ukuba kutheni ndizange ndikwenze oku ngaphambili. Andizange kumangaliswe kunokuba ndibandakanyeke ngoDisemba kunyaka ophelileyo. Ndiyamazi umyeni ebomini bam bonke: siye esikolweni kunye, iminyaka elishumi elinesithathu edlulileyo sadibana nehlobo lonke, kodwa ke wonke umntu waya ngendlela yakhe. Xa abahlobo bam befumanisa ukuba sichitha yonke le minyaka ngokwahlukileyo kunye noGosha, baqala ukulila ukuba bahlala ngokugqibeleleyo. Kodwa ngokwabo, ndicinga ukuba le minyaka yam-ubutyebi bam. Gosh, ndiqinisekile, akazisoli nokuba ...
I-esile iyisiseko, indlu eqinile, kwaye yintoni eqondwa ngobunzima, ngoko ke sixabiseke ngakumbi, "kubhala enye. Wayeyazi into awayicula ngayo: imidlalo eyenziwa kakuhle idinga inkululeko. Baye bavumela ukuba siqokelele amava enkqonkqo, eqinisekisa ukuzama ukuqonda okulungileyo nokubi ngakwesobunxele kwintsapho. Emva kokuhlalutya kwam amava kunye namava amnandi abahlobo bam, ndafika kwisigqibo sokuba kufuneka kube neendawo ezili-10 zokuguqula ebomini babo bonke abafazi. Kwaye, ngaphambi nje kokuba athathe isigqibo sokuthi "yebo" kumntu ofanelekileyo aze agcine ilizwi lakhe. Le mizuzu imigaqo yegolide eya kunceda ebomini ngamnye wethu. Indlela endibanceda ngayo kanye.
1. KUKHULULE UKUFUNA UKUFUNA UKUFUNA.
Umhlobo wam uAnne uneminyaka engama-28 ubudala, kwaye ungumfazi onengqiqo. Ngexesha elifanayo, ukholelwa ukuba ukuhamba ngothuthulo luyimfuneko ebalulekileyo ekuthandweni. Kwiminyaka emihlanu edlulileyo, u-Anna wadibana nomfana, owayemthandana naphezu kokuba ibunzi lakhe lalikhanyisa ukubhala "kuya kuba neengxaki". Ngobunye ubusuku kwinqanaba elincamisayo. Kwaye wavuma phantsi kokuchaphazeleka kotywala kunye neenyawo zakhe. Kodwa inyanga ezimbini ngaphambi komtshato, watshintsha ingqondo yakhe waza wavala loo nto. Kutheni? "Esikhundleni sohambo lwangothando kunye nam, wambongoza uPeter ukuba athethe iqela elithile, endixelela yona ngeposi." UAna akazange aphendule kwileta, njengoko akazange athathe ingxaki yokubuyisela indandatho ayeyifumene kwi-sham. Ekuhambeni, wahamba wedwa waza wabiza imali efanelekileyo kwimali efunyenwe kwivenkile yeevenkile. Ngaselunxwemeni, wadibana noTolik, kungekhona kuyo yonke inxila kwaye akayiyo yonke into. Iinyanga ezimbalwa ezasayina - ngaphandle kwengxolo engaphezulu kunye nothuli lwedayimane.
2. UNGAKHUMBI UKUZIPHATHA INTSHA.
Kwisihlwele sam bahlobo bam, u-27, ininzi ye-pedantic. Kwaye i jeans yome-ihlambulukile. Kwaye le fifa ithi umlingane wakhe walethe enye yezo nzuzo, apho kuyo yonke imihla yonyaka unconywa ukuba i-acrobatic pose. Umyeni wagxininisa kwi "wheel wheel" (le ntokazi ihlala izandla zayo phantsi, kwaye iqabane liphakamisa imilenze). "Andizange ndivuyiswe gqitha ngokuba ngu-raskoryachivatsya phambi kwintanda yakho, othe wandifuna ukuba ndibonelele ngegama lakhe. Kodwa inzululwazi yanda. Kwaye andizange ndizisole! "Umyeni naye wayethanda le midlalo-kwaye isibonelelo asizange silinde, kodwa uAlisa uchitha ixesha. Kuye kubonakala kuye ukuba ukulala komtshato akulula ukubuyela kwigumbi lokuhlwaya. Yaye umyeni uzama. Iingcinga.
3. UKUQHUBEKA UKUQALA.
Ewe, ewe, lo ngumthetho wegolide. Ngaphantsi kwenyanga edlulileyo, isoka lam isithandwa uGosh sandiyisa esitolo ukuze ndikhethe idesksi. "Ndiyathanda loo nto, ngehashe elimhlophe," ndathi. "Nangona loo mlenze ungcono ..." UGosh wahleka: "Ngokombono wam, awukwazi ukwenza izigqibo nonke." Ndatshitshiswa ngomsindo, kwaye waqhubeka emomotheka de ndize ndiyi-damn, ulungile! Lo ngumzuzwana xa uthobile kwaye uzivuma ngokuzithoba wena kunye naye ukuba ngezinye iindlela usabuthakathaka, kwaye uthetha ukuba iicandelo ze smalt ziye zaveliswa kumzekelo olula kunye nomhle-enye enye. Ukuzibona njengento ebuthathaka akulula, kodwa kuyimfuneko. Intlungu yokuqonda iimpazamo zakho ayihlali ngaphezu kweentlungu ezibangelwa ukucinywa. Kodwa uvuyo lokuba nethemba lokuba uyazi kwaye uyakuqonda kakuhle, uphilisa umphefumlo wakho bonke ubomi bakho.
4. FUNDA UKUTHI.
Umhlobo wam uSasha, oneminyaka eyi-25, uyaqiniseka ukuba ukulwa neenyembezi nokuxhaphaza kuye kwaguqula ubomi bakhe. Yonke yaqala ngento yokuba uSasha owamkela phambili uqala ukudlala ngothando kwi-bar kunye naye wangaphambili kunye no-Sasha. Wathukuthela, nomhlobo wam - naye. "Ndandithukuthele! Kodwa ndaqonda ukuba ukuba asiyi kuchazi, ngoko siya kuhlutha ngonaphakade. Kwafuneka ndivume ukuba lo mkhonto wawuhle kakhulu kunami. Kodwa njengoko sasixolelanisa! "Eyona nto, le meko yayisindiswe ngokukodwa ngokukwazi ukuqonda ubuthathaka. Kwaye ukukwazi ukuphazamisa. Kwaye ngaphandle kokubomi bentsapho - akukho ndawo.
5. AKUBA UFUNELE UKUFUMA ISIZO SOS.
Singafaneli sibonise ubuthathaka bethu kubantu. Kwaye nje, njengoko umhlobo wam uEvgenia afumene. 26. "Ndiye ndagqiba ekubeni ndixhomeke iincwadi zokufunda zam," kukhumbula umfazi owayezimeleyo. - Kwaye phantse ukuba ndiphumelele-de kube i-screw yawa kwaye yonke isakhiwo saqala ukuwa phezu kwam. Ndamemeza, wagijima waza wabamba i-regiment. Yaye yathi: "Akusiyo ishishini likaTsar, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akuyilo mfazi. Andifuni ukubuza? Kwaye, mna, ndonwabile ukuzalisekisa naziphi na izicelo zakho. " Indlela yokuziphatha: uthando - lwamkela uncedo lwakhe. Kwaye esihogweni ngokukhulula!
6. FUNDA UKUQALA IMISEBENZI.
Ukulandela lo mgaqo wegolide, into ephambili ayikuze ifike emva kwezigqibo. Kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo isithandwa sithandana siphendulela kum: sithandeka, sisityebi kwaye sinyanzele - ndingavumi ukuba ndizalele. Kodwa xa kwakufuneka siye kwindawo ethile, ndiziva ndingonwabi. Wayekhohlakele kwaye ehlaziyileyo ebantwini kunye nangaphandle. Ekugqibeleni wayeka ukundibiza, kwaye ... yandiva ndive ngcono. Ukukhangela indoda ngokweloluhlu lwemilinganiselo yinkcitho yexesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, mna, emva kokuphuma igama elithi "imali", wabhala "ukuhleka" okuvela phezulu. Kwaye ubomi buncumo kimi namhla.
7. UNGAKHULU UKUYA KWI-MOUNTAIN.
Bathi umntu ongcono kakhulu uyaziwa ngeholide. Umhlobo wam uJulia, oneminyaka engu-25, wathi emva kohambo oluya eBurma ubudlelwane bakhe beminyaka emibili kunye noMarik othile ngokukhawuleza waqhakaza. Ngolunye usuku isikhokelo sasiholele entabeni apho unyawo lendoda yaseNtshona lathi aluzange linyathele. U-Yulia uthi: "Asizange sisebenze ngokukodwa kwezokhenketho." - Kwaye kwabekwa umzila malunga namaqabunga. Iimbilini ziyazinikezelwa, kwaye ukuze kungabi phantsi, kukho isilingo esinzima sokuwela kumntu osondele. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuzange kwenzeke - i-Marik, kungeyona uhlobo olubi kakhulu kwihlabathi, lwabonakala lukhuni kwaye luzinzi. Kwaye ndaqonda: ukuba umntu onjalo ndayiphakamisa intaba kwaye ndiyiphilile iphilile kwaye ingabonakali, ngoko kufuneka siqhube kunye nemingcipheko ecaleni lokuhlala ndawonye. " Ukususela ngoko baqhuba: kunye kwaye abaphumelelanga.
8. INJONGO YOKUBHALA.
Sekuyiminyaka siye sagxeka wethu umzobo, kwaye akukho nonyango olungcono kulolu xhatshazo kunomntu osikhuphayo sonke ngaphandle kokulandelwa. Umhlobo wam, u-Ira, oneminyaka engama-30, usitshela ngomyeni wakhe: "Siye sahlala kunye ixesha elide, kodwa xa ndigxotha, usengenakonwaba. Ndiyabulela ngentliziyo yakhe, ndiyathemba ngobulili bam kunye nangamandla olwalamano lwethu. " Ndingayongeza ntoni apha ...
9. I-SMELL YOKUPHATHWA KWEZINDAWO.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokwasemtshatweni Le ngxaki. Kodwa emva kweqabunga elithandanayo kunokuqinisekileyo ukuba yi-thaw le-merry kunye nokufudumala okulawulayo - ngokubhekiselele kuyo yonke imithetho yendalo yonke. Into ebalulekileyo enye: umnqweno wokwazi, nangona kukho konke, umntu ngaphambi kokuphela kweentsuku ozilahlile.
10. I-SMOOTH UKUBHALISA AMAZIKO.
Vumela enye kuphela, kodwa ndinayo. Ngaba ndimele ndixelele? Amanani. Emva koko yena kunye nemfihlelo, ukwenzela ukuba angabonakalisi iinkcukacha. Kulungile, ndiza kuthi: kwakuseCuba phantsi kwemasundu. Ezi zikhumbuzo endiziphetheyo njengentliziyo yesibini, ndiva ukubetha okuye ndilahlekelwa yintloko yam. Ubukho beemfihlelo bubonisa ukuba ubomi abuzange budlule. Kwaye ziyimfuneko, kangangokuthi kwiminyaka engama-95 kwisitulo sokugungqa isisigxina kumntu oye wahamba ecaleni.
Kakade ke, malunga nama-10 okugxotha ebomini babo bonke abesifazana banokuba ixesha elide ukuphikisana. Omnye unokunye okanye ngaphantsi - akubalulekanga kakhulu. Into ephambili kukuba uhambe phambi kokuba wenze ukhetho olubalulekileyo kuwe. Yiya kwimimiselo yegolide eya kunceda ebomini. Ukuze ukwazi ukuziqonda. Zikwamkele. Kwaye zonke izinto ziya kuvela, kwaye ziya kulungiswa, kwaye ziza kufakwa kwiithalafu, kwaye aziyi kudibana nodonga lweengxaki zebhanali. Akukho.