Unxibelelwano olungalinganisiyo ngokunyanisekileyo kumagama, ngokuyinene yindlela yokuziphatha ebonisa ukungaqiniseki kwethu ngaphakathi. Emva koko, amagama angakhohliswa, kuba ukusasazwa kwindawo yethu yokuqonda. Kodwa ulwimi lomzimba lubhekisela kwiisayinwe zokungena. Abazivumeli ekulawuleni ngokupheleleyo ukuqonda kwaye ngaloo ndlela baveze bethu abazalwana bethu iimvakalelo kunye neenjongo zethu. Yingakho akufanele uhlasele ukubaluleka kokunxibelelana okungathethiyo.
Ukuze sifunde izinto ezisiseko zeelwimi zomzimba, kufuneka sijonge ngakumbi kwizinto zomzimba zethu kunye nempawu yezandla zabanye, kwaye sifunde nendlela yokulawula nokuzichaza. Ulwazi olusisiseko ngolwimi olungacacanga ulwimi, oludla ngokubonakalisa iimvakalelo, lusinceda kule nto.
Ukuvuleka . Ukubonakaliswa kwayo kuboniswa ngumzimba onjalo wokuvula njengoko, izandla, iintendelezo phezulu, ezibhekiselele kumnxibelelanisi, uhlala ehambelana nenyaniso, ukunyaniseka nokungafihli kweenjongo; ukuxhathisa amahlombe; okanye ususe ibhokisi lakho ngethuba. Jonga abantwana, babonisa ngokucacileyo izandla zabo xa beqhayisa ngeempumelelo zabo, baze bafihle izandla zabo emva kwemva yabo okanye kwiipokotshi zabo xa benetyala.
Vavanyo. Unokuzibonakalisa kwizandla zomzimba: ukusuka kwisicwangciso kunye nokuphupha (xa umntu ekhupha intloko ngesandla sakhe) nethemba lokuzuza (i-rubbing vigorous of palm trees). Oku kungumqondiso wokuvavanya ngokucokisekileyo - inqanaba ihlala entendeni, kwaye isalathiso somunwe solule kwisitramu, oko kuthetha ukuthi: "Masibone oko unokukwazi." Intloko ekhotyeleyo ithetha ingqwalasela kwisihloko sencoko kunye nomnxibelelwano ngokukodwa. Ikhefu lokwenza isigqibo sokugqibela kwimiba ethile ukutshitshisa i-chin kunye nokuxhaphaza iziglasi (gubha, ujikeleze, udibanise umphathi wesakhelo).
Ukudideka - okubonakalisa ukuphefumula okufutshane okufutshane, ukuzithengela kuye. Ukuwela esiphambanini, izandla ezisezantsi zibonisa uphawu lokuzikhusela. Bakha uhlobo lwesithintelo esimele sikhusele umntu kwiimeko ezinokuba yingozi okanye engqondweni - oku kuwuphawu lokuba umntu uzizwa engakhuselekanga. Isilingo sokuqala sokukhusela sitshitshisa intamo ngesandla okanye sitshintshele i-hairstyle (kubasetyhini).
Ukuzithiba kubonakalisa ngokuthandabuza okubonakalayo kunye nomzimba onamandla, obonisa umnqweno wokuqonda ubuninzi beemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezingalawulekiyo. Ibonakalisa kwiibhokhwe ezihlanjelwe emva, i-convulsive shrug ngesinye isandla sesibindi okanye ingxenyana yecala, ukunyanzeliswa kweengalo zengalo okanye iingcambu zetafile. Le nto ifana nombuso ngokulindela iziphumo zeemviwo ezibalulekileyo okanye ukulinda emnyango wodokotela wamazinyo.
Ukhathazeka ngumpawu wokuziphatha komntu ongafihla ukucaphuka kwakhe ngesihloko kwintetho, ukuthunyelwa kwakhe, okanye ukuthunyelwa kwakhe. Ukususela kumntu onjalo unokuva ukukhwehlela, njengokucima umqala wakho, kwaye uqaphele iinzame zokuphazamisa ingxoxo, ebonakaliswa kumdlalo nge-lobe yendlebe yakho (ukubetha, ukukrola) - uhlobo lomzamo wokubambelela ngokungathandekiyo ingongoma yolwazi olungadingekanga kwindlebe yakho. Kwakhona, ukuxhatshazwa kwangaphakathi kwemizwa (ukungaqiniseki, ukwesaba) kungabonakaliswa ngentshukumo yangaphandle yeminwe: umntwana usana ngomnwe, umntwana uyasigxina kwiikhonkwane, umntu omdala udlala ipeni okanye ipensela.
Ubungakanani bhondi bubonakaliswa xa umntu eqala ukugquma, naye ubeka intloko yakhe ngezandla zakhe, uthayathe ngenyawo okanye ipeni, udwebe ngokukhawuleza kwiphepha, ngokubhekisele kude nakubakho.
Ukugqwesa (inzuzo ngaphezu komnxibelelwano) kunokuvelelwa ukuba sele uhamba ngokubambisana ngesandla-umntu onokuzithemba uyagubha ngesandla sakho, ngelixa eguqula ngendlela ephakamileyo isandla sakhe. Kwakhona, ukuphakama kubonakaliswe kwisihlalo esihlawulelwayo "i-waldle", izandla ephakamileyo xa uthetha, kubangela ukubonakala. Kodwa umntu obuthakathaka unikela isandla sokubingelelana ngesundu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlawula umlinganiselo wobuthathaka, umntu onjalo unokuthabatha umzekelo "izandla ezandleni", eziya kumnika uhlobo lokumelana. Okanye ukuxhoma izandla zombini kwitafile.
Kwimeko yomntu womntu unokukwazi ukuxelela ukunyameka kwakhe xa ehleli, kunye nokuhamba ngexesha ehamba. Ukuwela imilenze, ukufihla phantsi kwesiguwu sezitulo kukubonakalisa ukungaqiniseki, njengokuba uhleli emphethweni wesihlalo, ubambe isikhwama esiphakameni sakho (uhlobo lwesithintelo phakathi kwakho kunye nomnye umntu.) Ukwesaba nokuxhatshazwa kwangaphakathi kubonakalisa uxinzelelo olunzulu kunye neengalo zesitulo sekhanda okanye isikhwama. Ubungqina obungabonakaliyo buso bubonisa ukuzithiba ngokweqile. Esikhundleni sokuba uhlale "udibanisa" esihlalweni, ukuxhomekeka okanye ukubeka emilenzeni yodwa kubonisa ukungabikho ntlonelo kumnxibelelwano okanye ukukhuliswa kakubi.
I-Optimum yimiyalezo ekhululekile xa uhleli: uthatha i-e-mail ekhululekile, unamathele amahlombe akho ngasemva, imilenze yincinci yecala okanye ibambe ndawonye, faka izandla zakho phezu kwezihlalo zesitulo okanye ngamadolo, ungaxhuma i-lobes yeminwe yakho.
Xa uhamba, unokwazi ukubona umntu othembekileyo (umzimba ochanekileyo, ophakanyisiwe intloko, ophakanyisiweyo); ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza (ukubetha izithende zakhe) kunika umntu ongenakubalwa nabanye; Ukunyuka kunye nokunyakaza kwamanyathelo kubonisa ukungakhathali nokunyaniseka. Ukuzingela, intloko efihlakeleyo emagxeni, ukuxubha kweenyawo, ngokuchaseneyo, ukubonisa ukunyaniseka nokucinezelwa komntu.
Umntu unemizuzwana embalwa ukuvelisa impembelelo yokuqala, edla ngokuba yinto ebalulekileyo ekuquluneni uluvo malunga nomnxibelelwano ongaqhelekanga.
Iyona "mithetho yegolide" eyintloko yeengxoxo ezilungileyo:
- Gqoka ngokuhambelana nendawo apho intlanganiso iya kubanjwa khona: i-theater ayifaki iingubo, kodwa kwiintlanganiso zezoshishino zigqoka ngokuvuleka.
- Hlangana nomnxibelelwano ngeemeko ezintle kunye nokumnandi okumnandi.
- Kwi-handshake yamashishini - unganyanzelisi isandla se-interlocutor ngesifo, ungagxininisi. Ukuxinwa kufuneka kuqiniseke kwaye kuzinze ukulungiswa.
- Yamkela ukuvuleka okuvulekile: musa ukuwela iinqalo okanye imilenze, ungagubungeli ubuso bakho.
- Gcina uqhagamshelane neqabane lakho, kodwa ungayidluli. Ngexesha loxubusho lwezoshishino, abantu bajonge abadibanisa nabo 30-60% yendibano yonke. Uqhagamshelwano olude lubonelela ukuba awunomdla kwisihloko kwintetho, kodwa kwi-interlocutor ngokwayo.
"Musa ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakho, nangona xa unomdla." Kwakhona ungazithembi phantsi kwempumlo yakho. Thetha ngokukhawuleza, ukuthetha ngokucacileyo amagama.
- Bamba imizimba, ukugqithisa ngokweqile kukufaka ubungqina bentloni.
- Musani ukunikela izandi ezingafaniyo - musa ukululela iipumlo, ungakhubeki, ungaqhubeki ngokuhleka.
- Gcina imigaqo yendawo yokuthandana. Wonke umntu unomda ongaphakathi wakhe wobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ungaziqhelani kakhulu nomnxibelelwano, musa ukumbamba ngasemva, musa ukubamba izandla zakho kwaye ungahlali kakhulu.
Indlela yokuthetha ibalulekile kwakhona:
- Ukuba ubona umntu okokuqala - zizise. Thetha ngokucacileyo, ukuze umnxibelelwano akhumbule.
- Ngokwale meko, khetha kwakhona indlela yokuthetha (isandi sezwi, umthamo, intonation), nokuba nesigama - emva kokuba sonke sisebenzisa ukujika okuhlukeneyo ekhaya okanye ngexesha leengxoxo zoshishino.
- Gwema amagama angenakuguqulwa, amagama aphikisayo kunye nezibongozo ze "eee," "kakuhle," kunye nabanye.
- Ungagxininisi kuphela kuwe, ukuba ufuna ukuhlonishwa - funda ukuphulaphula umnxibelelwano.
- Thetha kubantu abangaqhelekanga kwizihloko ezingathathi hlangothi (izinto zokuzilibazisa, izilwanyana, imozulu), ukuze ungacinezeli uxolo olucinezelayo. Akuyimfuneko kumntu wokuqala owaziyo ukuphendula ngokwemvakalelo ngomphathi wakhe, usebenza naye, umhlobo okanye izalamane.
Xa unomxholo obalulekileyo oza kuxhomekeka kwixesha elizayo, zama ukukhumbula isicatshulwa esilula seelwimi kunye nokuchaphazela ukuba ungenelelanga nje ngeendlela ezikholisayo kunye nobungqina, kodwa usebenzise nezindlela ezingenanto. Imisindo, ubuso obuso, ukuxhoma - esi sixhobo sakho esingabonakali sokufikelela kwisiphumo esifunekayo.