Kodwa, ngelishwa, kutshanje kwintlalo yanamhlanje kukho ukuthambekela ngokuqhelekileyo: abantu baqala ukuchitha ixesha elingaphantsi kwetafile enye, besidla kwaye badla ngokutya ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo okanye ngaphandle kweendonga zendlu. Kwaye inani lezo ntsapho likhula ngezinga elimangalisayo.
Njengomthetho, isidlo sinye kuphela ithuba lokuhlangana kunye nentsapho yonke. Kodwa, ngenxa yokuba ngoku phantse kuzo zonke iikhikhitri "ukulungiswa okuphambili kwetafile" yiTV, kaninzi amalungu omndeni athetha ukuxoxa ngokubukela imiboniso yeTV yakusihlwa.
Ukuze ufumane oko kwenzekayo emphefumlweni wendlu, kwenzeka ntoni ebomini babo, indlela abachitha ngayo imini, umntu kufuneka acinge ngendlela yokwenza isiganeko kwisidlo sesidlo esilula okanye isidlo sakusihlwa. Ngaphezu koko, isiganeko sinomdla kwaye sisigxina, ngoxa uncedo olungenakwenzeka nje ukulungelelanisa intsapho, kodwa kwakhona ukufaka abantwana kwinkqubo ethile yexabiso.
Kutheni isithethe seentsapho ezidibeneyo sinyamalalala?
Ukutya okunomdla, intetho yomphefumlo kunye nokuhleka kwezingane - ezi ziyinxalenye yentsapho yokutya. Kodwa ukuqhubeka kwethu emsebenzini akusivumeli ukuba sihlangane yonke intsapho kwithebula elifanayo. Kodwa kutheni?Intsha ibona isizathu sokuba abazali basebenze ngokukhawuleza, kwaye nabazali ngokwabo kukuba iishedyuli zabo zomsebenzi kunye neshedyuli yosuku aluhambelani.
Phakathi kwezinye izizathu ezikhankanywe rhoqo, umntu unokukwazi ukwahlula "ukungafuni ukutya kunye", "ukungafuni ukuphazamisa kakhulu kwimicimbi nokulawula ubomi babantwana" kunye neenkqubo ezinomdla kakhulu kumabonakude ezingenakwenzeka ukuba zilahleke.
Kodwa amaninzi abantu abadala kunye nabantwana bathi "baxakeke kakhulu" ukuba badle isidlo sasemini kunye nesidlo kunye. Kodwa ukuze ulondoloze kwaye ludibanise intsapho, ingabinaki iingxaki zolutsha kwaye ngoko ke ukuphepha imiphumo emibi, kuyimfuneko ukwenza imizamo enzima ukwenzela ukuba ukutya kwentsapho edibeneyo ibe yinto efanelekileyo kuyo yonke intsapho.
Vele uqale ukuthetha nomnye
Enyanisweni, ukuze ugcine iintsapho ezininzi, ukuba uzikhuphe kwi-swamp of misunderstanding and conflicts, omnye akufanele aphendukele kwi-psychoanalyst ukuze uncede. Bafuna nje ukuqokelela kwitheyibhile yokutya ukuze baxoxe ngokukhawuleza kwaye baxoxe ngokucacileyo imiba ekhoyo.Ekubeni ingxaki enkulu kwiintsapho ezininzi kukuba bayeke ukuthetha omnye nomnye.
Uhambo oluqhelekileyo lwabazali, iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo, izinto ezahlukeneyo zokuzilibazisa zabantwana, konke oku kuthatha ixesha elixabisekileyo elinokusetyenziswa kunye nosapho. Kodwa indlela yokubeka phambili? Uninzi lwabantu abadala luyicombulula lula iingxaki ezinjalo emsebenzini, kodwa xa kuziwa kwimisebenzi yasemakhaya, abanamandla. Nangona, njengomsebenzi ophumeleleyo ufuna ukucwangciswa ngempumelelo, ngoko intsapho idinga indlela efanayo ngokucophelela kuyo yonke into, kubandakanywa intlangano yokutya kwentsapho edibeneyo.
Ngoko, indlela yokwenza intsapho ibe yinyene ngokusebenzelana kwezidlo ezidibeneyo.
Ukuqikelela ukuba intsapho yokudla akusiyo isidlo esisodwa, kodwa kunye nemeko ebalulekileyo yokuzinza kwintsapho, kuyimfuneko ukuzalisekisa iimeko ezithile zokubamba ukutya okunjalo.
- Cwangcisa usuku kunye nexesha lokutya kweentsapho kunye nezidlo, bambelela kwixesha elide ukutya okudibeneyo kube yinto. Kwaye kulungile ukucwangcisa ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo zomsebenzi ezifunekayo kunye kunye, emva kwexesha okanye emva kokutya kwentsapho. Ekuqaleni, akuyi kuba lula ukuyilandela ishedyuli, kodwa isiphumo asiyi kudala. Qala ngexesha langempela - umzekelo, isidlo esihlanganyelweyo ngeCawa - emva kwexesha unokukhetha iinyanga ezimbalwa ngeveki. Qinisekisa ukunika inani elithile lexesha lokutya. Ekubeni ukugwinya ukutya ngokukhawuleza kunobungozi obuninzi kunye nokugaya, okungeyona nto inenzuzo kakhulu kwimpilo kunye nempilo jikelele yomzimba.
- Kungcono ukudla kwitheyibhile yokutya, kodwa kungekhona phambi kweTV. Ukuxhamla isidlo emva kokubukela umbukiso, ehleli embhedeni ngesiteyi esandleni sakhe, akunakwenzeka ukuthetha. Kwaye akukho nto iyamangalisa into yokuba kwiminyaka elishumi edlulileyo ukuthengiswa kweetrafile kuye kwehla ngokuphawulekayo, kuba iintsapho ezininzi aziboni ukuba zifuna ntoni.
- Thatha umgaqo ngokubhekiselele ekubalulekeni into ebalulekileyo ngaphambi kokuqala kokutya, unike umgangatho kubantwana. Umzekelo, bulela umntu opheka isidlo sakusihlwa okanye wenza into ebalulekileyo kuyo yonke intsapho.
- Ngethuba lesidlo sakusihlwa, xubusha kuphela ixesha elihle kunye neemeko.
- Ungaphinda uchaze amagama amasha angaqhelekanga kubantwana kwaye ufike ngamabali amnandi apho kula mazwi akhankanywe khona. Ngaloo ndlela, unokuzonwabisa kwaye ukwandise isigama sabantwana.
- Zama izitsha ezintsha. Emva kwakho konke, imini ngemihla siyidla into efanayo, kwaye sivule isidlo sasemini kwisiganeko, unokupheka ukutya kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zehlabathi kanye ngeveki kwaye kunye kunye nokuxoxa ngezinto zokupheka kunye neentshukumo ezintsha.
- Uvela phi ukutya? Thetha etafileni malunga nale nto. Buza abantwana ukuba bayazi ukuba le nto okanye loo mveliso ivela phi, indlela abayivelisa ngayo. Le mibuzo neminye emininzi ayiyi kunceda nje ukudala ingxoxo enomdla, kodwa kwakhona ukuchonga izikhelo zolwazi nokuziphelisa.
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