Ukutya okudibeneyo okanye isidlo sasemini: indlela efanelekileyo yokuqokelela intsapho

Kuye kwaziwa ixesha elide ukuba isidlo esidibeneyo sidibanisa kwaye sidibanisa abantu. Kukho into emilingo malunga nalokhu, eyenza ubuhlobo bufudumele kwaye buvule ngakumbi kwaye budibanise iintshaba ezikhohlakeleyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu akayithandeki kuthi, siyazama ukuzama ukwenza konke okusemandleni, kungekhona ukuba sibe naye kwithebula elifanayo lokutya. Ngokuphathelele imiba yokuzinza kobudlelwane bentsapho, ukutya apha kudlala indima ebalulekileyo.

Kodwa, ngelishwa, kutshanje kwintlalo yanamhlanje kukho ukuthambekela ngokuqhelekileyo: abantu baqala ukuchitha ixesha elingaphantsi kwetafile enye, besidla kwaye badla ngokutya ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo okanye ngaphandle kweendonga zendlu. Kwaye inani lezo ntsapho likhula ngezinga elimangalisayo.
Njengomthetho, isidlo sinye kuphela ithuba lokuhlangana kunye nentsapho yonke. Kodwa, ngenxa yokuba ngoku phantse kuzo zonke iikhikhitri "ukulungiswa okuphambili kwetafile" yiTV, kaninzi amalungu omndeni athetha ukuxoxa ngokubukela imiboniso yeTV yakusihlwa.

Ukuze ufumane oko kwenzekayo emphefumlweni wendlu, kwenzeka ntoni ebomini babo, indlela abachitha ngayo imini, umntu kufuneka acinge ngendlela yokwenza isiganeko kwisidlo sesidlo esilula okanye isidlo sakusihlwa. Ngaphezu koko, isiganeko sinomdla kwaye sisigxina, ngoxa uncedo olungenakwenzeka nje ukulungelelanisa intsapho, kodwa kwakhona ukufaka abantwana kwinkqubo ethile yexabiso.

Kutheni isithethe seentsapho ezidibeneyo sinyamalalala?

Ukutya okunomdla, intetho yomphefumlo kunye nokuhleka kwezingane - ezi ziyinxalenye yentsapho yokutya. Kodwa ukuqhubeka kwethu emsebenzini akusivumeli ukuba sihlangane yonke intsapho kwithebula elifanayo. Kodwa kutheni?

Intsha ibona isizathu sokuba abazali basebenze ngokukhawuleza, kwaye nabazali ngokwabo kukuba iishedyuli zabo zomsebenzi kunye neshedyuli yosuku aluhambelani.

Phakathi kwezinye izizathu ezikhankanywe rhoqo, umntu unokukwazi ukwahlula "ukungafuni ukutya kunye", "ukungafuni ukuphazamisa kakhulu kwimicimbi nokulawula ubomi babantwana" kunye neenkqubo ezinomdla kakhulu kumabonakude ezingenakwenzeka ukuba zilahleke.

Kodwa amaninzi abantu abadala kunye nabantwana bathi "baxakeke kakhulu" ukuba badle isidlo sasemini kunye nesidlo kunye. Kodwa ukuze ulondoloze kwaye ludibanise intsapho, ingabinaki iingxaki zolutsha kwaye ngoko ke ukuphepha imiphumo emibi, kuyimfuneko ukwenza imizamo enzima ukwenzela ukuba ukutya kwentsapho edibeneyo ibe yinto efanelekileyo kuyo yonke intsapho.

Vele uqale ukuthetha nomnye

Enyanisweni, ukuze ugcine iintsapho ezininzi, ukuba uzikhuphe kwi-swamp of misunderstanding and conflicts, omnye akufanele aphendukele kwi-psychoanalyst ukuze uncede. Bafuna nje ukuqokelela kwitheyibhile yokutya ukuze baxoxe ngokukhawuleza kwaye baxoxe ngokucacileyo imiba ekhoyo.

Ekubeni ingxaki enkulu kwiintsapho ezininzi kukuba bayeke ukuthetha omnye nomnye.

Uhambo oluqhelekileyo lwabazali, iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo, izinto ezahlukeneyo zokuzilibazisa zabantwana, konke oku kuthatha ixesha elixabisekileyo elinokusetyenziswa kunye nosapho. Kodwa indlela yokubeka phambili? Uninzi lwabantu abadala luyicombulula lula iingxaki ezinjalo emsebenzini, kodwa xa kuziwa kwimisebenzi yasemakhaya, abanamandla. Nangona, njengomsebenzi ophumeleleyo ufuna ukucwangciswa ngempumelelo, ngoko intsapho idinga indlela efanayo ngokucophelela kuyo yonke into, kubandakanywa intlangano yokutya kwentsapho edibeneyo.

Ngoko, indlela yokwenza intsapho ibe yinyene ngokusebenzelana kwezidlo ezidibeneyo.

Ukuqikelela ukuba intsapho yokudla akusiyo isidlo esisodwa, kodwa kunye nemeko ebalulekileyo yokuzinza kwintsapho, kuyimfuneko ukuzalisekisa iimeko ezithile zokubamba ukutya okunjalo.
Ukuqwalasela konke oku ngasentla, sinokugqiba ukuba ukugcina ukutya kwentsapho kuyakufuna ukuba utyhale amandla akho, umbutho, uya kuba nomonde, kodwa xa ukutya okudibeneyo kube yinkcubeko yakho yentsapho, uya kubona ukuba zonke iinzame zilungelelanisa umdla.