Yintoni enokuthetha ngayo emva kwesondo


Umbuzo wento kunye nento oyithethayo emva kwesondo ubuncinane xa kwakukho phantse wonke umntu. Kuyaziwa ukuba isiqingatha esihle sabantu sithanda izindlebe. Kubalulekile ukuba abafazi bave indlela enhle ngayo, kubandakanywa ebhedini. Amazwi omthando kunye nokuncoma akufanelekanga kuphela kwiminqweno yesini, kodwa nangemva. Kubalulekile ukuba ibhinqa live kumntu ukuba naye wamkelekile, ngokuzithemba kwakhe. Kodwa kuthekani ngamadoda? Yintoni ebalulekileyo kubo? Ekubhedeni, amadoda kufuneka asebenzise amandla amaninzi kunye namandla kunabesifazana, ngokulandelanayo, into eyona nto kukuba emva kokuzonwabisa okufunyenweyo, kubuthongo obuhle kunye nesidlo sakusihlwa. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba imbono yowesifazane ayikhathazeki ngesondo esomeleleyo. Thina sonke ngabantu abaneenkcukacha zabo, iimfihlelo kunye neemvakalelo zabo. Ngoko ke, ukuncoma kubantu kubaluleke njengabesifazane, kuba wonke umntu ufuna ukuqonda ukuba ebhedeni, akayi kukwazi. Akuyi kuba yinto engabonakaliyo ekuphuculweni kovavanyo, kunye neengxenye zemivakalelo emihle ekugqibeleni iza kusasazeka kumlingane wakho.

Ukuqhagamshelana embhedeni kuyimfuneko, kwaye isibini esilandelayo siya kumda wesakhelo sesini kunye nemithetho eboniswa ngamalingani esondo. Ukuba iqabane lakho lingumngcipheko, akunakwenzeka ukuba aqonde iimpawu ezahlukahlukeneyo zobubele ngendlela ye-polylar kunye namakhandlela kunye nama-petals aphumayo. Kwakhona, iingxoxo ezinomxholo ngesihloko esithi "ixesha elide ndilindelwe ngayo xa siza kubambisana" asinakuyijonga kakuhle. Inokwenzeka ukuba, umntu onjalo uya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba awukhohlisi, okanye kungekudala nje.

Ngexesha lobudlelwane bothando nomntu onobuhlanga, akufanele umcele ukuba enze njalo ngale ndlela. Kuye kungcono ukubeka phambili phambili, ukuchonga iminqweno yakho kunye nento ebizwa ngokuba yintengiso. Emva kokuzonwabisa, umculi ongekho nxamnye nokuthintana, into emele ikhunjulwe yinkwenkwe, ayikho incoko yothando, ahov kunye nokububula. Indoda enjalo ayinakukwazi ukuxhasa ezo ngxoxo, ngenxa yesizathu esilula sokuba ucinga ukuba ziphosakele kwaye zingenangqiqo.

Ukuba iqabane lakho lingenalo uthando olungenakuphulukiswa, ukuthetha ngeengqungquthela zengqungquthela, zombini ngaphambi kokuba uthando lududuzile, kwaye emva koko, alukho nje kuphela oluchasene naloo nto, kodwa nangona kunjalo, kuya kwamkeleka kakhulu. Akayi kuphulaphula kuphela kwaye uyakuvuyela ekuphulaphuleni ibali elide ulilindele ngayo, kodwa liya kumxhasa nangenqanaba elincinci.

Ungakulibali ukuthetha ububele bakhe kunye nokunyamekela embhedeni, ndixelele indlela enomdla ngayo kuye. Amadoda afana nothando njengokuba xa ecaleni kwakhe kukho intombazana enobuthathaka kunye noyikrakra apho uvakalelwa khona kwaye unesibindi.

Into eyona nto engayinakuthetha ngayo nendoda leyo idlulileyo, mhlawumbi, ingabi yintando, ubuhlobo. Kwaye uzame ukubuyela ngokukhawuleza njengoko kunokwenzeka ukusuka emafini ukuya kwihlabathi elibhubhayo kunye nexesha eliqhelekileyo.

Ukuba kwenzeka okokuba ukuthanda kwakho kukude nawe kwakuyindoda eneenkathazo, kukho iindlela ezimbini zokuphuhlisa iziganeko, okanye ubalekela kuye kwaye ufumane umzekelo ofanelekileyo. Okanye ngazo zonke iintlobo zentshiseko ulungele ukuvala amehlo akho kuzo zonke iziphoso zakhe kunye nokulahleka, unenzondelelo ukunyamekela ukunyaniseka kwakhe, ukungakhathaliseki kwaye ukulungele ukunyangwa kwamanye amaxesha, ngenxa yokuhlaselwa ngentshiseko.

Ukuba kuwe ngendlela eya kudibana ne-bachelor yezilwanyana, zama ukungazibonakalisi ngokubhekiselele kwimvakalelo yakhe, kwaye nonke ungahlanganyeli nayo i-navasha icebo elivuyokileyo elizayo. Eyona nto ibhetele, akayikuyixabisa ukubetha, kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kubalekela, enqumle ukuba unxibelele kakhulu umntu wakhe oxabisekileyo.

Ngamanye amaxesha kuvela ukuba iziganeko ziphuhliswa ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngoku ngoku kwaziwa umntu omtsha ukuza kumtyhila nje ngokuba umhlobo ongeyonto. Kodwa, nangona konke oku, ukuba ungekho ixesha elide uqhelana nendoda kunengqiqo ukukhumbula imithetho ethile: