Umntwana ubheka ngobuqotho emehlweni akho kunye ... nobuxoki. Umama ngokukrakra: njani oku kwenzeka? Kutheni kwintsapho yethu? Masizame ukufumana isisombululo kwingxaki kunye. Masiqale siqonde ukuba yisiphi isizathu salo mkhuba. Emva kwakho konke, ubuxoki buhluke - kwiingcamango ezingenasiphelo malunga nokuhamba ezinyangeni ngaphambi kokuzama ukufihla amanqaku ambi okanye, ngakumbi nakakhulu, ukuba uzigwebe kwelinye. Ewe, kunye nombuzo wesibini: ukuba umntwana ngokukhawuleza waqala ukulala-wenzeni? Konke oku kuya kuxutyushwa ngezantsi.
KWIINTLOKO KWI-FAIRY TALE.
Umsila wagijima, umsila wanyuka, kunye nentombaba yam oyintandane yawa waza waqhekeza ... Ngenye imini utitshala wabuza ukuba kuyinyaniso ukuba uthembisa ukunika intombi yakho ukuzalwa komphengwane. Kwaye omnye ummelwane weva unyana wakhe e-sandbox izolo, ukuba uyise wayemvumele ukuba aqhube imoto yakhe ...
Kunzima kuthi, abantu abadala, ukuba siqaphele ukuba abantwana abasenkulumeni abahlali bakwazi ukuhlukana ngokwenene kwiimfesane kunye neenganekwane. Kubonakala kulula: nanku ubomi, kodwa kuveliswa. Kwaye ngoku khumbula into oyithethayo kubantwana xa bebuza: "Ngubani obeka isipho somthi weKrisimesi phantsi komthi?" Ngaba awuzange uyenze ukuqinisekisa unyana wakho okanye intombi ukuba ukuba (a) akayi kuhlamba amazinyo akhe, u-Queen of Toothbrush evela kwikhathuni uya kuba nomsindo? Ngaba awuzange uthethe entolongeni encinane ukuba ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe angene ezweni "uNechuchuhia"?
Nguwe - oomama kunye nootata, ootatomkhulu-okokuqala sikunceda inzala iyinyanisekile inyaniso kunye neengcambu, kwaye siyazibuza ukuba kutheni abantwana bengayiboni umda ocacileyo phakathi kwabo. Kodwa emva kwayo yonke into, iindlela zokudlala umdlalo zisoloko zisinceda siqonde izinto ezinzima kumntwana, zifundise into ethile. Ngoko abantwana basebenzisa iindlela ezifanayo!
Abaqambi amanga, badlala, bacingisisa kwaye bakholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ngokubhala iindaba ezimnandi zefeythi baya kukwazi ukutshintsha into enyanisekileyo ngendlela efunwayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana abaneminyaka engama-3-4 ubudala baziphatha njengolu hlobo, kodwa nangona oko kuyaqhubeka ukuya ku-5-6, akukho nto ilwaphulo-mthetho malunga nokubhala. Eli lixesha lophuhliso: kukho ukuvuswa kwamandla okudala omntwana, ufunda ukuvelisa nokuhlalutya, uqhathanise, udwebe.
Indlela yokuziphatha? Akunjalo ngethuba lokuba iindaba zobubele, ngenxa yazo zonke iinkcukacha zabo, ziphela ngamazwi: "Iindaba zobuxoki zibuxoki, kodwa kulo mbuzo." Yintoni ebonisa Kutheni, eqinisweni, kulandele ubuxoki bamanga?
1. Mamela ngokucophelela kwindlalifa yethu ebhalayo. Ngamanye amaxesha amabali abonakala ngathi asiyingozi okanye ayinanto. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana uyaqinisekisa ukuba unako ukuhamba. Musa ukumgweba "ngamanga"! Ndixelele nje: uyazi ukuba inkqubo yokubhala iyaqhubeka. Zama ukuqhawula umtshato kunye nenkolelo ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Phakamisa, umzekelo, ufike ngefayile entsha, apho ungabhabhanga khona, abantu bokwenene, kodwa abalinganiswa bebhali.
2. Tshintsha ingqalelo yomlobi omncinci kumsebenzi. Ngaba waqinisekisa abahlobo bakhe ukuba waqhuba imoto kayise? Yithi: "Ndiyazi ukuba ufuna ukuqhuba imoto. Kodwa emva koko, bonke abaqhubi bayazi imigaqo yendlela. Masiqale ukuwafunda ngoku. "
Amabali amathenda afana ngokugqithiseleyo into ecacileyo, bonisa ukuba umntwana unengxaki zangaphakathi, ngoko utsho abantu abadala. Yonke into eyaziwayo uSidrid Lindgren Ingane yenyuka kunye nomhlobo kaCarlson, kuba wayeziva enesizungu kwintsapho. Ifantasy yokuthenga irhamncwa lasendle, ingwe okanye ingonyama, ingabonisa ukuba umntwana angathanda ukuziva ethembekileyo kuluntu lwabaontanga.
4. Nangona iindaba zamanqaku zenzelwe ukukhusela amacala, musa ukukhawuleza ukuhlwaya. Ingane 3-4 iyakuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo malunga ne mouse, isula umsila phansi ngekomityi, kuba ngaloo mzuzu ndivakalelwa kukuba loo mouse. Ngaloo ngqiqo, ibali malunga ne-mouse-shalunishka ukusuka kwingcamango yombono wengane inyanisekileyo kwaye ingqiqo-kubalulekile ukuqonda abazali. Yithi: "Ewe, ngezinye izinto izinto zigqithise ukungabinaki, kwaye kungekhona ngeenjongo ezimbi. Sekunjalo, ndiyaxolisa ukuba indebe yam intanda endiyithandayo iyaphukileyo, "- bonisa intlungu, kodwa ingabi ngumsindo. Ukubandakanya umntwana ukuvuna iziqhekeza okanye ukulungisa izinto, ukuba kuya kuhlaziywa. Xoxa ngendlela okufanele uziphatha ngayo ukuze ugweme izinto ezinje ukususela ngoku.
5. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, umntwana uzame ukufihla oko kwenziwa. Qaphela ukuthatha amanyathelo okugweba (ukulahla ucoli okanye ukuhamba), ngaphambi kokuba uqiniseke ukuba intshabalalo yenziwa ngumntwana, kungekhona ngelinye ilungu losapho. Akukho nto eyingozi ngaphezu kokugweba abangenacala. Kuvela kwizenzo ezingalunganga ukuba ithemba phakathi kwabazali nabantwana liqala ukuwa. Umntwana kufuneka akholelwe ekubeni unokukwazi ukuvavanya imeko.
XHUMA E MAHLA.
Iminyaka yobudala be-Fairy isemva, kwaye wakho umqambimanga omncinci akayeki. Ufumene ikhwelo esuka esikolweni waza wabuza ukuba kutheni umntwana sele esesigxina kwisithathu kwisigidi abagulayo ngexesha lokufunda. Kwaye bobabini boogogo banempilo! Ekuphenduleni imibuzo, unyana uthi ngokokuqala ngqa wahlala engozini engafanelekanga ibhasi, eyamthabatha kwenye indawo, okwesibini nelesithathu into ethile engalindelekanga yenzeke ... Okanye walela ukuba intombi yakho iphume endlwini, kwaye abamelwane bambona ngasemva. Ngamafutshane, umntwana uzama ukufihla kuwe ukuphulwa kwezivumelwano zakho nezenzo zakho ezimbi.
Ngokweengcali, le ndlela yokuziphatha - ukuba akusiyo ityala elizimeleyo - lihambelana ngqo neentlobano zentsapho. Nazi iinjongo eziqhelekileyo. Umntwana uyazi ukuba ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle kuya kufumana ubuncinane ukuyeka ukuthetha, aze ajeziswe, kwaye uzama ukuphepha amanyathelo angqongqo. Indlalifa iyesaba ukuba akayi kuphila ngokumalunga nonina kunye noyise. Akaqinisekanga ngothando lomzali, kuba ulala okanye ufihla inyaniso. Iintsholongwane zizama ukutsala ingqalelo kubazali ngokuziphatha kakubi: abazinandaba nokuba ngaba zilungile okanye zibi. Ngaloo nto abanako ukushisa okwaneleyo kwiintsapho zabo.
Inzala yakho ayikwazi ukuba ithathe uxanduva malunga nezenzo. Emotionally, ayihambelani neminyaka yayo yangempela. Imithetho ekhoyo kwintsapho iyakuthintela umntwana ukuba athathe igunya loontanga. Yithi, abahlobo abaphelelwanga kwimali ye-pocket, kodwa ufuna ingxelo kuyo yonke ipenki
Indlela yokuziphatha? Okokuqala, fumana isizathu sobuxoki bomntwana kwaye usiqede.
1. Mhlawumbi, kunye nomntwana okhulileyo kuyisithuba sokutshintsha inkqubo yobudlelwane kunye nokuthintela. Fumana ukuba kukho imfazwe engqongqo kunye notitshala emva kobuxoki, okungahambi kakubi. Kwenzeka ukuba lixesha eliphakamileyo lokuba abazali bangenelele, kodwa umntwana uyababuza ukucela uncedo.
2. Ukuba uyazi ukuba umntwana uphule umthetho wokuvalwa, ungenzi nje ukuba awukwazi nto: ungaqumbisi amanga! Ngaphandle koko, uya kuphinda aqiniseke ukuba akukho themba phakathi kwakho.
3. Nangona uxoxa ngesiganeko, qhubeka uzolile uze uvumele umntwana ukuba achaze. Musa ukumelana nokuxoka, kodwa ekuxubeni indlela yokuphuma kwimeko enzima.
4. Emva kokuvakalisa ukuba ufuna ukuva nayiphi na inyaniso, akuyonto nje! - musa ukwenza isikhalazo xa uva malunga ne-deuce kwikota. Ufuna ukwazi inyaniso!
Ibali elithembekileyo lokungaziphathi kakuhle lifanelekile ukunciphisa isohlwayo okanye ukuyisusa ngokupheleleyo. Umntwana uchaphazeleka ngakumbi kukuba uyise nomama bacaphukile, kunokuba ubanjwe uhambo lokuya kwi-cinema.
6.Iminyaka eyi-11-12 ichaza ukuba yena ngokwakhe kufuneka abe noxanduva lwezenzo zakhe. Uthi wayelungiselela ukulawula, kwaye wayeseqhuba ngeyadini? Yeka ukuxoxa ngale nyathelo. Uyavuma ukuba uya kufumana ibhayisikili, ukuba kuphela nje wagqiba ikota ngaphandle kweethathu. Makhe acinge ukuba yintoni ebaluleke ngakumbi.
IMPATIENT FANTASY.
Abanye abalobi bezobuxoki babengazange baphuphe ngamabali aveliswe yinzala yakho! Awunakuqonda ukuba yintoni eyaphefumlelwe unyana okanye intombi kwizinto ezinjalo? Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuphuma kunye neengcali zengqondo.
Intombazana eneminyaka eyi-8 ihambele intombazana kwaye ixelele kubazali bayo, ngokuxhaphaza abazali bayo: "NdingumCinderella! Izitya zonke iingubo zam, kufuneka ndicime yonke imihla, ndihlambulule iimpahla zentsapho. Akukho xesha lokwenza izifundo! Abazali abanandaba. Yonke umsebenzi wam wesikolo waphoswa kum. " Umama womhlobo wam wayazi le ntsapho kwaye waqonda ukuba akukho nto enje ayikho! Kwavela ukuba umama wephupha elincinci wangena kwiziko leenkcukacha kwaye wayengenakucala ukunyamekela abantwana njengoko ngaphambili. Intombi endala yayiphoswa kakubi ngumama kunye nokunyamekela, kwaye wazama ukuvusa indlela enokubangela ukuba umfazi abe nemvakalelo.
Le nkwenkwana yeminyaka engama-7 yayesaba ukuhlala esibhedlele ngaphandle komama kwaye yathi udokotela uya kusebenza kuye kwaye akayazi ukuba uya kuphila, ngoko wabuza ukuba amthengele umatshini ayeliphuphayo. Iindonga zebhedlele azijabulisi kubantu abadala, kodwa zibangelwa ukwesaba umntwana. Kule meko, ncedise unyana kwaye ulandele isicelo sakhe.
Nika umzekelo.
Amagama awawakholisi nje ngezenzo. Ukuba ufuna ukufundisa umntwana into ethile, nikela umzekelo ngamnye. Izolo nawe ukhononda kumyeni wakho malunga nentombi yakho enobukrakra, kwaye namhlanje uyamomotheka. Umntwana uya kufunda umzekelo wakho wokuziphatha. Cinga! Ukufihla inxalenye yolwazi luhlobo lobuxoki. Uceba kunye nosana: asiyi kubaxelela utata ukuba ugogo wayegula, kungenjalo uya kucaphuka ... Ngenye imini umntwana uya kusebenzisa le ndlela ngokumelene nawe. Kubantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emi-5 ubudala, amathikithi akhululekile. Abazali oneminyaka engama-6 ubudala phambi kokuba amehlo akhe akhohlise ithikithi: "Sineminyaka engama-5 ubudala!" Kwaye ungayikhokheli ithikithi. Kukhulu kakhulu isilingo sokusindisa! Qiniseka ukuba le nkwenkwe iya kuphinda inokuphindaphinda inombolo yakho ngexesha. Isiphetho silula: ungalokwenza oko umntwana wakho othandekayo engafuni ukubona.
Yintoni efihliweyo emva kwamanga?
Njengomgaqo, ukukhohlisa kunye namabakala amahle ngabafundi abasesikolweni esiphakamileyo esikolweni esiphakamileyo kubonisa ukuba umntwana akakwazi kakhulu uthando lwakho.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amaqhinga kunye nobuxoki kunye nenkalo ephosakeleyo banikezwa ngabantwana abazali babo abasebenza ngokugqithiseleyo, ootatomkhulu okanye oogogo abanokuphakamisa, abangazi kakuhle kakuhle ingqondo yengqondo. Nasi umzekelo: ugogo oneminyaka engu-6 ubudala uSeryozha ugqithisele kwi-bakery. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana wabuya ngaphandle kwesonka, kwaye ngaphandle kwemali, esithi i-bakery ivaliwe ngonaphakade, kwaye wamnika ummelwane uMalume Vasya imali. USergei wathenga i-candy waza wadla
- eqinisweni ngenxa kaSeryozhin diathesis ugogo ugqithise ngokucacileyo le nkwenkwe ukuba adle i-sweet and close the buffet kwi-castle. Xa ufumene imali, inkunzi yenkomo ayinakuyichasa isilingo. Kwaye umama, umzala kuphela wentsapho, owayehlala elahlekile emsebenzini, wayengenaso ixesha lokubona oko kwenzekayo. Abantwana abanezifo ezingapheliyo, abasandul 'ukuhlinzwa okanye ukusuleleka kwintsholongwane enkulu, nabo banokubandakanya ukucinga okupheleleyo. Ngokukhawuleza bafunde ukuba umntwana ogulayo uyaqwalaselwa ngakumbi kunomntwana onempilo. Yaye ukuba ingqalelo ngokukhawuleza iyancipha, umphuphi uzama ukubuyisela yonke into kwisikwere esinye. Unokuthi, umzekelo, unesinki esiswini sakhe, kuba ugqirha washiya i-scalpel ngaphakathi kwintsebenzo.
Abazali ngokunyanisekileyo mababe neenguqu ezinzulu, utshintsho olukhawuleza ekuziphatheni komntwana-ukusuka ekuphumuleni ukunyanzelwana, ukusuka ekusithekeni ukuya ekuhlaleni. Oku kungafihla iingqungquthela zexesha elizayo lokuxoka, ubuzenzisi.