Ewe, wayesazi ukuba ukuzalwa komntwana akusona nje uvuyo olukhulu, kodwa nomsebenzi omkhulu. Ufunda ukuba emva kokubeleka, abaninzi abafazi banemiva yokudumala nokukhohlisa. Kwaye, ke, awuzange ucinge ukuba kuya kukuchaphazela. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba uziva ukuba ulindele ukuba unxulumene nokuzalwa komntwana awakulungelekanga? Ngako-ke ukubuyisela njani uvuyo lonina, nangona kunjalo?
Musa ukucinga ukuba le miva iya kudlula ngokwabo. Kakade, ixesha liphilisa. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho. Kwaye ukunyanga okugqithiseleyo kukuphazamiseka kukubona into eyenzekayo kumntu, kwaye ungabambeleli kwizinto ezingalindelekanga, kwaye uyamkele ... ngokubulela.
Ukubeleka akuyiholide
Hayi, isikolo sokubeletha kaninzi siqhathaniswa nesimo esilungileyo osibhale ngaphambili. Kwimeko ethile inqubo yokuzalwa ayikwazi ukuhamba ngokwezicwangciso, kunokuba kukho imeko engxamisekileyo. Izihlobo zikwazi ukuziphatha ngendlela engalindelekanga, kwaye umntwana ngokwakhe akayi kuba yinto ocinga ukuba uya kuyo.
Amachiza okudabuka
Ukujamelana nokubonakala okungahambi kakubi kwixesha lokuhamba emva, kuyafaneleka ... uthi "siyabonga". Okokuqala, zibulele - nokuba kunjalo, wenza njalo, wanika ubomi umntu omncinci. Akuzange uhlangabezane nokulindela - kungekho yakho, okanye intsapho yakho, okanye umqeqeshi wezifundo kwabasetyhini abakhulelweyo. Wenza nje - waza wazala, kwaye le nto yinto engathintekiyo!
Ukuba ingcambu yokhathazeka ngumsindo wabasebenzi bezonyango, zama ukuwujonga ngaphesheya. Akukho ugqirha ufuna ukulimaza umama nomntwana. Ngako oko, ngokuqinisekileyo ugqirha wakho wenza oko wayekucingayo ngokuchanekileyo ngelo xesha. Ukuzalwa okuhlangeneyo akuzange kuphile kulindeleke? Kwaye ngubani owaziyo ukuba beya kuhamba njani xa iqabane lakho lingekho ... Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - yenza nje uqoke iimvuthu zakho, jonga kuye. Nantsi le nto-imbangela enkulu yemizamo yakho. Ngaba akazange aqikelele?
Umama ekhaya
Zingaphi izihlandlo kuba amava awela kumama emva kokubuya esibhedlele! Xa sifunda isimo sokudandatheka kwabasetyhini kwixesha lokuhamba emva, iingcali zafika kwisigqibo sokuba umama osandul 'ukuzalwa akadingeki ukuba afundeke kwintsuku yamhla ngemihla (kwaye okokuqala - ukungabikho kwakhe), ukuba ahlale ehlala ekhululekile - ekunceliseni, ekukhatheni, kunye nesithuba esitsha kwintsapho. Emva koko, kwenzeka njani ngaphambi kokuzalwa? Umama wesikhathi esizayo wayephakathi kwenkathalo kunye nengqwalasela, kwaye ngoku le ndawo ihlala ngokufanelekileyo ngumntwana osanda kuzalwa. Kodwa emva koko, umama, obeka umgudu omkhulu kumbonakalo wakhe, naye ufanelekela inkxaso!
Kwabaninzi, ukukhungatheka kukuba, ngokuchaseneyo, isimo sengqondo esitshintshiyo - ngokuqhelekileyo ukusuka kwicala lomlingane. Kwenzeka kwiintsapho apho ukuqonda, ukuhlonipha, ukunyamezela, ukungahambi kakuhle. Kwaye inkohlakalo ikholelwa ukuba ngokuzalwa komntwana konke kuya kuba kuhle, ukuzama ukubamba "umyeni", engazi ukuba yintoni inguqu enkulu - lo bunzima obungenakukwazi ukuqinisa intsapho yokuqala eyahlulekayo ... Kwaye kwiintsapho ezinempumelelo kakhulu ukubonakala kweemvuthu, ukwahlula isibini esivela omnye komnye - xa bobabini bekhubekile, njengokungakhathaliseki ukudideka: "Uyiqonda njani?".
Amachiza okudabuka. Kuyamangalisa ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuba abaninzi bethu bathi: "Ndibancede, ndikhathele", "Ndiyaxhalaba ukuba ndiyingozi - ndixelele, ngaba usandithanda?", Yenza umgudu wokuthetha ulwimi olufanayo nezihlobo. Kwaye kukufanelekile ukuhlawula iziganeko ezinjalo - esi sifundo esibalulekileyo, sinika ithuba ekugqibeleni sifunde ukuthetha ngokucacileyo malunga neemvakalelo zabo, amava, iimfuno. Uze uzilungiselele ukuba akusoloko ifumana impendulo. Ewe, lo mntwana udinga yonke imfuno ukuze aneliseke. Kwaye thina, abantu abadala, kufuneka sikwazi ukunyamezela kunye nokungaphumeleli ... Kodwa kubalulekile ukuzama!
Ingane kwiingalo
Mhlawumbi udideko olubi kakhulu lukulindelekile ukuba ulindele umntwana osanda kuzalwa. Ukujamelana nabo kunzima, ukuba kungenxa yokuba kungenjalo wonke unina unquma ukuvuma ukuba yena akahlali eziva nje ngovelwano kwintsana ... Kodwa ngamandla ethu ukuvumela ukudumala kukunikezele uthando lomntwana! Yintoni ebangela ukuba amava angamahle? Okokuqala, ukubonakala nokuziphatha kwintsana. Umntu omncinane, umzimba wakhe awunanto kwaye ufana nesincinci esincinci, isikhumba sakhe sithintela ... kwaye akafuni nakanjani ukunika abazali bakhe umomothekayo kunye nocoko olumnandi, kodwa kufuneka kuphela - ukunakekelwa, ukunakekelwa, ubisi, ubukho bakho ... Okwesibini , iimvuthu zinzima kakhulu ukuyiqonda-apha wakhala, kwaye wenzeni? Tshintsha idiapers, nihlabelele iingoma, nidle okanye nidle? Kuzo zonke iinkalo, iintshaba, eziphikisanayo, ziyazingqinga. Kodwa uyayiqonda njani ukuba uthabathe umntwana kwizandla zakho okanye kungenjalo, nokuba ufundise kwi-crib ehlukeneyo, uyondla ngokubhekiselele kummandla okanye ngokufunwa? Okwesithathu, unina ungancipha kwiimeko ezixinzeleleyo kwixesha lokugqibela, ukuxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo komntwana kuye. Uhlala efuna ukumqamba amanga phezu kweengalo okanye kwisifuba, avuke, umfake kwi-stroller. Yaye kwaye ungayihlawula njani intsapho kunye nawe?
Amachiza okudabuka. Ewe, ngoku yisikhathi sokubonga ... kuNoko ngokwawo. Emva koko, wayilungiselela ngamabomu yonke into ukuze wena, ngokwenene, ungayidingi "imiyalelo" kumntwana. Ngenxa yokuba sele uyayazi oko umntwana afuna kunye nendlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Kukho nawuphi na umfazi, kukho izilwanyana zomama, imemori yezofuzo, iingcamango, ekugqibeleni! Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba zininzi kangakanani iincwadi ezizifunayo, into eyona nto kukuziphulaphula.
Kutheni kunzima ukuba sinyamezele umntwana ekhala? Ewe, kuba inkqubo yeentloni zomama ibuhlungu kakhulu kwaye isayinela umzimba wonke: "Woza ngokukhawuleza kumntwana, uyithabathele kwizinto, uyondle!". Yaye imfundiso engabonakaliyo-ukulahla iziqhekeza kwiziqhotyoshelweyo, kwiphupha elidibeneyo, ekudibanisaneni nomama - kuphela kuqinisa ukuphazamiseka kwakhe, njengokungathi sizama ngamandla enqweno yokunciphisa ukuvalelwa kwindlala okanye ukoma.
Kwaye unokubulela kwiNdalo ngenyaniso yokuba wasinika thina, bafazi, olu buchule obuyingqayizivele - kungekhona kuphela ukuzala, kodwa nokuthanda imivumba. Kwaye ngakumbi xa sicinga malunga nosana, jonga ubuso bakhe obunzulu, ukondla ubisi lwakhe, udibanise uqobo, uphulaphule intliziyo encinci - uthando oluninzi luya kusizalisa.