Amadoda ayidla ngokucinga ukuba kutheni umfazi eguquka. Ayazi ukuba umfazi akahambanga njengaye, akayikho isithembu njengendoda, kwaye akaqokeleli iqoqo lamalingane. Ibhinqa elikhohlakeleyo lifumana indlela yokuphuma kule meko. Mhlawumbi ubanda ekhaya, akanakuxhatshazwa ecaleni kwendoda ethandekayo.
Kukho ezininzi, izizathu ezintle zokuhlaselwa. Okokuqala, umfazi uqala ukutshintsha umyeni wakhe xa enganelise embhedeni. Okwesibini, xa engayivakalelwa njengowesifazane. Okwesithathu, xa efuna ukuphindisela kwindoda yakhe ngenxa yokunyelisa. Ukuba umfazi, ngokwenene, unokukhawuleza ukuba ucinge ukuba kukho inkosikazi "ngasemva", ngoko umyeni akanakucinga ukuba "uthanda" wakhe utshintsho kuye. Abasetyhini abamemezeli, ngokungafani namadoda.
Ukunganeliseki yowesifazane osele embhedeni kubangela iziphumo ezimbi, ibhinqa liqala ukuthatha inxaxheba kwamanye amadoda. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, unokuhlala naye embhedeni, kuba umyeni wakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo ubukela i-movie yezenzo kwiTV, okanye enze umtshato womsebenzi wesi-5 imizuzwana ngeveki. Kodwa lona mfazi akayena umvundla, kwaye ufuna ukulala ngesondo eliphezulu, kanye kanye ngeveki. Ngale nto, amadoda eminyaka engama-40 enenkani iqala ukulibala.
Kwaye emfutshane nomfazi wakhe omhle uqala ukuhamba namakhwenkwe amancinci awathambile umfazi, aphelelwe yithemba. Bayicula iindumiso zakhe, banike ientyatyambo (umyeni wokugqibela wabanika ngoMatshi 8, kunye ne-twimo ye-mimosa), bazinikele imbongo. Umfazi okwangomzuzu uqala ulutsha lwesibini, sele esele ekhangele ngendoda yakhe, ngokuqeqeshelwa ngamadolo avulekileyo kunye nevumba le-anyanisi. Iphupha langomso, xa ebuyela emsebenzini, kwaye abafana bakhe baya kuguqa, kwaye ubuncinci bayakulibala ngemicimbi yakhe yasekhaya kunye neengxaki.
Naliphi na umfazi ofuna ukulibala ngokuhlamba, ukucoca, ukupheka, izifundo kubantwana, ufuna ngokwenene ukuba abe ngumfazi owamkelekileyo kunye nothando. Ekhaya, uhlala ebalahle injongo yakhe yokuqala, apho uThixo wamdala. Ibhinqa liyingelosi yokuhle, ukucoceka nokuzala. Iqabane lakho liyinkwenkwekazi egcina intsimbi ukuze ingaphumi. Uphakamisa abantwana kwaye ulindele uthando, olupheleleyo kunye olucacileyo. Kodwa ngelishwa umntu onqabileyo, iminyaka emininzi emva komtshato, unako ukwenza izinto ngenxa yomfazi wakhe. Umntu onqabileyo uyakwazi ukuncomeka okokuqala kumfazi wakhe. Uphezu kweminyaka ayinandaba nokuba ukhangeleka njani, into enxibe ngayo. Ufuna ukuba apheke, uhlambe kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuyeka ukubukela iTV.
Ibhinqa naluphi na ubudala lihlala lifazi. Uhlala ethanda indlebe, ufuna ukuncoma, iimpahla ezintle, iivenkile kunye neentyantyambo. Xa oku akakwazi ukufika ekhaya, kufuneka usebenzise amanye amadoda, kwaye utshintshe umfazi oyisiphukuphuku. Nguwuphi na ongeke akrokre ukuba angabikho kobuqhetseba, akabonanga ukuba umfazi wakhe utshintshile. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba lo mlingane angahlala kwaye abuke iifoto ezinobomi kwaye abone ngabanini banjalo abafazi. Nangona kukho nomfazi omhle kufuphi naye, ofuna kuphela ukunyamekela kwakhe ulonwabo olupheleleyo.
Olunye uhlobo oluqhelekileyo lokungcatsha luyempindezelo. Xa umfazi efunda ngokungcatsha kwendoda yakhe, umphonse ngaphandle kwendlu, eveze yonke impahla yakhe emnyango. Uxolela aze aphile, kodwa ngaphakathi kwakhe ulala isicwangciso sokuphindezela. Abasetyhini bavame ukunyanzelisa kwaye basoloko belibale ukuphula umthetho. Kwaye ngeli thuba, xa bequlunqe icebo, baqala ukukhangela ixhoba, apho baya kutshintsha iqabane.
Xa sele ufumene ixhoba, lona wesifazane utshintshe umyeni wakhe, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kanye, aze aguquke bonke ubomi bakhe ngenxa yesono. Ubuqhetseba bokubuyiselwa akuyi kuzisa naluphi na ukwaneliseka, kodwa kuphela ukuvakalelwa okungcolileyo kokungcola nokungenanto ngaphakathi.
Ngaphambi kokumangalela lo mfazi ngokunyaniseka, cinga ngesizathu sokuba wenza ntoni. Iimeko ezingaqhelekanga xa ibhinqa isithembu esinjengomntu. Nangona utshintshe amadoda afana neiglavu, eli lilungelo lakhe lomntu, lo bubomi bakhe. Kwaye akukho mntu, nokuba ngabantu abasondeleyo, unelungelo lokuphazamisa ekufeni kwakhe.