Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, kuyacaca ukuba kutheni ngamanye amaxesha inkxwaleko ezincinci emsebenzini zikhokelela umntu ngaphandle kokulinganisela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, intloko yentsapho ayinakukwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo zabo eziphazamisayo, ngoko ichithe kakubi kubathandekayo. Umfazi othandekayo unokunciphisa imeko enzima, into ebalulekileyo kuye kukuqonda indlela yokuncedisa umyeni wakhe. Kodwa, ukuba uThixo akavumelekanga, iingxaki ezincinane ziba iingxaki ezinkulu? Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngamanye amaxesha kuvela ukuzibulala. Yingakho umfazi omhle ekufuneka aqonde indlela yokuncedisa umyeni wakhe xa engagqibekanga emsebenzini.
Yintoni umfazi angayenza xa engahambelani nomsebenzi, kungekhona nje kuphela ukumnciphisa, kodwa nokukunceda ngeengcebiso ezifanelekileyo? Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukukwazi ukubonisa ubuninzi bokuqhelanisa nokucoceka. Emva kwayo yonke into, uvelwano oluthukutheleyo okanye ukunyamekela ngamabomu akuyiyo into engazinzileyo - ngokuchasene noko, izibilini ezivuthayo ziphazamisekile. Ukuba ugwema iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo ezivunyelwe kwiimeko ezinjalo, unokukunceda iqabane ukuba lisombulule ingxaki kwaye libuyisele kuye ukuzithemba, kwaye ngoko, buyisela uxolo kwintsapho. Ngoko, zama:
Okokuqala, musa ukuqala incoko yokuqala ngomsebenzi wendoda yakhe. Ukuba ufuna ukuxoxa ngalesi sihloko nawe, ke, kholwa kwam, uya kuyithinta. Mhlawumbi ngethuba nje waphazamisa kwaye wagxotha, kwaye emva koko uthatha isilonda. Ungakhubeki ngoko, mhlawumbi kuya kubangela umsindo! Nangona umntu kwaye eqala ukuthetha ngeengxaki zabo, umthwalo womfazi kukuziva umzuzu xa intetho iqala ukumcaphukisa, kwaye uvale isihloko. Ukuba wena usuku lonke ngeveki uya kuxoxa ngalo, usengozini yokulahlekelwa ngumtshato wakho womntu.
Okwesibini, ungadluli ngeemvakalelo. Kukho izinto ezigqithisileyo. Abanye bathatha imbonakalo engqalileyo, bebazise ukuba abayicatshukiswayo (engenakuyinyaniso, kuba ukuba kunjalo, ngoko awuyikhathalele ngokushishino lomyeni wakhe). Abanye, ngokuchasene noko, bawubamba izandla zabo. Olu hlobo luya kuphinda lume loo mntu azi ukuba ubomi yintlekele. Kubalulekile ukubonisa ukuba into eyenzekayo ibuhlungu, kodwa uqinisekile umkakho, engqondweni yakhe, i-acumen yezoshishino kunye nezinye iimpawu zomntu. Ngoko, kungekudala yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle.
Okwesithathu, nakuphi na umzekelo ukuba ungamangaleli umlingane oko kwenzekayo. Nangona wenza into engalunganga, uyazi kangcono kunoko. Iintlungu zesazela - isiphetho somntu wonke. Umntu osondeleyo umntu efuna, okokuqala, inkxaso. Yingakho kwimeko enzima umfazi kufuneka aqinisekise ukuba ukuxabana akuyi kuvela endlwini, mhlawumbi ngamaqhekeza, okanye, nangakumbi, ngezizathu ezinzulu. Ingxoxo engathandekiyo engxoxweni ngexesha elihle ngakumbi, mhlawumbi uthabathe kumntu wakho othandekayo inkxaso yokugqibela, inkolelo yakho. Imiphumo ingaba buhlungu gqitha.
Okwesine, musa ukuwunqwenela umnqweno wokuncedisa. Abanye, befuna ukuncedisa umyeni wakhe, bawadumise imini nobusuku, bagxeke bonke abantu. Oku kunokuba negalelo ekwakheni ukuzithemba komntu ophezulu, okungenakwenzeka ukumnceda ukuxazulula iingxaki emsebenzini. Akuyimfuneko ukuthatha yonke imithwalo yemicimbi yentsapho. Emva koko, ejonga indlela yonke into eyenziwa ngayo (ngokubonakala ngokukhululeka), umyeni uzizwa engenamandla, kwaye ekugqibeleni, uyayibona imeko yokulahleka. Ngoko, yile ndlela uza kutsala ngayo intsapho ubomi bakho bonke.
Okwesibini, nceda ungadumisi ebusweni bomlingane wamadoda aphumelele, xa lakho lungahambi kumsebenzi. Ukuthelekiswa kunye nalabo kwenza ukuba angenakukunceda, kwaye oko kuhamba kakubi, lo mzekeliso lwenziwe ngumfazi wakhe! Ngoko ke ungenemizekelo, njengommelwane okanye umyeni womhlobo ubusuku obunomsebenzi odibeneyo okanye olungiselele ishishini elinenzuzo.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kwindawo yesithandathu: makube yintsika yokuzithemba nokuthula. Ngendlela zonke ugcine umhlaba kwiintsapho. Bonisa umntu wakho ukuba uyamthanda. Yenza kucacile ukuba nakweyiphi na imeko uya kuba khona kwaye uyayixhasa. Cacisa ukuba nokuba ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi akuthelekiswa nomsebenzi kunye nempilo yabantu abasondeleyo. Lungiselela isidlo sakhe esithandayo, unikezele ukuba uphume ngobume kunye nabantwana okanye uhambe nje ngeklasi. Mphazamise kunye kunye neengxaki. Ulibale ngabo ixesha elithile. Emva koko, ingqondo ephumayo ngokwayo iya kubangela indlela yokuphuma kwimeko.
Ukungaxhatshazi, ukungaboni, ukungaboni kakuhle - ezi zinto zikude kuzo zonke iintlobo zokudakumba kubantu abaye balahlekelwa yimisebenzi yabo okanye bafumana ubunzima beengcali. Ngoku uyazi indlela onokukunceda ngayo umyeni wakho xa engahambelani nomsebenzi kwaye kubonakala ngathi akukho ndlela yokuphuma. Siyathemba ukuba iingcebiso zethu ziya kunceda ukunqoba le ngxaki. Gcina othandekayo kwintlekele-ityala leqabane elinyanisekileyo, umfazi othembekileyo. Khumbula: imeko yentlekele izisa abantu abanothando kuphela. Ukuxhasana, kunye kunye uya kunqoba yonke into!