Kutheni uphupha ngokumanga nomfana ongathandiyo?
Ukuba uvakalelwa ngumntu ongaziwayo ephupheni engabangela ukuba ube nemvakalelo emihle, ulindele ukuba awunelungelo lokuziqhelanisa nabantu abadlulileyo. Kwakhona, loo mbono ithetha ukuba uya kukwazi kwaye ufumane umtshato nomntu ophendukela ekubeni ngu-Alphonse.
Ukumanga kunye nomntu okhethiweyo, ongayithandi nanye, unokutshilwa ngeendlela ezimbini. Okokuqala kuthetha ukuba uyazibuza ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela ubuhlobo obulahlekileyo kwaye ukulungele ukulibala zonke izikhalazo kunye nokuxabana, ukuze udibanise kunye nomthandi wangaphambili.
Ngokwendlela yesibini, iimpawu ezifana nephupha eliye lilungele ulwalamano olutsha kwaye uya kuhamba kunye nenhlanhla ekuphuculeni ubomi bakhe.
Nangona amaphupha apho ukutshitshana kobulili obuhle kunye nabaswelekileyo bengabonakali, kodwa bashiya iindawo ezinqabileyo. Kwaye ukuchazwa kwemibono enjalo akuyona into enhle kakhulu. Uthembisa ukudimazeka ngothando, ukulangazelela abo abathandekayo, kunye nexesha elinzima lokomoya. Inenekazi inokuqala ukuba nexinzelelo olubi kwaye iimeko zokuzibulala zingabonakala. Kodwa kukufanelekile ukuzikhethela kwaye ukhuthazelele kwixesha elihle.
Kutheni kungabikho uphando lokuphupha kunye nesoka lakhe?
- Xa intombazana ephupha ukuba wayemangalela umntu ongaziwayo, ke uyavusa ukutshatyalaliswa kamsinya, okuya kuthi, nangona kuya kuzisa iimvakalelo ezininzi zesondo, kodwa zizakuphela ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kunjalo, awuyi kuzisola ngokukhethekileyo malunga nokuhlukana.
- Umfazi otshatileyo, ebone iphupha elinjalo, kufuneka aziphathe ngokuqhagamshelana nabantu abatsha. Kukho umngcipheko ophezulu wokuba uzuze kwisilingo sokutshintsha umyeni wakhe, kodwa kungcono ukuba ungenzi oko, njengoko ukuzisola nokuzisola malunga noko akwenzileyo kuya kunqabisa kakhulu ukuzonwabisa akufumene.
- Intombazana, "eyibambe" insizwa yakhe ngexesha lokumanga kunye nomfokazi ongaqhelekanga, kufuneka ibe ilungele ukuba abahlobo abangenabungqina baya kwakha intliziyo kunye nayo yonke indlela yokuyigcina. Ngoko ke, kukufanelekile ukunyamekela iingxaki zakho kunye nokunciphisa uxhulumaniso nabantu abangathandekiyo.
- Indoda inokubona isicwangciso esifanayo. Ukuba wayibona intombi yakhe ibanga enye, ngoko kufuneka ibeke iliso ngqalelo indlela yakhe yokujonga ngayo umntu okhethiweyo. Mhlawumbi indlela yokuziphatha yendoda iya kukhokelela ekubeni le ntokazi iya kuphelelwa ngumdla kunye nayo yonke inhlonipho kuye.
Ukuqabana nomfana othanda
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukutolika kwephupha yemibono, apho uwanga kunye nentanda yakho, njengesilumkiso sokuhlukana kwangaphambili. Kwaye kuya kwenzeka kuphela ngephutha le ntombazana, ngokuyininzi ngenxa yokunyanzela.
Umfazi otshatileyo owayenomphunga apho ebanga umyeni wakhe ngesineke ngokutsho kwincwadi yephupha likaMiller kuthetha ukuba phakathi kwabatshatileyo kuya kubakho ubudlelwane obuhloniphekileyo kunye nentembelo, nokuba ngaba ngaphambi kokuba umanyano uxabane.
UMiller ukholelwa ukuba ukumanga nomntu othandekayo ebumnyameni obugqibeleleyo kubonisa ukuba elinye lamalingani alinakukwazi ukudibanisa iimvakalelo zabo aze ahlasele.
Nayiphi na imibono, nokuba iyinto emnandi okanye ayikho, idinga ukutolika. Ngoko musa ukulibala ukufunda incwadi yephupha ixesha elide, kwaye khangela ukuchazwa kombono wakho emva kokuvuswa.