Ukuba nomona akusiva kakuhle, ngamanye amaxesha kubangela abantu ukuba baphelelwe ngumsindo, benze izenzo ezingathandekiyo. Ngaloo mona ungabonisa ubuso bobuqu bomntu wonke. Sonke siyazi ukuba umona wabantu kunye nomona wabasetyhini, njengokuba bathi e-Odessa, ukungafani okukhulu kwembini. Yaye yonke ingongoma yinto yokuba ukuphela kwamadoda kunye nabasetyhini kunokwenzeka (okanye sele kwenzeke) ukungahambisani kuyahluke, kodwa umvelaphi weshwele uhlukile.
Imiphumo, njengoko kubonisa ubomi, ihluke ngokupheleleyo. Abantu bathi: "Inzondelelo - ithetha uthando." Kodwa enyanisweni, umona awunanto yokwenza nothando olude. Ihamba kunye nemvakalelo ehluke ngokupheleleyo: ukungaqiniseki kuzo zonke, ukwesaba okwehlukeneyo (okwenene kwaye akunjalo) kunye nombono wobunini. Emva koko, siza kuzama ukukhangela umona wesilisa kunye nomfazi ngokwahlukeneyo, ukucacisa imithombo yomona kwimeko nganye kunye nemiphumo enokwenzeka.
Umona wesifazana
Ikhwele labesifazane lalinjalo, kwaye liya kuba njalo. Ngokomzekelo, andikaze ndidibana nomfazi ongeke akwazi ukufumana le ntliziyo. Bathi nje abanye bakhe bawafihla ngobuchule. Umona wesifazana uzibonakalisa ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ingqalelo kumntu lowo wesifazane, eneneni, unomona. Okanye ungalahlekelwa ngqalelo kuphela, kodwa kunye nendoda ngokwakhe. Uyesaba ukuba indawo yakhe iya kuthathwa ngenye. Okokuthi, abafazi banomona ngomfazi othile wesibini. Lo umehluko wokuqala phakathi komona wesilisa nowesifazane.
Ukwahlula okwesibini kukuba umona wesifazane unokuhlala ngaphakathi kwaye uqokelele kwiminyaka. Kule meko, lo mfazi uya kumthukuthelisa umntu wakhe ngokuhlaselwa kunye nokucingwa malunga nokuhlaselwa. Kwizenzo ezithe zenziwa ngakumbi ngenxa yalo mkhwele, umfazi akanakwenzeka ukuba anakho.
Ikhwele labasetyhini liloyikisayo loo ntokazi kunye nolunye umfazi (lowo umona unomona), kodwa kumadoda umele imizuzu emininzi (iiyure, iintsuku) zokuhlaselwa ngonya kwaye, mhlawumbi, izinsongo. Ngaphambi kokuba kuthathwe isenzo, ityala, njengoko sele litshilo, ngokuqhelekileyo ayifinyeleli.
Abanye besetyhini banomdla wokuncintisana nexesha elidlulileyo. Naluphi na ukukhumbuza kwexesha elidlulileyo, iifoto, izinto ziya kuzisa umfazi. Kwaye ukuba umntu usalokhu enika izikhumbuzo into ebalulekileyo, echaza indlela ayenzileyo ngayo, ngoko ulaka lomfazi luya kuphuma kwimida efanelekileyo.
Umona womntu
Nantsi yonke into ilula kwaye iqondakala ngakumbi. Indoda inomona ngomfazi wayo xa ivulela enye into, ithatha iimpawu zengqalelo kwabanye, igqoke i-make-up kwaye ikhuphe iimpahla. Nangona unomdla kwenye into engaphezu kwayo. Akunakuba yedwa "inkunzi", kodwa naye umsebenzi wakhe, izinto ezithandwayo, izinto ezithandwayo. Oko kukuthi, kwimeko yesikhwele somntu, kunoko, kunengqondo engumnini.
Umntu ubonisa umona wakhe ngokuvulekileyo, ngokugqithisileyo nangokomzwelo. Unokudala ngomsindo, nantoni na. Njengomthetho, umsindo womntu uphalaza kumfazi ngokwakhe, kaninzi kunomntu onomona.
Kukho uluvo lokuba amadoda awanomona njengabesifazane. Kodwa ukuba umntu uvakalelwa ingqondo yakhe, ngoko ke yena unayo "inhlamba ebusweni". Oku, kunjalo, kuthethwa, kodwa, njengoko bethetha, "akukho msi ngaphandle komlilo."
Ukukrazula umona
Umbuzo oyintloko ozayo - njani ukukrazula iimvakalelo zomona? Indlela eyona nto yokukrazula indalo echithayo yonke iyathembana phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ukuba kunjalo, akukho buncwane abubi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, inokuvela kwindawo ethile eminzini yomphefumlo, kodwa uhlobo olufanayo lokujonga imeko ebenenza umona, inokunceda. Umbuzo wodwa kukuba amadoda, njengabameli abangaphantsi kobuntu, banokuwunqoba umnqweno wokubonakalisa ukunganeliseki kunye neqabane, ukuqwalasela imeko kunye nokugqiba ukuba ngaba ufanelekile ukuba nomona nonke. Abasetyhini banqwenela ukuba baphumele ngokukhawuleza yonke imvakalelo baze bashise amabhuloho, bengayiqondi imeko. Mhlawumbi, akukho namnye onokuba nomona, kodwa nayiphi na insolo eye yangena emphefumlweni wesibhakabhaka ibangela isithwathwa semvakalelo emibi kwaye imise ukuba akulula.
Ngoko, ukuze kukhishwe umona kubalulekile:
- ukuthembela ngokupheleleyo ukuba iqabane lakho liyisiseko salo naluphi ulwalamano, ngoko uthetha omnye nomnye, usitshele ngeemvakalelo zakho, ukwesaba, ufumane zonke iingxaki uze uqalise ulwalamano lwakho kunye ne "slate ecocekileyo";
- Zama ukuqeda ukuvakalelwa: ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumlingani kunye nokuhlala wedwa, ukwesaba ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho ngokucacileyo kwaye uvakalise iingcamango;
- balwe ngokuzithemba. Nguye owenza umntu enzima, kwaye, njengoko kuyaziwayo, iingxaki zonke ezibandakanya ingqondo yengqondo zizalwa kwiinkomfa.
Ngobukhwele unokwenza kwaye ufune ukulwa, okanye mhlawumbi ungonakalisa nje intsapho yakho kunye nolwalamano lomntu othandekayo, kodwa nobomi bakho. Iziphumo ezivela kwisiseko somona zizona zifani kakhulu. Sonke siyakhumbula i-Othello ...