Nangona kunjalo, siya kuzama ukuqonda oko kuthintela ubudlelwane ngendlela engcono kakhulu, kwaye yintoni esinokusetyenziswa ngabo bonke abanqwenelayo, ngaphandle kokuthintela.
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba ulwalamano nomntu alugcinwanga kuphela, kodwa luya kuhlala ngonaphakade, kukho izinto ezibalulekileyo. Namhlanje siza kuxubusha kuphela izinto ezisisiseko, phakathi kwazo: uthando, intlonipho, umonde kunye nexesha. Makhe siqwalasele ingqalelo nganye ngcaciso.
Uthando
I-paradoxical njengoko itywina, uthando aluhlali luhlala ebudlelwaneni. Abaninzi bethu bazama ukwakha ubudlelwane ngomgaqo "wokunyamezela-othandana", kodwa akusiyo yonke loo mgaqo inceda. Umgaqo, ukhankanywe nguOmar Khayyam: "Kungcono ukuba yedwa kunomntu," - ngamanye amaxesha kusishukumisela ukuba sibe nolonwabo, kunokuba sizame ukuqhagamshelana nomntu ongonwabileyo. Ubume abukhuthazeleli ubundlobongela ngokwakho. Kwaye ukuba sichasene neemvakalelo zethu, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, akunakuhlala ixesha elide. Umzimba uya kulahleka, oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni neentloni, ukuphazamiseka kunye nezifo zenyama.
Kananjalo baninzi baya kulahlwa ukuba bafunde ukuphinda bafundise umntu. "Ndammangalisa into eyayiyinto" - yiloo nto ibinzana labasetyhini abalwa nemimoya yomoya xa befuna uthando. Iminyaka engcono kakhulu yobomi babo abanokuyichitha kumntu ongenakufanelekanga, engaqapheli ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba ufundise umntu omdala. Ingakumbi ukuba akafuni ukutshintsha.
Ngoko ukuba ufuna ukuba yonke into ihambe kakuhle namadoda, kholelwa entliziyweni yakho. Khangela uthando lwakho ngazo zonke iindlela, kwaye ungalindeli ulwandle kwimozulu. Kwaye umphumo ongcono, hlalutya iindlela zakho zokuphendula kunye neentsapho. Oku kuya kukunceda ungayithandi nomntu onenkinga. Enyanisweni, kunzima ukuqeda uluvo olumiselwe oogogo, ootata kunye nonina, umzekelo, bonke abantu bayaphuza okanye batshintshe. Kodwa kuyimfuneko yokwenza oku. Kwaye intliziyo yakho iya kuvula umntu ofanelekileyo oya kuguqula ubuxoki kunye nezimvo eziye zafundwa ebuntwaneni, ziya kukunika ukholo eluthandweni.
Umonde
Ewe, ukuba kukho uthando. Nangona kunjalo, enye ayaneleyo ukuba ihlale ngonaphakade. Ukunyamezela kuyadingeka nakwiibinibini ezihlala kunye kunye nothando, kungekhona ngenxa yokufuneka.
Abantu abaninzi abatshatileyo abaye bahlala bevuyo kunye iminyaka elishumi, emashumi amabini okanye ngaphezulu, bakholelwa ukuba imfihlelo eyona nto yokuphumelela kwintsebenziswano yothando kukunyamezela. Kwaye iindlela ezithile zokulwa nokucasula zilula kwaye ziphela. Into eyona nto kukuqonda ukuba kwabanye abantu, okokuqala, siyacaphukiswa yimiphumo esinayo. Скупердяи carp ukunyanzela abantu abatshatileyo, nokuba ngaba kucinga. Amadoda-drones ahlambalaza abafazi babo ngobuvila, nokuba ngaba bahamba njengokuba bexhatshazwe. Kwaye abafazi bexesha elizeleyo bathanda ukuxelela abahlobo babo ukuba umyeni wabo naye unomntu osisigxina kwaye engabalulekanga. Landela indlela oziphatha ngayo, gcina idayari yokukhathazeka kunye nokuxabana, kwaye uya kumangaliswa ukubona ukuba uluhlu lwezinto ezingalunganga zomntu othandekayo olucaphukisa phantse ngokupheleleyo luhlu lwezinto zakho ezimbi.
Omnye umgangatho obalulekileyo ovumela umonde ukukwazi ukuyeka umsindo. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ubilisa, phuma uye kwisitalato okanye kwelinye igumbi. Yaye uqhubeke nombango emva kokuqala kokuvutha komzwelo. Oku kukukhusela ngokusisigxina imizwa kwaye kugweme ukungquzulana okugqithiseleyo kunye nokukhawuleza. Ukuba akukho ndlela yokuphuma, kwaye iqabane lifuna ukuqhuba ingxoxo, sebenzisa umgaqo "imizuzwana eyisixhenxe". Ngaphambi kokuthetha ngokukhawuleza kwimiba enomdla, zibalo ezisixhenxe. Nguwe kuphela othethayo. Isivunguvungu seengcamango sinokuqhawulwa ngexesha elifutshane nje, kwaye amagama angalunganga awanakukubhabha ulwimi lwakho kwaye akayi kuhlutha iqabane lakho bonke ubomi bakhe ngeenkumbulo zabo.
Ukuhlonipha
Imfihlelo yempumelelo yobudlelwano boluthando ayigcini kuphela ekukholweni nothando. Olunye umgangatho obalulekileyo omele uthuthuke ngaphakathi kwakho, ukulungiswa nokuxabisa kukuhlonela iqabane lakho.
Ukungabi nantlonelo kubangele ukuhoxiswa kwelinye inyaniso - kwimidlalo yekhompyutheni, utywala okanye ukuzonwabisa ngokugqithiseleyo kwinto yokuzonwabisa. Ukuba ukungahloneli kwesiqingatha sesibini kuphuma kwisikali, oko kuya kuba sisizathu esibalulekileyo sokusondeza ubudlelwane.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ufunde olu lwalwazi kubafazi bezonxila. Isizathu esivakalayo sokuba amadoda ashiye utywala ngumntu ongehloneliyo, othobayo kwaye ophazamisayo umlingane. Yingakho umntu omnye engakwazi ukusela kunye nomfazi omnye, kwaye uqala ukulala nomnye. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa linamandla okunyusa imeko kwaye ichukumisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela. Omnye ufunda kuphela ukuba abe ngumncedisi wakhe, ukumxhasa, ukumhlonela nokumkhuthaza ngexesha lobuthathaka.
Kwaye ngokubalulekayo kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukubona umntu kwiqabane lakho, ukumhlonela kunye neenqweno zakhe, ukumnceda ekuzaliseni iimfuno zakhe. Akumangalisi ukuba bathi emva komntu ophumeleleyo ngumntu othandayo. Ukholo nenkxaso evela kubazali, umntakwabo, udade okanye umfazi, indoda ingabangela isiseko sokuphila. Kwaye xa umntu evuyayo kwaye efunyanwa ngokwakhe ebomini, kulula ukuba wakhe ukwakha ubudlelwane beentsapho. Kungenxa yoko akufanele uhlazise umntu, unciphisa isithunzi sakhe kunye nokukwazi kwakhe. Kubalulekile ukukholelwa kuyo kwaye uyihloniphe njengokuba kunjalo.
Isikhathi sokuthetha nomnye
Ubuhlobo obuninzi obuphumelelayo buhlukana kuphela ngenxa yokuba nothando omnye nomnye asinalo ixesha lomnye nomnye. Ukuba babona esinye isiqingatha seyure kusihlwa kwaye kusasa, musa ukuphumla kunye, musa ukuya kwii-picnic, musa ukwabelana ngemibono yobomi, ngoko umanyano onjalo uya kulahlwa.
Ngomculo onomsindo wobomi bwanamhlanje, kunzima ukufumana ixesha loqhagamshelwano olusemgangathweni. Kodwa kuyimfuneko kakhulu ukwenza oku. Yonke imali ongeke ukuyifumana, ngoko ungakhathazeki ngenxa yokusebenza, okanye kwenzeka ukuba umsebenzi wakho oqaqambileyo awuyi kufunwa ngumntu ngaphandle kwakho.