Kwaye mhlawumbi umntwana wakho usele minyaka emithathu ubudala kwaye uya kwindlu yangasese kwi-diaper. Khumbula ukuba wonke umntwana unesidyuli ekuphuhlisweni. Nangona kunjalo, awufanele uphephe lo mzuzwana, ikhowudi kufuneka uphendule lo mbuzo ngendlela yokufundisa umntwana ebhodweni.
Indlela yokufundela umntwana ebhodweni ukuba unenkani uyayigxeka yonke imizamo yakho yokumbeka ebhodweni. Khumbula ukuba ukuba uqale ukufundela imbuzi ebhodweni kufuneka kube kuphela kwimeko apho ufunda ukulawula izenzo zakhe kunye nokunyakaza kwaye uyayiqonda ngokucacileyo imbono yesistim sakhe. Eli lixesha elihle xa unako ukufundela umntwana wakho ebhodweni yithuba apho eqala ukukopisha ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala.
Ngoko, makhe sibone nje ezinye iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo malunga nendlela yokufundisa umntwana wakho ebhodweni. Ukuze uqale ingxoxo malunga nesihloko esinjalo, ndingathanda ukukubuza ukuba ungasabi xa ungenakufumana indlela yokufundisa umntwana ebhodweni. Khumbula, kungekudala okanye kamva uya kufunda ukuhamba ebhodweni lomntwana. Okokuqala, qalisa ukuchazela umntwana wakho ukuba wonke umntu uya kwindlu yangasese kwaye le nto ibonakala yinto eqhelekileyo kunoma yimuphi umntu. Unokubonisa umntanakho ngomzekelo wakho ngendlela owenza ngayo. Umzekelo, ukuthatha umntwana kunye naye kwigumbi lokugcina. Musa ukulibala ukuba abantwana bathanda ukuxelisa abadala. Kwaye mhlawumbi lo mva emva kweendlela ezintathu eziza kusombulula ngokwayo kwaye umntwana ngokwakhe uya kuqala ukucela ibhodwe.
Unokuyifundisa njani umntwana ebhodweni ukuba akafuni ukuhlala phantsi. Qala ukuyihlwayela ebhodweni ngamaxesha athile omhla, ngokukhawuleza uhlakulele umkhwa walo, uhlala kuyo xa ufuna ukufuna. Cacisa umntwana ukuba yiyo kanye into oyifunayo kuye.
Kwinqanaba elilandelayo lokusombulula lo mbandela othile wokufundisa umntwana usitsheni ekufuneka uqinisekise ukuba indlu yangasese yabantwana yayisoloko isendaweni enye, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana wayengenayo isohlwayo. Emva kokuba uzimisele, kunye nendawo engasigxina yebhodeni unako, ususe ngokuthe ngcembe i-diapers kunye ne-diapers ukusuka kwindlu ngexesha lokunyamekela umntwana. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo xa abazali beqhelana, umntwana usengumntwana wengane, kukho umnqweno wokuthintela okukuyo. Cacisa kwifom ezithambileyo kwintsana yakho ukuba akuyinto yesiko ukwenza njalo.
Musa ukuyihlwaya nayiphi indlela. Ngaphandle koko, yonke imizamo yakho yokufundisa umntwana ukuba aye ebhodweni, ku-, akukho. Umntwana uya kuba neloyiko loloyiko lokungagcinwa kweso sithethe sokuya kwindlu yangasese, kwaye ibhodlo ngokwayo liya kuba yinkxaso yomntwana.
Nantsi enye ingcebiso malunga nendlela yokufundisa umntwana ebhodweni. Kukulungele ukuqala ukufundela umntwana njengengqayi ehlotyeni okanye kwimeko apho ikhaya lakho lifudumele kwaye lishushu. Unako ukukwazi ukuveza umntwana ngokupheleleyo. Nika umntwana ukuba ahambe ngaphandle kwenkcaso, kwaye xa efuna ukwenza ishishini lakhe, yitshale kwiphusi rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka. Emva koko uza kuqala ukugcina le ndlela kwaye yena ngokwakhe, ngaphandle kwakhe, uya kuzigcina ngokuzithandela lo mkhuba.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, sebenzisa intshisekelo yentsana kuyo yonke into entsha ukuze ufunde umntwana kumbindi. Umntwana wakho uya kufunda i-pot enomdla. Ungamvumela ukuba abone ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, kodwa ungakuvumeli ukuba uthinte izandla zakho. Qiniseka ukuphulaphula umntwana, phendula imibuzo yakhe. Oku kuya kukunceda ekunqumeni indlela yokufundela umntwana ebhodweni.
Musa ukumphoqa umntwana ukuba enze indlu yangasese ngosuku lokubhaka nobusuku. Unokubangela ukungaqondi kakuhle umntwana. Inyaniso yokuba umntwana uhamba ngobusuku obuncinane kwisibhedlele ukuya kwiminyaka eyi-3 ilungile. Ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza kuya kwenza umonakalo omkhulu kulo mbandela, indlela yokufundela umntwana ebhodweni.
Impumelelo kuwe kule ngxaki enzima!