Musa ukuchitha ixesha lokuxabana kunye neengxabano , zama ukunikezela kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye uza kubona ukuba ubomi buya kuhamba ngendlela yayo, kulula kakhulu kwaye lube ngcono.
Yazisa kwaye unakekele izinto ezibalulekileyo zobudlelwane obuhle. Uthando, inhlonipho, ukuqonda. Ezi mvakalelo aziveki ndawo. Kufuneka zikhule. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unyanzelekile kwaye lo mntu akanandaba nawe, kufuneka ufunde le migaqo emithathu ephambili. Ukuba umntu uyintanda kunye nobudlelwane naye, kuya kuba nomnqweno, ukukhula nokuphucula. Ikhono lokuphulaphula nokuva liya kuphepha iingxaki ezininzi. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba kungendawo kumntu wasemzini, zama ukufumana isizathu salolu rhulumente, kwaye ngoko, ngokubambisana, fumana indlela yokuphuma kwimeko. Ubomi bufutshane, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwenzeka, xa ugqiba ukutshela umntu obalulekileyo amagama, ukuxolela, ukuthandana, ukulinda, kusondele kakhulu, utshintshe into okanye uyivande. Iingcaphuno ziba nalutho. Ungaphuthelwa umzuzu, ungesabi ukuphazamisa. Kwaye awuyi kukhawuleza.
Kwiintsebenziswano nabantwana, yonke into ayilula nje njengoko kubonakala ekuqalekeni. Uya kucinga ukuba ingaba lula. Abantwana bafanele ba thobele abazali babo kuzo zonke izinto kwaye konke kuya kulunge. Emva koko, umama nobaba bayazi kakuhle kwaye banqwenela kuphela uvuyo kumntwana wabo. Abaninzi abaqwalasela ukuba abantwana abaye babunjwa ngabanye, kodwa sele benesifiso, iminqweno kunye nomntu. Ukwenza umntu oqinileyo, kuyimfuneko nje ukunika ilungelo lokukhetha, inqanaba elithile lenkululeko. Wonke umntu unelungelo lokwenza impazamo, into ephambili kukubona kwaye uyilungise ngexesha. Ukususela ebuntwaneni, abantwana bafundiswa ukuba baziphendule, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo akubona wonke umntu uyaqonda kwaye uyavuma le ntliziyo. Umsebenzi womzali, uchaze kwaye ufundise ukuchaneka okuchanekileyo komgangatho obunzima. Njengoko kwixesha elizayo, kuya kuba lula ukuba umntwana azibonakalise ebomini nasemsebenzini. Uxanduva lweentsapho, abantwana, izalamane kunye nabahlobo akusayi kubonakala njengomthwalo ongenakubekezelelwa, kodwa uya kuthathwa ngokungenakulinganiswa.
Xa sele eselula, kunzima kakhulu ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo. Njengoko abantwana baziva ukuba sele bekhulile kwaye banako ukwenza izigqibo zabo. Ukongezelela, eli lizwe libonakaliswe ngu maximalism kunye nempembelelo enamandla kakhulu kwi-psyche yomzimba omncinci. Abaselula banenkxalabo malunga nento yonke, kwimbono yomntu, kwezinye izinto ezincinci kwiingubo. Into ephambili ayiyikunyanzela kakhulu kwaye iyaqonda ukuba inkqubela yenguqu yinkalo enzima ebomini bomntu. Inkxaso yothandwayo ibaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba umntwana ufuna uncedo okanye abuze iingcebiso, uncedo, kodwa ungagunyazisi umbono wakho kwaye ungenzi izigqibo kuyo. Oku kuya kuphazamisa kwaye intombazana ayisayi kufuna ukukunceda.
Ngamanye amaxesha uthando lwabazali luyingozi, imbangela ngumona, umnqweno wokukhusela umntwana wakho, ukuzingca. Kodwa zama ukukhulula intshontsho kwidleke ngexesha, ukuba, ngokwenene, ufuna ukuphakamisa umntu ohloniphekileyo, ozimeleyo. Dlulela phezu kwakho "I". Zinike ithuba lokucinga ngokuzimeleyo, wenze iimpazamo, wenze izigqibo. Ndikholelwe, oku kuhlanganisana ngaphezu kokukholisa nokumisela. Nithandane, zama ukuqonda, kwaye ke yonke into iya kuba yinto enhle kuwe.