Ukungena ebuhlotsheni obunzulu ngakumbi, kuyacaca ukuba kutheni abathandana behlala behlala becala, kwaye, ngokukhumbula izikhalazo zamantombazana, andiyiqondi into abangenayo. Ngoku ndiphakathi kwesi siganeko, kwaye ndinokwabelana ngokuthe ngqo kummandla, ndikunike iimvakalelo zam, iingcamango nezigqibo. Intsuku zokuqala sifumana ingqwalasela eninzi, kwaye ngoku ndifumanisa ukuba kutheni sihlala sixabana nabazalwana bethu. Ndayiqonda iimpazamo zabasetyhini xa sisebenzisana namadoda . Yintoni ongayenzayo, kwaye yintoni enokuyenza, kwaye yintoni enokuyenza xa wenza iphutha. Kodwa thina sonke ngabantu, ukuze sonke sikwazi ukwenza iimpazamo.
Ngenxa yokuba ingqwalasela yokuqala kumntu wethu omhle unikezwa ngongoma engcolileyo, kwaye xa sizinikezela ngokupheleleyo kumkhonzi wethu, ke akalahlekelwa ngumdla, hayi, uqala nje ukuphazamisa kuthi nakweminye imiba ebalulekileyo. Yintoni ebaluleke ngakumbi kunathi, ucinga. Akukho nto, thina nje, kuba ukukhanya akuzange kuhlangane, bantombazana abathandekayo, nantoni na ngenxa yothandekayo wakho, weqa ukusilalisa kwi-salon-salon, okanye ukugcoba, okanye utyando - akukho! Uya kubeka ingqalelo ngakumbi kule nkqubo, ukuze oko esikuthandayo, sibone ukuba sikulungele ukuphothula nokuphosa iintsuku, masikubone kuphela ukukhanya kwethu, kwaye akukho mntu! Kwaye abanye abantu mabaqale ukusikhwelezela ukuba singabakhe ngaphandle komkhondo.
Ngoko, xa siqala ukwahlula umthandayo kunye neziganeko ezibalulekileyo kunye nezinto, siba nexhala kakhulu kwaye siyakhathazeka, sikholelwa ukuba kuphela kufuneka siqwalaselwe, kwaye akukho mntu kunye nento enye. Siqala ukuba nomona oqala ngunina nomzalwana kunye nokuphelisa isikhokhelo kunye ne nut, siqala ukufaka i-pink gleam, ebonakalayo ebomvu, kwaye simxelele ukuba akayithandi.
I mpazamo 1 ! Siqala ukugxininisa kuye ukuba akayithandi, kwaye emva kwesikhashana isiphakamiso sisebenza, kwaye uyaphela ekuthandeni. Nabani na umntu unako ukusikisela kunye ne-hypnosis, kwaye nawuphi na umntu unako ukukwazi ukuxhomekeka kule ngxaki. Yaye wena ngokwakho utshabalalisa ulonwabo, umxelele ukuba akakuthandi ngezinyembezi emehlweni akhe.
I mpazamo 2 ! Awunayo isigulane. Ukunyamezela ixesha apho engabalisi nawe, kodwa ngemoto yakhe. Ukuba akayikunika ixesha, kwaye akakutshilo ukuba "ndixolele isithandwa sam (othandekayo, usana, ilanga kunye nokunye okunjalo), kodwa uthi" andinako namhlanje, kufuneka ndilungise imoto kunye noVasya ", oku akuthethi ukuba awuthandi, kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ahlaziye imoto kunye noVasya. Yenza into, endaweni yokutya ingqondo yakho ngokungenanto engathi "akayithandi kwaye akayithobeli."
I mpazamo 3 ! Awuyena kuphela umntu emhlabeni osondele kuye. Usenomama, umzalwana kunye neqela lama-nephews. Baye banqwenela ingqalelo yakhe, njengawe, ngoko fundisa ukwabelana nentsapho yakhe, kuba uyazi ngakumbi nangaphezulu. Omnye wabahlobo bam wakhalaza ukuba umhlobo wakhe akahambanga naye kwi-cinema kuye nangosuku lwakhe, kodwa waya kunceda umntakwabo, wakha indlu. Yintoni ebaluleke ngakumbi? I-movie okanye indlu? Kufuneka ukwazi ukunikela into ethile ngenxa yothando. Mhlawumbi wahlawula imini awayeza kuyo ukuyichitha kunye nentanda yakhe, kodwa emva kokuba umntakwabo wonke ecela uncedo ekwakheni indlu. Kubi kakhulu kunomabhayisikobho.
I mpazamo 4 ! Uzingca. Uhlala udonsa ingubo phezu kwayo, ukuyithatha kude nabathandekayo bakho. Uthabatha kuye izinto azithandayo, ubenzela izinto zokuzilibazisa. Nawuphi na umntu uthanda ukubuka ibhola kunye nabahlobo kunye nokusela ubhiya, kwaye kunoko uya kuthenga kunye nawe, okanye uya kutyelela umhlobo wakho, okanye into ethile, into oyithandayo. Yaye ukuba uyakunikela ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe oyintandokazi, uphazamisa impumlo yakho, udibanise kwi-grimace "Ndiya kuhlanza" ngokukhamuluka "kungabi nantoni na", cinga ukuba uya kuthini xa ekhwaza ngendlela efanayo kwiingcamango oziphakamisayo, ukuchitha ixesha lakho ixesha lokuthanda.
I mpazamo 5 ! Ngenxa yamakhanda akhe omncinci okanye umfazikazi oqaqambileyo, asiyiboni umnqweno womntu wethu, ngaloo ndlela uyimguqula ekubeni ngumthandayo. Udinga indoda eya kwenza izenzo zendoda, kwaye ayikho enye ezalisekisa yonke iminqweno yakho. Akayindoda endala, i-Hottabych, eyayiza kuqabula iinwele zakhe zokugqibela ukuze zizalise iimfuno zakho ezincinci. Ewe, akusiyo isifiso esingafihli-ukuya kwitolo uze uthenge i-blouse entsha, kodwa jonga ngokucacileyo, kwaye wena, ndicinga ukuba, iya kuqonda yonke into.
Apha siyakhononda ukuba amadoda ethu awayiqondi yonke into, kwaye asazi nto esiyidingayo. Kwaye thina siyazi oko kuyimfuneko? Iminqweno nemimiselo yam inokutshintsha yonke imizuzu elishumi, kwaye ndiqonda ukuba intanda yam ayikwazi ukuzivumelanisa nabo naphantsi kwayo yonke inguqu. Funda ukuqonda umhlobo wakho, jonga yonke into ngokuchaseneyo, unciphise i-whims yakho encinci kwaye uya kukwazi ukuyibona. Oku akuyi kubonwa, kwaye uya kukuthanda ngakumbi. Naluphina uphawu lokubaluleka kwakhe ndiyayibona ngokunyaniseka, nangona kunjalo, kodwa ngokumncoma. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukunyaniseka kwezi zinto, zihamba zisuka entliziyweni, ukuba uhlala kunye ndawonye ixesha elide, kungekhona "ukuhamba." Ndiza kuthetha omnye umzekelo, kwakhona, umhlobo wam ufuna, ngokuqinisekileyo eli gama, enye inwele eyayibiza ngokugqithiseleyo yokuzalwa kwakhe, kodwa ayifumananga. Endaweni yoko, wathola isatifiketi kwisitolo se-underwear. Ewe, kwakungekho nemali kumntu ngaleso sikhathi, wayeselungisile umhla wakhe wokuzalwa, waza wahamba neentombi zakhe kunye naye ngokwemvelo kwiqela le bowling. Wayengeyonto leyo, wayenomsindo. Kwaye yonke into yayingqongqoza kunye nokukhwaza ngeemfuno zayo, ngenhlanhla kuye yayincoko elukhuni ukukhahlela, okanye mhlawumbi uyamthanda kakhulu, kodwa bahlala behlangene, kwaye isadinga ukulungiswa kwayo. Akumangalisi ukuba bathi "musa ukubheka isilwanyana isipho emlonyeni" kwaye "ulindela okubi kakhulu, kodwa nethemba elona lihle kakhulu", ubulumko bentlalo, efunyenwe ngamaxesha, ihlala ilungile, musa ukugxekisa izipho zakhe, kodwa ulungele kwangaphambili oko ufunayo kuye, kodwa ungalindeli ukuba uya kuqonda ingcaciso yakho. Kwaye ke, kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu ukuba ufumane oko ukulindeleke kuye, ukuba uyaqonda, kunjalo.
Sekunjalo, amadoda ethu ahlekisayo kwaye anqabile xa abathanda. Bayesaba ukwenza okubi ngakumbi ngokwenza okubi. Ewe, ndiyakwazi ukumxelela umthandi wam xa endizisela i-rose ephantsi nje ngaphandle kwesizathu, kwaye xa ejonga kum amehlo agcwele uthando kum, kwaye uthi "ndoda, ndandifuna ukukwenza uzive kakuhle." Ndingamxelela njani ukuba le nto iphakamile kwaye ayibi, ukuba ibonisa uthando lwakhe. Ewe, unokukhetha okulungileyo, kodwa emva kwayo yonke into, amadoda ayengekho ncam efanelekileyo xa efika kwisipho somthandayo.
Umgaqo ophambili wobudlelwane obuyimpumelelo, ophindaphinda iimagazini zamabhinqa zemihla yethu "kufuneka uqonde amadoda ukuba aya kusiqonda." Thanda amadoda akho, kwaye aya kukuthanda ngaphezu kokumthanda.