Kwaye imivuzo enhle kunye nethemba eliqaqambileyo litsala abafazi beeminyaka ezahlukileyo njengeemotya emlilweni. Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kuthembiswe imali elula, abafazi baphoqeleka ukuba banyamezele ukuthotywa. Akuyinto enhle, kodwa imeko yatshintshile namhlanje. Uninzi lweenkampani zithengisa ngeentengiso malunga nomsebenzi ngaphandle kwamanye amazwe, kodwa abo benzayo ngokwenene ziyunithi. Kwezinye iimeko, unokwazi ukuwela kwesinye isicupho, ukuphuma apho kunzima kakhulu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akunakwenzeka ngokupheleleyo.
Enyanisweni, ubomi.
Ngako oko, i-ad ad newspaper, ngokubanzi isebenza kwamanye amazwe kubomama, iqukethe ubomi basekhaya kunye nabasemagunyeni abazimeleyo, umsebenzi wabasetyhini okanye abaqashi, ngamanye amaxesha abadansa kuma-nightclub, kunye neziphakamiso zokuvunwa kwezityalo zonyaka. Kodwa imeko xa owesifazane efumana ngokwenene umsebenzi othembisiwe, kwaye unokukwazi ukufumana imali elula, umsebenzi onyanisekileyo ngaphandle kokwesaba ubomi bakhe kunye nempilo, ngelitshutshiso. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo baninzi nje ngaphandle komthetho. Kwenzeka, kwaye ke, ukuba ekuthiwa ngqesho, okanye ekuqhubeni ukubonisana, kumantombazana nakwabasetyhini ngokukhawuleza kwaye bachaze ngokucacileyo, kuphi na oko bahambayo. Kwaye baninzi bavuma.
Ngamhla, enye into eyaziwayo: xa abantu bathunyelwa ngokusemthethweni emsebenzini, kuthiwa balungiselela amafektri, amafektri, ifama - nceda, sebenze. Kodwa abanakuyibona imbuyekezo. Okanye nokuba ufike kwindawo ekuya kuyo ayifumaneki ngaso sonke isikhathi. Umqeshwa osolwayo ufumana imali kunye namaxwebhu, kwaye umntu uhlala kwindawo apho apho, ngaphandle kwayo, akukho mntu onokumnceda. Ngaphambi kwabaphambukeli abangekho mthethweni, ukhetho alukho lukhulu: nokuba usebenze kubantu basekuhlaleni ukuba bafumane amaxwebhu amasha kunye nendlela eya ekhaya, okanye ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokuzithandela kwiphaneli. Abasemagunyeni basemagunyeni basoloko bevakalisa ngokucacileyo ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuncedwa kwi-ambassy. Kholelwa kule nto ayikhoyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa ufuna uncedo, impendulo "ininzi kuwe", ngoko ityala lakho lihanjiswe ngokukhawuleza kumapolisa asekuhlaleni. Kwaye ukuvalelwa, uphando olude, ukuthunjwa okanye ixesha linokwenzeka.
Ukhetho lwakho.
Umntu ngamnye udala isigqibo sakhe ngokwakhe. Yaye indlela yokuphila kwethu iya kukhula ixhomekeke ngqo kwizinto ezikhethiweyo esizenzayo ebomini bethu. Ukuya phesheya kwakhona kukukhetha kwethu ngokwabo. Akunjalo ngenxa yobomi obulungileyo abafazi baya kuzuza imali. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukhetho olugqibeleleyo lwenziwa ngathi.
Kukho amaninzi amaninzi xa amabhinqa okanye amantombazana aphesheya ehamba kunye nabahlobo, izalamane, nokuba ngabayeni. Kwaye ba thobela ukuqokelela iifomethi phantsi komthwalo wegama elithi "kufuneka". Okanye omnye umzekelo xa umfazi ngokukhawuleza ebenomhlobo oza kufika "bevela khona", kwaye bayamangalisa indlela ababehlala ngayo njengaye, kwaye baninzi amathuba okuba bafazi bavuleleke ngaphandle. Emva koko, kukho amabali amade malunga nazo zonke iingqungquthela zobomi phesheya. Kule meko, yonke into ichazwe ngendlela enjalo loo ntokazi efika kwingcamango, ukuhamba. Kodwa kuya kubakho enye into, njengokuthi "kuthini ukuba". Konke oku kukhokelela ekubeni kukho nayiphi na imeko siyanyanzelwa ukuba senze "ukhetho" lwethu. Ngaloo ndlela, amantombazana nabasetyhini badla ngokubambisana ukuba bathathe ubuhenyu, okanye basebenze nzima, okokuba, xa kunjalo, abayi kunyibilika, ngokucacileyo asiyiyo imali efana neyathembiswa ekuqaleni. Into edabukisayo kukuba nangona "inceku" enjalo ingabuyela ezweni lakubo, akukho mntu uyamnceda. Kuzo zonke i-arhente zokunyanzeliswa komthetho uya kunikwa impendulo eyodwa: "Wavume ngokuzithandela," okanye "bekukhethileyo." Nangona oku kukhetho oluphawulekayo ongenalo.
Nangona kungalunganga ukulinganisa wonke umntu kumgca owodwa, kukho ukungafani, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo baqinisekisa nje umgaqo onzima.
Ingaba kunjalo enye indlela?
Kodwa kwenzeka nangenye indlela. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba uhambo oluya phesheya ukuba ibhinqa ithikiti lucky, kwaye ngokwenene uyakwazi ukufumana, kwanomntu nomncinci, kodwa isisombululo esifanelekileyo, ngelixa lingabi lixhoba lobundlobongela, ukuxhatshazwa okanye ubugqila. Ukusebenza ngaphandle kwamabhinqa ngokuqhelekileyo kubandakanya imisebenzi engafuneki nayiphi imfundo ekhethekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kumazwe apho abesetyhini bethu bathunyelwa khona ngokomthetho, akukho zikhundla zabasebenzi abangekho mthethweni. Ngoko ke, zithatyathwa kumsebenzi onzima kunzima kwaye, ongowabantu bendawo abafuni ukuya kuwo.
Kwakhona, ukungabi nolwazi kolwimi kunempembelelo enkulu, ngoko kudla ngokubanzi ukusebenza kwamanye amazwe njengendlela yokuthungula, i-laundress kunye ne-dishwasher. Eyona nto ingcono, unokufumana umgcini wendlu ekhaya okanye ube ngumntwana. Iindaba ezilungileyo kuphela kukuba phakathi kwamanye amazwe aqeshe abafuduki abangekho mthethweni, abaninzi babo bangabokuqala kubo bonke abantu, ngesimo sengqondo sabantu bethu.
Zikhathalele.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, uye wagqiba ekubeni uhambe, kwaye ungaboni nayiphi na enye indlela, qaphela ezinye iingcebiso ezingakunceda kwikamva. Kwaye ke, into yokuqala yokukhumbula kukuba intshaba yakho eyona nto kukukholo lwakho kunye nentloni. Ungesabi ukubuza imibuzo eninzi, kwaye ukholwe igama lokuqala elikhulunywe ngalo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ikamva elichazwe ngokukhawuleza, yonke imibala ifanele ibe yanciphisa ubuncinane ubuncinane. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abaqhophololo abanakho ukukhohlisa kuphela abo bavumela ukuba bakhohliswe. Unolwazi, kwaye ukungathembeki kwimibutho enjalo ayithandi. Khawukhumbule into yokuba kwiidolophu ezininzi kukho imibutho ejongene nerejista yee-arhente zabasebenzi.
Emva kokuthetha nomqeshi onokuba ngumqeshi, yiya khona uze ufumane lonke ulwazi oluchanileyo. Kwakhona, khankanya ukuba i-visa enikeziwe kuwe ikunika ilungelo lokusebenza, kwaye ungabi sisilumko ukuba uhambe nawe endleleni ukuba ulungelelaniso lwee-arhente zokunyanzeliswa komthetho, apho unokukuncedwa ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kakhulu. Kukho enye impazamo eyenziwa ngabasetyhini, ukuya ebukhosini, okanye kwimibhobho - bayesaba ukuqhagamshelana namapolisa. Khumbula ukuba xa ufika ngokwakho, unako ukubonakala njengexhoba, kodwa ukuba uvalelwe, ungathini "ukutshisa" - ithuba liye lancipha.