Kuthekani ukuba ndilala nomhlobo wamhlobo?

Ebusweni, akukho mntu ukhuselekile kwiimeko ezibucayi ezinxulumene neentlanga ezithandekayo. Oku kuye kwabonakaliswa kaninzi ngamantombazana kunye namadoda. Kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kungabonakali. Yintoni endingayithethayo, asiyiyo yonke into efanelekileyo, kwaye nangakumbi xa ixhatshazwa ngesini esahlukileyo kwaye ingengomnye umntu, kodwa isithandwa sayo intombi. Ngaloo mntu, lo mfana kunye nomhlobo wakho baya kuxutyushwa kwinqaku lethu, apho siza kuzama ukufumana impendulo kumbuzo onzima kakhulu: "Kuthekani ukuba ndilala nomhlobo wamhlobo? ".

Yaye le nto yile: uyintombazana, uyindoda, uyintombi yakho, kunye nani nonke, nibambane nento ethiwa "intantathu yothando". Kukho "isono" sonke sifihliweyo kuphela kubantu ababini - wena kunye naye, intombi yakhe oyithandayo. Ukuba uhamba ngendlela enengqiqo, umhlobo wakho "nje ngexhoba" leemeko, ngokupheleleyo kwegama. Kodwa, nokuba yintoni na, kwaye naziphi na izimvo ezililayo, kufuneka siphila, kwaye singahlali nje kuphela, kodwa (nokuba mhlawumbi ngaphezu kweyodwa) sijonge emehlweni kwintombi yethu. Ndingathini xa uhamba naye, mhlawumbi ngabahlobo abakhulu. Yingakho kuyimfuneko ukwenza into. Ngoko, uhlushwa yesazela, mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi akunjalo. Ewe, kunzima ngakumbi xa unemvakalelo kwaye ufuna ukuhlala nalo mfana. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, uya kuqhubeka uvakalisa umbuzo ofanayo, othi, "njengentsimbi", ehleli entloko yakho (mhlawumbi enzulu entliziyweni yakho) kwaye akafuni ukuphuma apho: "Yintoni endiyenzayo xa ndilala intombazana? ".

Ukuzimela.

Ngoko, okokuqala kukufuneka uziqonde kwaye uziphendule le mibuzo: "Kutheni ulala naye? "" Ufuna ukubonisa okanye ukuthetha kuwe? "," Ngaba uyayithanda le ndoda kwaye ufuna ukuqhubeka nokujongana naye (kwaye kuyinqweneleka ukufumana ukuba yintoni)? ". Kwaye umbuzo wokugqibela kunye obaluleke kakhulu kuwe uza kuba uxabisa kangakanani ubuhlobo bakho kunye nomntu osithandana naye olala naye. Impendulo yombuzo wokugqibela iya kuba yinto engundoqo kwizenzo zakho ezongezelelweyo. Emva koko, ukuba intombi ifumanisa into oyenzayo, kukho ithuba lokuba awuyi kuba ngumhlobo. Kwaye ke, ukuba uya kwinqanaba elinjalo, ngaba ucinga ubungqina bakho nobudlelwane bakhe?

Kakade, kule meko kukho "nakwelinye icala kwicala". Wena, kunye naye, unokugcina yonke into ekusithekeni, ukuze kuzuze lo buhlobo (utsho ukuba, owakho kunye naye). Kodwa apha kukho i minuses. Inyaniso yokuba ulala nesithandwa somthandane, kungekudala okanye emva koko, uya kuqala ukukuxosha kunye nokunyanzeliswa kokuziphatha kwimisipha yakho. Ewe, kwaye kwakhona, xelela, kutheni intombazana yakho inomfana onokukwazi ukulala nabani na, ngokungawunaki izinto ezinjalo njengokuba "ubuhlobo", "ukunyaniseka", "uthando"? Ngelizwi, waqhekeza ngokwenene imithi. Ngoko ke, ukuba awulungele ukuhlala nalo "ilitye emphefumlweni wakho," indlela engcono kakhulu kuwe (kwaye ngokwenene kubo bobabini), ngokuqinisekileyo, iya kuba yinto yokuvuma. Nangona kulungele ukukhumbula ukuba ebomini kukho imeko ezahlukileyo kwaye ngoko ngamanye amaxesha unokwenza nje ukukhawuleza le ngxoxo kunye nentombazana ngexesha elihle. Ngokomzekelo, intombi yakho yahlukana nalo mfana.

Yintoni oyenzayo?

Ngoko, kule meko, ubuncinci amabhankana amabini kwaye, njengoko kungenakucacisa, akukho nto. Kwaye zivakala ngathi: yitsho njalo, kwaye uzame ukuchaza isizathu sokuba ulale naye, gcina le mfihlelo "emva kwezihlisi ezisixhenxe." Okanye ulindele ukuba intombi yakho iqale kunye nalo mfana kwaye mhlawumbi nangayiphi na indlela ukumnceda ngayo. Qinisekisa, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba ungenza njani, kuphela wena. Into ekhunjulwayo yokuba nayiphi na inyaniso inokuhlala iyenzeka. Ngoko ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukuthetha inyaniso kwangoko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba buhlungu kangakanani. Kwaye kukulungele ukwenza oko ngokwakho kunokuba xa intombi ifumanisa kumnye umntu.

Yaye ukuba uthando?

Kodwa into embi kakhulu, ukuba ulala nesoka lomhlobo ngenxa yemvakalelo yakho. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Okokuqala kukho konke kufuneka uxoxe nomfana kwaye ufumene ukuba yiziphi izicwangciso azama ukuzenza kuwe nezenzo zakhe ezilandelayo. Kuphela emva koko kufuneka uqhubeke le ngxoxo, kuphela kunye nentombi yakho. Yivume kwiimvakalelo zakho, kwaye ukuba ungumhlobo wakho wenene, kwaye udibanise ngaphezu kohlobo, mhlawumbi uya kuqonda kwaye akuxolele. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunjani, kodwa kumhanahanisi kwaye udibana ngasese emva kwakhe-oku kuyacaphukisa kwaye kungalunganga kuye. Ngendlela, musa ukucela loo nto umfana ukuba athethe nentombazana. Kufuneka kube nengxoxo yakho ye-tete-a-tete, ngaphandle kweyodwa "eyongezelelweyo yesithathu" apho. Ukongeza, ukuba intombi yakho kunye nalo mfana akahlali ixesha elide, kwaye abanakho izicwangciso zexesha elizayo elivuyisayo, incoko enjalo iya kuqala. Ngaphezu koko, njengokuba uqinisekiswa kwakhona, unokufumana ukutshintshwa ngokufanelekileyo kwintombi yakho kwindawo yalo mfana. Uyazi intle yakhe, ngoko kuya kuba lula ukumkholisa kunye nomfana. Kodwa kufuneka uyenze oku xa uqinisekile ukuba kuya kukunceda ugcine ubuhlobo bakho, kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukhohlwe ngumhlobo wakho wangaphambili.

Ukuba yonke into ayinjalo isifuba ...

Ewe, ukuba umfana ngokwakhe, naye walala nawe ngaphandle kokuhambelana, kodwa nje ukuvuya okanye ukuphakamisa umfana wakhe "Ndiya", uya kuba nzima. Yintoni enokuyenza ngalo mfana? Emva koko, apha akayisipho, kwaye ubuhlobo buya kulahleka. Iingcebiso zethu kukuxelela inyaniso kwakhona. Into ebalulekileyo yencoko ifanelekile ukwakha kwintonga ebizwa ngokuba: "Umfana wakho akufanelekanga kuwe". Cacisa ukuba endaweni yakho kwakukho enye intombazana kwaye kungekhona kwinto yokuba awunabo uluhlu lwakhe. Ngoko ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani, nokuba yintoni ebiza ngayo, vula intombi yakho intombazana kumthandekayo wakhe. Mhlawumbi akayi kukuqonda ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kukubulela ngexesha elithile. Kwaye kunye nekomityi yetiyi, uya kuhleka nje le ngxaki. Emva koko, abantu bathetha inyaniso ukuba ubuhlobo bokwenyaniso buvavanywa zilingo kunye nexesha.

Kwaye into yokugqibela, khumbula ukuba abantu bafunda kwiimpazamo. Ngoko ke, kwikamva, ziphephe nje iziganeko ezinjalo kwaye uzikhethele abantu abakhululekileyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo abayizintombi zehlobo olusondeleyo. Khumbula, bafana bahambe bahambe, kodwa ubuhlobo buhlala ngonaphakade! Musa ukubeka umngcipheko kubahlobo bakho, kwaye xa ukhubeka, cela ukuxolelwa. Le nto yodwa inokukunceda kwaye inyibilikise intliziyo ephosakeleyo yomhlobo. Inhlanhla!