Ukutshintsha abantu baya kwizizathu ezahlukileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ezi zenzo zikhawuleza kwaye zingenanto. Kwenzeka ukuba umntu uthathe isigqibo sokutshintsha, kuba uyacaphuka ngumhlobo wakhe kwaye ufuna ukuziphindisela. Oko kuphela emva kokungcatsha, abaninzi baqala ukuziva benetyala kwaye sele bengayazi ukuba benzani. Ngokomzekelo, abanye besetyhini bayazibuza: kuthekani ukuba ndiyonyanya kumyeni wam nomhlobo wakhe? Kwimeko enjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo, esiza kuqwalaselwa, siqikelele kwaye silumke.
Ngoko, yintoni omele uyenze xa ukhohlisa kumyeni wakho nomhlobo wakhe? Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kutheni lo mfazi wenza oku. Yintoni yaba yiyo isizathu kwaye yintoni eyamshukumisela ukuba atshintshe. Kukho iindlela ezininzi, kwaye siya kuqwalasela eziphambili.
Ukunyuka
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba kwiminyaka emininzi siphila eduze komntu kwaye simphatha ngokungenanto okanye ngendlela enobungane, kwaye ngokukhawuleza siqala ukumbona ngokupheleleyo ukusuka kwelinye icala size sizive sisithandwa. Omnye unokunqoba lo mnqweno, kodwa umntu uqhubela "echibini enekhanda." Kwaye emva kokuba isenzo senziwe, kufikelele ekuqinisekiseni ukuba utshintshile wakho umthandayo kwaye uyamoyika. Indlela yokwenza kule meko? Ukuba ibhinqa ivakalelwa kukuba yenze intlondi kunye nomhlobo ngobuwula kwaye eqinisweni uyayithanda indoda yakhe kuphela, ibali lifana neli lifana. Ewe, kuphela xa uqinisekile ukuba umhlobo akaxeleli umyeni wakhe. Ukuba oko kwenzeka, ngoko uya kuba yimeko embi. Ngako oko, unako ukuthula ngo-kuphela xa uthembele kumntu wesibini.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuxelela, lungiselela ukuba unokulahlekelwa ubuhlobo kunye nomyeni wakho nomhlobo wakhe. Indoda inokuthi yishiye bobabini, kwaye umhlobo uya kukugxeka ngokuphulaphula ubudlelwane babo. Ngako oko, kulo mzekelo, kukuya kuwe ukugqiba ukuba ngaba ufanelekile ukuba uthembeke okanye ulungele ukuhlala kulo ngokungathi akukho nto eyenzekayo. Ewe, unako ukujamelana nesazela sakho, kodwa kunzima ukubonisa nantoni na, kuba wonke umntu unquma indlela enokuyenza ngayo.
Buyise
Ukuba uye waya ekukhohliseni umyeni wakho ukuphindiselela, ngoko mhlawumbi ufuna ukuba wazi ngako. Kule meko, kukho umbuzo omnye kuphela: indlela yokujongana nomhlobo wakhe. Emva koko, ukuba umfazi ushintshile kunye nendoda eyaziwayo iminyaka emininzi kwaye ethembele, ngoko, ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu akanako ukuxolela umhlobo wakhe aze aphule ubuhlobo bakhe naye. Ewe, ulwalamano lwakho kunye nomyeni wakho, kwinqanaba, akufanele limbambe ubuhlobo bakhe, kodwa ngakwelinye icala kuyafaneleka ukuba sicinge ukuba ubuhlobo obuqinileyo xa umntu eguqule umhlobo wakhe kunye nomkakhe. Ngoko ke, ukuba ugqiba ukuphindisela, mhlawumbi kufuneka uqhubeke uqhagamshelanisa noluntu, ukuze ufumane ukwanelisa. Nangona kusekholelwa ukuba impindezelo ayikho into efanelekileyo. Kodwa nanko wonk 'ubani kufuneka azenzele isigqibo sokuba ngokwakhe uyavumelana nalo mazwi okanye ayikho.
Uthando
Eyona ndlela, yokugqibela, inkoliso eyona nto nzima - ibhinqa litshintshile, ngenxa yokuba yathandana. Kule meko, kuhlale kuyimfuneko ukunyaniseka nathi kunye nabantu abangenandaba nathi. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uthandane nomhlobo womyeni wakho, kwaye uyabuyisela, akufanele ubalekele iimvakalelo zakho uze uzame ukugcina intsapho yakho. Kule meko, wenza abantu abathathu bengonwabi. Umyeni wakho uya kuhlala evakalelwa kukuba phakathi kwakho akusekho loo mvakalelo, kwaye iimfihlelo zakho ziya kuqala ukumbandezela kwaye ngokukhawuleza emva koko ulwalamano luya kugwalala. Yingakho kungcono ukuvuma ngokunyanisekileyo konke ngokukhawuleza. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umyeni wakho akayi kuvuyela le ndaba, kwaye, mhlawumbi, ulwalamano lwakho luya kuhlahloka ixesha elide, kwaye mhlawumbi ngonaphakade. Nangona kunjalo, uya kuba usazi ukuba wenze into efanelekileyo, kwaye umyeni wakho uya kuqonda ukuba nangona ekhuselekile, ubuncinane benza ngokunyanisekileyo naye. Khumbula ukuba uthando alukhe lwakhiwe ngamanga. Ngoko ukuba ufuna ukuvuyiswa - xelela malunga nokunyaniseka kwakho.