Ngaloo busuku ube nobusuku obuhle, uxoxe ngeziganeko zosuku oludlulileyo, unamalungiselelo eveki-ntsuku, kwaye namhlanje iinyembezi zigeleza emlambo, ukutshatyalaliswa kwamanye amazwe, kulandelwa yinto yokungaxhatshazi. Imibuzo ethi "kutheni?", "Njani na?". Ukufunda ngokungcatsha kwendoda yakhe, phantse wonke umfazi uya kulahlekelwa ngokwaneleyo imeko leyo, kwaye nangakumbi, ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza.
Ngentukuthelo, intlungu, ukuphelelwa lithemba, ngaba uyaqonda ukuba uyamthanda umyeni wakho kwaye akalungele ukulahlekelwa nguye, nangona isenzo sakhe esidekayo? Emva koko unokwenza njengoko kunconywa kumaphephancwadi agqabileyo: uthenge iingubo zangaphantsi ezitshatileyo, uzikhathalele, uphinde ube ngukumkanikazi omhle, kwaye makumvumele ukuba aqonde ukuba yintoni inzuzo ehlala naye.
Ininzi yabasetyhini, befunda ngokungcatsha komyeni wakhe, baqala ukuyiqhayisa, bacele ukuba bayeke ulwalamano, bafunde iifowuni, i-imeyile, bahlolisise iingubo zeempawu ze-lipstick, bacebise ukubuza imibuzo ngobusuku "uhlala phi?" Njalo njalo. Izenzo ezingafanelekanga ukugcina nokubuyisela umyeni wakhe ziyakwenza ukuba abe nesihe kwaye abe nehlazo. Kwaye uza kuba ngumfazi onamahloni onamehlo abomvu kunye nemilomo yokuthuthumela.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo emva kokufumanisa into yokuba uhlaselo. Kakade, akuyi kuba lula ukuba indoda yakho ingagqibeli ukuba ngubani ofuna ukuba naye. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uphendule lo mvavanyo, unokubuyisela umyeni kwintsapho. Ngoko, sidlulela kwimithetho ephambili.
Andiyixhoba!
Sidla ngokudlala indima yexhoba. Siphakamisa izandla zethu, masilawule, sidle imilomo yethu size sithule, sihleli ekhoneni. Ngaphezu koko, ngoku kukho isizathu esikhulu sokuzixolisa - ukutshatyalaliswa komyeni! Khawucinge nje, umyeni wakho sele sele ehlutywa ngokungathandabuzeki ukuba uyayifuna le nkosikazi nokuba uyenza iphutha elikhulu ebomini bakhe. Ubuyela ekhaya, kwaye apho, ngokuziphatha kwakho nangomusa, mxelele ukuba uyisisulu, kwaye uyindoda. Ukunyamezela kade loo mntu akayi kuthi, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuhamba apho kungekho zityholo, iinyembezi kunye namahlazo.
Khumbula, awuyixhoba!
Ngaba kufuneka ndifunde i-imeyile yakhe?
Lo mnqweno unobungozi kakhulu, xa ubonakele kanye, kuya kuvuka kwakhona. Musa ukujonga iinkcukacha ezintsha eziqinisekisa ukukhohlisa. Akukho imfuneko yokufunda i-sms-ki, i-imeyile, iphepha kwiLJ okanye iVKontakte. Ukuqokelela ngokwabo nakwezinye izihlamba kwiinkcukacha ezitshatileyo zokungcatsha komyeni wakho, uze uthele kulo konke oku? Wena ngokwakho uya kuba mnandi kwaye unyanyeka ekubeni uye wanciphisa ukuziphatha okunjalo. Ingqiqo yecala kumntu wakho iya kukhula ibe yintlupheko.
Musa ukukhangela ubungqina obutsha bokungcatsha kwamadoda!
I povidiruyu wena kosmy!
Akunakufaneka ukuba afune ukubheka intlanganiso kunye nenkosikazi yakhe. Ungumfazi onjalo, onjengawe, olwa nomntu. Umnqweno wokuthandwa, ukuba nentsapho, inamandla nje njengakho. Ungalindelanga ukuba ngenxa yesincoko yocingo, uya kuguquka aze anqabe "i-Vasya" yakho njengaye. Ukhuphisana nomvuzo oyigugu - umyeni wakho. Ukongezelela, uya kukuxelela ngomsebenzi wakho kumyeni wakhe, oya kumama ngokukhawuleza aze aqale kumduduza. Kungcono wenze imibuzo malunga nenkosikazi yakho, qokelela ulwazi kwaye uhlale unolwazi.
Musa ukuthatha inxaxheba ebuhlotsheni bakho bomyeni wakho kunye nenkosikazi!
Okanye mna, okanye!
Ewe, kungekudala okanye kamva, kufuneka ucele umbuzo malunga nomyeni wakho umyeni wakho ukhetha. Kodwa musa ukukhawuleza ukuba uvakalise "okanye mna, okanye." Nangona iimvakalelo zakhe zenkosikazi zakhe zisandul 'ukutsha, ukhetho alukwazi ukuwa. Ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi abantwana kumyeni wakho bangabaluleke kakhulu kwaye babalulekile ehlabathini, baluleke ngakumbi kunkosikazi, ngoko unokuzama ukuphula le nxantathu kwangoku. Unokubeka isigxina kwisiganeko oqinisekileyo ukuba ulungele ukumyeka.
Ubusi, ndiza kusasa namhlanje emsebenzini.
Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ngokubangela umona emyeni wakhe, baya kukwazi ukuyibuyisela. Oku akunjalo. Ukuba umntu uthinteke kakhulu kwinkosikazi, ngokokuba udlala ngothando kunye nomlingane wakho, ummelwane okanye nje kunye nomfokazi, unokuqonda njengemvume yolwalamano olunjalo. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kumxelela ukuba awukhathalele ngokwenene umntu onobubi, wena ngokwakho awunakucingi "ukuzonwabisa kumacala". Khumbula ukuba kumadoda amaninzi, ukukopela kwindoda akufani neyowesifazane. Yaye inokusabela ingaba yinto engalindelekanga kunye nobudlova. Akufanelekanga ingozi.
Ungatshintshi umyeni wakho ngokubuyisela!
Okanye mhlawumbi iphoso lam?
Zivume ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba uxelele ngokuphindaphindiweyo umhlobo oye waqhatha umyeni wakhe, wabhala kwiforamu ngesihloko senguqu yendoda, ukuba xa kwenzeka, loo mntu ulahlekelwa into ethile kwintsapho, ngoko uqala ukukhangela "kwicala". Cinga ngenyameko, awuzange uphendule iminyaka yobomi bentsapho yakho kwi-klushu ekwenzeni iingubo ezigcobileyo okanye umntu okhohlakeleyo okhusele umyeni wakhe ngokupheleleyo? Lilixesha lokugqibela lokukholisa indoda yakho ngendlela yesondo? Abazange bafezekise umtshato wabo, kodwa, umz Ixesha lokufumana ixesha apho wenza iimpazamo kwaye uzilungise ngokukhawuleza.
Akukaze kube mva ukutshintsha!
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yayibuhlungu kangakanani ukunyaniseka kwendoda, kufuneka uhlale ungumfazi oqinileyo kwaye okhaliphile. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba ufuna ukusindisa intsapho kwaye ungalokothi unike indoda yakho ethandekayo!