Unesiqinisekiso sokuba ukungena ebudlelwaneni obunzulu, kwaye nangakumbi emtshatweni, kuyimfuneko kuphela yothando ngaphandle kokunye. Ewe, ngoko ufuna ngokwenene ukwazi ukuba umlingani wakho unokuqhuba-ukuthanda okanye ukuzuza. Ngaliphi i-interest interest exchangeshelweyo kunye neengcinga zangempela, ukuba kukho konke.
Ukuze ubale ngokukhawuleza uthando lokubala, kuyimfuneko ukuthobela ingqalelo yomntu kubantu abangenayo imali engenayo. Ukuba umntu uthatha abantu abahluphekayo ngokunyaniseka, mhlawumbi unayo kuphela ngenxa yokuba unendawo yokuhlala, indlu yelizwe, imoto, imali enkulu, njl. Jonga izihloko ezichaphazela ingxoxo yakho, iqabane lakho. Ngendlela, ukuba (yena) unengeniso ethobekileyo, kodwa ngelo xesha uthanda ukuphonsa uthuli emehlweni akhe - oku, kunokubonisa ukuba uthando lokubala lubonakala ngokumalunga nawe.
Enye indlela yokukhawuleza ukubala uthando ngokubala, fumana ubuhlobo kulo mtshato wabantwana bakhe (abazali). Mhlawumbi abo bafuna ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane bakho nethemba lokuba ngolunye usuku uza kutshata kwaye umntwana wabo othandekayo uya kunikwa yonke into. Kukho ezinye iindlela zokubala ngokukhawuleza uthando ngokubala.
Kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba ngokubalwa akusoloko kunomdla. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana ayatshatanga ngenxa yothando olukhulu kwaye oluqaqambileyo, kodwa kuba bonke batshata. Kwaye oku kukuthanda ngokubala. Intombazana ithi: "Ndiyayithanda", kodwa eqinisweni, yiyo nje iimeko zenzeke, kwaye uphendule ingalo yakho. Kwaye ungafuneki uhlobo oluthile luthando, ukuba uye waya kwi-intanethi ngokufanelekileyo ukususela ekuqaleni: "Into ephambili kukuba ndiyakuthanda, kwaye ezinye azikhathazeki." Lapha kuwe kwaye uthande ngokubala.
Ngendlela, uthando ngokubalwa ngamanye amaxesha kudibaniswa lula kunye nomhlaba wothando olukhangekayo, kuphelelwa ngumonde ukuphumeza injongo yalo. Kwaye injongo yomntu othanda ngokubalwa yinto enye: ukufezekisa ukuzinza izinto, ukubeka indawo emphakathini, isimo esithile kwaye, ngokungaqhelekanga njengoko kubonakala ngathi, ukuba nabantwana, ukuze banqume ngakumbi ukuhlala kwabo.
Nangona kunjalo, uthando ngokubalwa akuyona into embi. Abantu abaninzi babengenakuthatanga kwaye bengatshatanga, kwaye abazange bahlale batshata ukuba bonke ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi babalinganiswa kuphela nothando olungcolileyo nolungathandekiyo. Uthando luyilo, luhle, kodwa isiqubulo esithi "Ngaba kukuthanda kwam, uhlala kwindlu" kubonakala kungekudala.
Kwaye into eyona nto inokumangalisa kakhulu, kukuba uthando ngokubalwa lunokuthi lube lubudlelwane bomntu kunye nomfazi, ngoko kuthetha, ngendlela ecocekileyo. Oko kukuthi, uyaqonda ukuba ngaphandle kwemali yakho, ukudibanisa, amandla, awubonakali nantoni na kumlingane wakho. Lo mntu akayithandi, kodwa yintoni enokukujikeleza. Ukuba ulahlekelwa yile nto kwaye uyanyamalala ngokukhawuleza ebomini bakho. Ngoko ke, uvavanyo oluvakalayo, ukuphendula umbuzo wendlela yokukhawuleza ukubala uthando ngokubala, kukudlala umdlala ngokulahlekelwa ngokukhawuleza kwesimo kunye nombuso. Yazisa lakho iqabane ukuba ulahlekelwe yinto yonke, kwaye, nangaphezulu, ungena kwiitalato. Kufuneka uthengise ngokukhawuleza ipropati ehambayo kunye neyatshintshwayo ukuhlawula. Kwaye, ngokubanzi, okwangoku kuyingozi ukuba kufuphi nawe, nantoni na eyenzekayo. Ukuba umthandi wakho (umthandi) uqokelela izinto aze aphume kwindlela - akufanele uxolele. Kwaye ukuba uthe: "Siza kunqoba yonke into," ngoko unokuphefumula ukukhulula - uyathandwa kakhulu, kungekhona ngokubala.