Kwimpilo yowesifazane ngamnye kukho indawo yokuzivala, into ebizwa ngokuba yintando, kodwa yintoni kuphela inokwenzeka ukufumana uthando lokwenene lwabafazi bonke? Ngaba unokuthanda uthando lwangempela kwixesha elithile ebomini bakho? Yaye njani ukuqonda ukuba apha ufike uthando, lowo sifuna?
Bathi uthando lokwenene lufunyenwe kanye kuphela ebomini, ngoko lugqityiweyo ubomi bonke, lunokubambisana okanye aluvumelekanga, kodwa luyinyani, kodwa baninzi bathi bawuthandana amaxesha amaninzi ebomini, bathandana ngokulinganayo, kwaye besaba ukulahlekelwa e namandla. Abaninzi banokudibanisa uthando kunye nothando ngothando, kodwa uthando aluyithandabuzo kwaye ayiyiyo into yokuzilibazisa. Inzondelelo kunye nobuthaka banako ukuphelisa, kwaye uthando luhlala iminyaka emininzi kwimemori njengendawo eqaqambileyo.
Okanye usenokuthanda amaxesha amaninzi ebomini bakho, kodwa abantu abahlukileyo banothando oluhlukileyo. Uthando alukwazi ukufana, akunakwenzeka ukufumana into efanayo kubantu ababini. Kwaye ukukwazi ukudibana nothando lokwenene ngumntu wonke, kwaye amathuba afanayo kuwo wonke umntu, kodwa akubona wonke umntu onokubona aze abone uthando lwakhe kwaye asebenzise ithuba. Ngenxa yokuba umntu uxakeke ecinga ngendlela ehlala yedwa kunye nokuba uhlwempuzekile, akukho mntu uyamfuna kwaye ngentliziyo ethanda ukuzixolisa, uthanda ukuxatyiswa ngabanye, kwaye ke akayi kubona uthando lwakhe. Kwaye umntu uxakeke kunye nomsebenzi wakhe emsebenzini, bonke abashishini, kwaye engaboni ngokwenene uthando lwakhe, akakwazi ukulibala ngezihlobo zakhe. Kwaye umntu unako ukukhawuleza ukusuka kwinqanaba elide ukuya kwelinye, ekubeni "uthando" olulodwa ukuya kolunye, ukwesaba ukuphosakela uthando oluyinyaniso, olungaboniyo kwaye aluyi kulahleka, uya kuhlala efuna okulungileyo, kodwa ngenxa yoko akayi kufumana. Uthando alunayo nayiphi na impawu apho ingaqatshelwa khona, yonke into eyahlukileyo kwaye eyahlukileyo, wonke umntu uyayithanda ngendlela yawo. Wena ngokwakho kufuneka uqonde into oyithandayo. Nangona umntu ephika ukuba akayithandi, kodwa uthanda nje, unokungahambi kakuhle.
Uthando alulungele, abaninzi bakholelwa, kwaye ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo bathi "uthando alukho, kodwa nangona kunjalo." Uthando lunobuso obuhlukeneyo, kwaye lunabalingani abahlukeneyo. Akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi esikuphuphayo ngobusuku, sibhale phantsi kwidayari, ukudweba ubuso bakhe ngeempawu ezinemibala kwimemori yakhe. Hayi, akusoloko i-blonde eyamehlo eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, kunye ne-brunette evuthayo enamehlo aluhlaza, kunye nomzimba otyumbileyo onotyiweyo obonakala uvele nje kwilogi. Uyakwazi ukuba ngumntu oqhelekileyo, ongenakuqondakala amehlo aluhlaza obunzima kunye nomzimba onobuhle obuncinane, kodwa ngomphefumlo ongawuthandi isono. Kwaye nangona ingahambelani nenqanaba loluntu, ngoko yintoni? Iphakamisa eyakho, kwaye ngasentla iza kuphakamisa zombini kunye nawe. Kwaye kuthi umbono obalaseleyo kubaluleke kakhulu, yintoni abamelwane abasenokuthi, nokuba ngubani okhethiweyo uya kuthanda abanye. Ngamanye amaxesha sinakekelwa ngombono wabanye ukuba siyalibala ngeemvo zethu, sikhohlwe ngemvakalelo, sikhohlwe yonke into. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo akudingeki uphulaphule izimvo zabantu, kufuneka uphulaphule intliziyo yakho kwaye uphulaphule kuphela umbono wabathandekayo bakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo sishiya uthando lwethu, kuba aluhambelani nemigangatho yethu, kwaye ngaphandle kokuhamba ngendlela yokugqoka kunye nobuso esiyifake esangweni lentliziyo yethu, ihamba.
Ngokuphathelele igama elithi "beats - lithetha, ukuthandwa" akusoloko kuchanekile. Abantu abaneziphene kwi-psyche nabo banakho ukuthanda nokuqhotyoshelana. Abantu abanjalo banokubonakala beqhelekileyo kwaye bahluke ngandlela-thile kubantu abaqhelekileyo, kodwa amanye amacala abo kwi-psyche ahlukiyo, njengokubonakalisa uvelwano lwabo nothando. Ewe, uthando luhlukile, konke lunalo, luphi abantu abahlala emhlabeni, zininzi iintlobo zothando olukhoyo emhlabeni. Iyakwazi ukuthandana kunye nobuqili, obuqhaqhaqhayo, obuqilileyo, obuqilileyo neziqhwithelayo, ezinomdla kunye nokuzola, ukuqhawula kunye nokungaqhelekanga, ukuthandana kunye nomdane - kodwa nokuba yintoni na, sonke siyazi ukuthanda. Uthando alunayo imigaqo ethile kunye neepatheni. Uthando njengoko uyazi nendlela onokuyenza ngayo. Wonke umntu unethuba eli-100% lokufumana uthando lokwenene, ungaliphosi. Vula ukuthanda, ungesabi kwaye kuya kuza kuwe. Into ephambili kukuba ukwazi ukulinda kwaye ungacingi ukuba awukwazi ukuthanda. Sonke siyazi indlela.