Ngelishwa, ngokuqhelekileyo siwa thandana nabo bantu. Ukuba oko kwenzeka, ngoko siqala ukuzithethelela ngokuthi "awukwazi ukuthetha intliziyo yakho" kwaye uqhubeke ukhala emkhombeni wakho kwaye ulahlekelwe yintliziyo ngenxa yothando olungathandabuzekiyo. Uninzi lwamaxesha amaninzi uthando olungabonakaliyo ebomini bethu luphela ngaphandle kokungqongqoza. Kodwa yonke into yayiya kulungile ukuba unokususa yonke into njengothuli okanye uthuli kumahlombe akho, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo yonke into yenzeke ngokungafaniyo.
Kumntu ohlushwa yintando, ebomini, njengomthetho, yonke into iqala ukuhamba kakubi - ikhondo lomsebenzi liyeka, ukulala nokutya kuyanyamalala, kudla ngokusalala kunye nomoya wokuqhubeka uphila. Ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba, unokufikelela kwisibhedlele, ukwenzela ukuba oku kungenzeki, udinga ngokukhawuleza ukuba unqande izifo ezihluphekileyo. Indlela yokwenza oko, siya kuthi ngoku.
1. Bonke abahlobo kunye nabahlobo kulo mzekelo bacetyiswa ukuba bafumane enye into. Le ngcebiso kufuneka ilandelwe. Kodwa ukuba ayikaze azibandakanye, ngoko ke uhlangabezana nalo ngoku, abayi kuqonda kakuhle imeko yakho, kuba abazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuguqula umntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Ubomi bubonakala bubuhlungu kwaye bubuhlungu, ngoko kunzima ukumbona umntu ongeyena mfokazi, owamaxesha ambalwa, akha amehlo kuwe.
Iimpawu zengqalelo ezivela kumadoda ziyancipha, kwaye into yokuchonga xa kuthelekiswa namanye amaqhinga angaphelele ibonakala ingcono. Kodwa khumbula, abantu abalungileyo abakho, kwaye ukhethiweyo wakho olwahlukileyo yikhulu lepesenti kuphela elikude. Kodwa akade kakhulu, umzekelo, i-Mercury evela ePluto.
Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu bayaphazamiseka ngokuthandana nomntu ongahambisani nesithandwa sakhe, engakhange athethe ngcamango ebamkelekileyo. Jonga ngeenxa zonke, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho into enhle kakhulu kunomnye ongenakukubona. Ungakhohlisi abanye, okanye wena, uthi okhethiweyo wakho uyona nto ingcono kwaye awuyi kukufumana ngcono. Kukhohlisayo, kuba uya kuvuma, phantse nawuphi na umntu uya kufakwa.
2. Ingcebiso engentla ayizange incede? Emva koko zama ukufumana iphoso ngonyulwa wakho. Ndikholelwe, banalo! Ukuba unomfanekiso ongafaniyo nomntu ongekho ngaphandle, akufanele ulungele, uthi uphezu komphefumlo emzimbeni. Oku akunjalo! Ukuba ngoku udibana nomgijimi oncikiweyo ngendlela, ngoko, mhlawumbi, uya kulibala malunga nomqhubi ongekhoyo. Ukuba wakho umthandayo unemidlalo kwaye ubude, zama ukucinga ukuba unjani abantwana oza kuba nawo kunye naye, ofuna ukuba naye xa unyuliwe waba ngumyeni wakho. Ukuba umkhethi ngumzimba wezemidlalo, mhlawumbi akanalo nantoni na. Ngoko ke, entloko yakhe kuphela iidumbbells, iiprotheni, izitulo zokugungqa kunye nezinye iimpawu zezemidlalo. Kule meko, ibinzana elithi "awuyidingi ingqondo, ukuba uyayinyanzela". Ngoku cinga malunga nokuba ufuna umntwana osisilumko, kuba uya kufumana iigenesi zikayise? Kunokwenzeka ukuba, hayi, oko kuthetha ukuba umntu okhethiweyo akayiyo igorha yenveli yakho.
3. Ukuba oku akuzange kuncede, qhagamshelana nesazi sezengqondo. U-Nestoit u neentloni ngalolu hlobo - nganye inkwenkwezi eWest ine-psychologist yomuntu. Ingcali yeengqondo iyadingeka ukudibana naye nakweyiphi na imeko kunye ne-bezpodov. Ukuxelela umntu ongaziwayo ibali lakhe, ukhangele oko kwenzekayo. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kuziva ukhululekile okanye udibanise ngendaba engafanelekanga, unokuba uzive uyisicwenge kwaye uqonde ukuba ngaphandle kwendlovu ye-mukhirazduli.
4. Phakathi kwezinye izinto, zibandakanyeke kwixesha elitsha lokuzonwabisa. Yenza inqaku lokudansa, uye kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, wenze into onokuyithwala. Ewe, awuyi kuphazanyiswa ngothando olungenakuthelekiswa, yingakho ucinga indlela yokudibanisa umnqweno wakho ngento enqwenelayo. Ukuba uqala ukuya kwikholo lezemidlalo, unokucinga ngendlela okhethiweyo aya kukujonga ngayo, emva kokuba ube ngumncinci. Le njongo iya kukukhuthaza ukuba uthathe amanyathelo okusebenza kuwe. Kwaye mhlawumbi emva kwesiphumo esihle, okhethiweyo ufuna ukuhlala nawe ngonaphakade. Mhlawumbi ngelo xesha, akuyi kuba mnandi kuwe, kuba kwindawo yokuzivocavoca kukho amadoda amaninzi athile afuna ukujwayelana ne-swami.
5. Khangela yonke into eyiyo. Ukuba ukhethiweyo wakho unentombazana engapheliyo okanye umtshakazi, ungazithuthuzi ngeengcamango zokuthi uya kuziphosa. Ukuba ndiza kudala ndishiye kwaye ndikunye.