Kukholelwa ukuba iminyaka apho umntu eqala ukubonakalisa ngobuhlobo ubudlelwane obukhulu kunye nomtshato, eli lixesha iminyaka engamashumi amathathu-35-37. Oku akuthethi ukuba bayatshata, ikakhulukazi kule minyaka. Oku kuthetha ukuba kuphela emva kwalesi sizwe baqala ukudala imitshato emininzi okanye engaphantsi.
Impendulo engabodwa kunye neyunivesithi yombuzo othi abesifazana amadoda bathanda ubuhlobo obunzulu, cha. Kwingqondo kwengqondo kukho uluvo lokuba wonke umntu kunye nomfazi ngamnye kulo mhlaba unesiqingatha sakhe sesibini. Kuvakala ukuthandana, kodwa kukho nenye into engumngcipheko: ezinye iinqununu ezenziwa nguThixo okanye ukuphela, mhlawumbi ngaphezu kweyodwa. Oku kuthetha ukuba xa umntu ecinga ukuba ulahlekelwe uthando lobomi bakhe, le nto yinto yesikhashana. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda kunye nabasetyhini banomfanekiso ocacileyo weqabane lomntu ozayo, owona, ekuboneni kwabo, ukulungelelanisa ubuhlobo obunzulu. Lo mfanekiso wabhalwa ebuntwaneni bentsapho kunye nolwalamano olusecaleni lwesini esahlukileyo, kwaye kwiminyaka yobudala iphoswe ngendleko kwezithixo phakathi kwabaculi, abadlali, iinkwenkwezi zethelevishini. Kwaye ininzi, okanye ikhulu lamadoda abantu besini esahlukileyo, ifanelekile le mfa nekiso.
Kwimeko eqhelekileyo, umfanekiso womfazi ofanelekileyo wendoda ukopishwa kumama wakhe. Kodwa oku akuyena umzekelo onzima. Umntwana ngamnye, eqala ngeminyaka engama-4-5 ubudala, unayo "umntu okhulileyo". Lo mntu udla ngesini esahlukileyo, okuyiyo yokuziphatha, yengqondo, yemimiselo yothando lomntu ozayo. Ukuba le nkwenkwe ayinelisekanga ngobuhlobo kunye nomama, eyikayikayo, okanye elahliwe nguye ngenxa yemisebenzi yamanqanaba, angenza elinye iqela libe yinto enomntwana. Ingaba ngumntwana, utitshala, unina okanye ugogo. Ukuba ufuna ukufunda iinqunto zendoda ethile, zama ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani owona mfazi oyintloko ebusaneni bakhe, kwaye ngubani na obenesifiso sokutshata xa wayesengumntwana osemaqeleni. Imibuzo malunga naluphi uhlobo lwabadlali beemidlalo kunye neemifanekiso okanye iimvumi azithandayo, ziya kuba zizinto ezintle. Qaphela ukuba iimpawu zomama kunye nabantu abadala abadala banikela ingcamango yokuziphatha okukhethiweyo kunye nomlinganiswa wendodakazi, kunye neempawu zenkwenkwezi ethandwa yithelevishini ngokuqhelekileyo zibonisa ukukhetha kwintsimi yokubonakala komntu.
Ngokomgaqo, bangaphi amadoda, eninzi iminqweno yomfazi ukhona. Nangona kunjalo, kusekho iinzame zokudala utyando lwabasetyhini, abaya kukhetha abantu ukutshata. Makhe sizame ukuqonda uhlobo lunikazi lwamadoda olukhethayo ubudlelwane obukhulu, ukubukela ukuziphatha kwabo.
ZoLuntu
Indoda enjalo ikholelwa ukuba kwintsapho kufuneka ibe yindlela ephambili yokuziphatha, ukuvakalelwa. Baxabisa iimvakalelo ezinamandla, uxolo lwengqondo kunye nokulinganisela. Bambamba ngeentlonelo ezithile kwiindawo zokulala, ukuba azinakulungiswa kakuhle, ngokugqithiseleyo, ngokumnandi nangothando. Imiba yePragmatic kubo - kwindawo yeshumi. Ngoko ukuba ulungele ukutshata nomntu onjalo, kuya kufuneka ubeke i-antics yakhe, xa uya kukunika ibhakethi yama roses, athengwe ngumvuzo wonke.
Umzali womntu
Nangona kukho konke ukukhululwa, kusekho amadoda ambalwa athatha isiseko sothando. Amadoda athetha olu hlobo lwabasetyhini abangenangqondo, abancinci, abahlala behlala kwiindawo zentlalo bancipha. Umfazi womzali womntu kufuneka abe mncinci kunabo, afundiswe ngaphantsi, angaphumelelanga kangako, ukusuka kwimeko ehluphekayo. Amadoda anjalo atshada ngokukhawuleza ukutyelela iindwendwe ezivela kumaphablikhi angumakhelwane okanye kwiphondo elikude. Bathanda ukufundisa wonke umntu, kwaye umfazi kufuneka athobele le ntokazi, ngokunyamezela ukufezekisa imiyalelo yakhe engakumbi, ukuphulaphula iimfundiso zokuziphatha.
Indoda "ngumntwana"
Lo ngumntu omhle okwazi ukwenza ubomi bomlingane ujabule, uvuyo, ngokukhawuleza. Ukuvuleka kwakhe kunye nentlalo inokubamba wonk 'ubani wonk Ngamanye amaxesha kunika ingcamango yokukhupha, ukulungele ukugqoka umfazi ezandleni zakhe kwaye wenze yonke imiyalelo yakhe ebalulekileyo. Le ngcamango ekhohlisayo, kuba igunya kumntu onjalo likhona. Uvele wambethe nge-vagaries, umfanekiso wokungancedi kunye nokungancedi okubangela ukuba umfazi athathe uxanduva lweentsapho. Kubantu abanjalo, ukhetho lokubonakalisa lubonakala ngokucacileyo - bathanda abafazi abakhulu, abakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukutshata nabasetyhini abadala kunabo, kunye nabantwana kumtshato wabo wokuqala. Kwaye baba endlwini omnye umntu omdala.
Ngqiqweni
Ukuze anqobe umntu onjalo, umntu kufuneka abe nesicwangci sezinyithi, ingcamango ephuculwe kakuhle kwaye phantse ukungabikho kwemvakalelo yangaphandle. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu onjalo akayiphuzi nhlobo, akayi kubhema, akahlali ehlulwa yizinto ezimbi ngendlela yokugembula okanye inzondelelo ngamashishini anomhlobo. Yonke into ihamba endlwini, kodwa kwakhona kumfazi ufuna enye. Emva kwakhe, loo mfazi uziva ngathi emva kwodonga lwamatye. Lona nje ukuvakalelwa, amazwi ngokuthandana, kunye nentliziyo entliziyweni entle enjalo akufanele alinde.
Egoist Independent
Udidi olunzima lwamadoda olungele ukuqonda kakuhle kwaye uphumelele kubafazi bezemisebenzi. Uyazi ukuba angayifaki ingcinezelo kumfazi wakhe, kungekhona ukuba afune isihlalo sakhe ekhaya, kaninzi akayikukhwelezela ukuphumelela kwakhe, akayi kuba nomona ngabalingane bakhe. Kodwa ufuna ukucinga ngendlela efanayo. Umntu onjalo ukhetha ukugcina umgama kunye nomntu ojikeleze, kwaye nayiphi na ingxowankulu kwindawo yakhe yokumotheka.
Umthandi wokulingana
Abafazi ngokwabo baye balwela ukulingana namalungelo alinganayo namadoda. Ngoku kufuneka sicacise. Baninzi amadoda afuna umlingani olinganayo. Bafuna umfazi wakhe asebenze kangangoko akwenzayo, kodwa akulungele ukuncedisa indlu, ekhitshini. Amadoda anjalo akafuni ukuthatha ukhuseleko lwezezimali kwintsapho. Ngokuqhelekileyo bazama ukuzisa ibhajethi eyahlukeneyo yomfazi nomyeni, kwaye nganye intsapho iyakhiwa ngamanani athile. Akunakuqonda ukuzama ukumphoqa umntu onjalo ukuba anike izipho ezibizayo kwaye azalise i-whims zakho. Ngexesha elithile uya kuzinyamezela, ngoko uya kukhangela loo ntokazi eyamthandayo. Ngethamsanqa, kwixesha lethu iingxaki kunye nale madoda azivuki.