Akunjalo kuba andininzi - ngokuchaseneyo. Kuninzi, ukuba ngandlela-thile yayicacisiwe: ukuba uthetha nabo bonke oomakhulukazi, oomalume, ootata, abazalwana kunye noodade abane-ubomi abaneleyo. Ngenxa yoko, ndandinethuba elingaqhelekanga lokusebenzisa ubuninzi beentombi ezimbini okanye abathathu abazithandayo kunye nabantakwabo, oomalume kunye nonina. Ngamanye amazwi, ndinelungelo lokukhetha - into elandelwa ngumthetho ongayibhalwanga nguNombolo 1, ulahlekelwa, ufumana isihloko sesihlobo. Kodwa indlela yokuhlala kunye nezihlobo kwindlu ethile?
Emva kokuba umnina wam eze kumhlobo wam. Ngeyure le ndwendwe yagxeka yonke into eyayibambe iso. Ukugxeka kwakwenziwe ngolu hlobo lweengcebiso ezinobubele, kunye nexesha elimnandi: "Ndifuna okulungileyo." Ngokomzekelo, wayecebise kakhulu umntakwabo ukuba enze enye, ulungelelwano olungcono kwigumbi. Ngenxa yokuba intombi sele iqedile ukulungiswa, icebiso lathi lihlekisiwe, okanye njengesigidimi esibi: "Yonke into oyenzayo ayilungile". Ngeli xesha, le ntokazi yatsho i-bloodline yokuba wayifake iindonga kunye nephepha lodonga elingathanga, wathenga iplani engafanelekanga, iipaski ezingalunganga kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, wayesebenziseka etafileni. Andizi ukuba yintoni eyenza lo mfazi enze oku - ukukhuliswa kakubi okanye umnqweno wokuzibamba? Kodwa xa umnyango wabuhlungu emva kwakhe, ndayazi kakuhle indlela umhlobo wam azive ngayo, njengokungathi wayedla ngokusuka entloko ukuya enyaweni, enyanzela ukuba ndimomotheka. "Andiyi kummema kwakhona!" Watsho ngokukhawuleza. Ndiyixhasa ngokupheleleyo ...
Nangona kunjalo, isiqingatha sonyaka kamva, umthetho ngokukhawuleza wafumana ukulandelelana. Ibali lomalume ombi weza kwingxoxo eqhelekileyo. "Yiyo, njani, awuyi kummema? - owaziwayo washaywa yiphelo. "Ungumama wakho." "Kodwa umninawa wayeziphatha kakubi kakhulu," ndasimela umhlobo wam. - "Nantoni na? - Andizange ndiyiqonde ingxabano eyaziwayo. "Unina." Umama-mkhwekazi, xa efika endlwini yethu, uziphatha ngakumbi. Kodwa yintoni endiyenzayo-yena, unina womyeni wakhe. Wamfundisa ngaphandle koyise, ngaphandle kwakhe, akanalo. Simele sinyamezele. "
Emva koko ndaqulunqa nombolo yesi-2 engabonakaliyo, eyathetha indlela yokuhlala kunye neentsapho kwindlu ethile. Izihlobo zinelungelo lokusicasula ngenxa yokuba ziintsapho zethu. Oomama banelungelo lokuphazamisa ubomi bethu, kuba banina. Yaye le mithetho ibonakala ingaxinakali kubantu abaninzi kangangokuba ukuzama ukubeka uphawu lombuzo ekupheleni kuya kubonakala kuhlambalaza endaweni yendawo. Kanti kuyafaneleka ukuzama ... Ngaba isikhundla esiphakeme sikamama simnika ilungelo lokuphazamisa ubomi bentsapho yomntwana wakhe? Ingaba isigaba sesihlobo sithintela umntu onomsebenzi ukuba alungele kwaye ahloniphe? Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, intlaninge yentsapho inika abantu ilungelo nokuba bangakuthandi ngokusobala?
Iminyaka engamashumi amane (!), Umhlobo wam wathatha isigqibo esinqwenela ngamandla kwaye wayeka ukuthetha noyise. "Akunjalo kuye," kuchaza. "Kwintombi yakhe yesithathu." Wayesoloko engandithandi. Ewe, akazange abize, akabetha ... Ngeshwa. Emva koko ndiza kushiya. " Intombazana eneminyaka engama-20 ubudala kwakufuneka ahlale naye ngeeholide etafileni enye kwaye aphulaphule: "Oo, yiyiphi i-blouse enhle enayo. Luhlobo luni lokuqina? Ngaba uyithenge kwi-bazaar? Iphosa ... Ingaba umyeni wakho ufumana encinane kangaka? Akunanhlanhla, awunenhlanhla naye ... "okanye" Awukho eVienna? Ngaba buhlungu. Yile ndlela ubomi obuya kudlula ngayo, kwaye awuyi kubona nto. Emva kwakho konke, awuyintombazana, unobuso emehlweni akho. " Uyazi, andiyintombazana, "watsho umhlobo. - Ndikhathele ukuya kubatyelela kwaye ndiphulaphule indlela abahlazisa ngayo ngenxa yeengcamango eziqhelekileyo zentsapho ehlakaniphile. Ukuba ubawo ufuna ukundibona, siya kuhlangana kwenye indawo. "
Xa ndandisaphila nomama, isihlobo sasifika kuthi (asikho omnye wabathandekayo). Emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa, saqaphela ukuba izinto zinyamalale endlwini. Akubizi kwaye kuyigugu - iphephancwadi endiyibeke eceleni kwesitulo seentonga, enenjongo yokufunda kusihlwa, uphondo lwezinqanda ... Indwendwe engazange iba - wayithatha nje ngaphandle kwemfuno, yabathabatha kunye nabo kwaye akayi kubuyiselwa rhoqo. Iphephancwadi lilibalekile kwibhasi ye-trolley, uphondo lu lahleka ... Unina onothando onokuzama uzama ukuncedisa ukuba ndivale amehlo am. Ndaphula kwibalazwe laseKiev - isicwangciso esiqhelekileyo onokuthenga kuso kwisikwiktoli seeprojekti ezimbalwa, kodwa kubiza kakhulu kum, kuba ngexesha lophando lihamba ngeenxa zeso sixeko, iindwendwe ezininzi zatsalwe kuyo. Ndiyifunayo ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye emva kokufumanisa ukulahleka, ndatsho iindwendwe yonke into. Waxolisa. Esi siganeko sasiphelile.
Ngenye imini ndafunda i-anecdote . "Umntwana wesikolo ubhala isicatshulwa. "Ngelishwa, oomama, ootata kunye nezinye izalamane zifika kuthi kuloo minyaka xa kunzima ukulungisa imikhwa yabo embi." Smirking, wavumelana naye. Kodwa kungekude kube sekupheleni. Ngamanye amaxesha asizami ukwenza. Sithe cwaka kwaye sinyamezele, sithobela umthetho ngokugqithiseleyo: "Ewe, unokwenza ntoni na? (Unina, umkhwekazi, umzala, umalume)." Kodwa ukuba ndithe ndathula kwimeko yemephu, isihlobo sam esivela kwikholam "kungekhona kwintanda ethandekayo" siya kubakho "abo bangenakuqhagamshelana nabo." Emva kweengcaciso kunye naye, sahlula ngokuqhelekileyo, kwaye kamva wayesityelela kwakhona. Ewe, wenza ngokungaqhelekanga. Mna, ngokwam nomama, naye. "Yintoni ongayenza? Awuzange ukhuliswe kumaphepha, kodwa ndikho kwi-Institute of Women's Goods", savuma. Kodwa ukungabi namkhethe kwethu kusinceda sihlale sihlobo.
Kwaye ndiyakwazi ukungawuboni umgaqo-myalelo wesi-3. Kungcono ngokuzondayo ukuzonda izihlobo kunokuba ungabi nantoni ngokuzikhethela, ukuthetha nabo ngokunyanisekileyo nokuseka ubudlelwane. Ngenxa yokuba ndiyazi ngamava - kunokwenzeka! Kwaye kunye nomama, kunye noomakhulukazi, kunye noogogo abaneminyaka engamashumi asibhozo oneminyaka engamashumi asibhozo unokuvumelana-ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ufune ukuthetha nabo ngamagama afanayo anokuthi uxelele kumhlobo wakho.
Ngaba kukufanelekile ukunyamezela ukungaziphathi kakuhle? Ingakumbi ukuba imeko ingalungiswa? Ukuba sinamazinyo asithulileyo, thina ngokwethu sisenza kubasemagunyeni abasemthethweni? "Mhlawumbi," umhlobo wanezela, "ukuba ndivukele kwangoko, eneminyaka engamashumi amabini, ndavuma ukuya endlwini kayise, wayenokuqonda: into ephosakeleyo. Ngoku akazange aqonde ukuba kutheni ndivukele ngokukhawuleza. "
Andiyi kuxoka kuwe - ngamanye amaxesha ukuzama ukuthetha intliziyo ngentliziyo, akukho nto iyenzekayo. Umele uphakamise i-visor yobungqina kwaye uthi: "Awufanele" - wakho osondeleyo uzifihla ngokukhawuleza ngasemva, njengodonga, imithetho engafanelekanga esiyakhe. "Abazalwana banelungelo lokusicasula ngenxa yokuba ziintsapho zethu." Ekubeni kubonakala ngolu hlobo: kwizihlobo ongenalo ilungelo lokukhubeka (ubuncinci, ixesha elide). Ukongezelela, akukho nto ingacacanga, kuba, ngokulawula kombolo 1, ukhetho - ukuthetha nabo okanye kungekhona - awunayo. Kwaye kaninzi intsapho iyanqwenela ukuvuma iimpazamo zabo, ukunyaniseka, okanye ukunyamekela ngokwabo ngokusesikweni xa bekholelwa ekungeneni kwayo. Emva kokuba bakholelwa kwilungelo lakho lokukhetha, izinto zitshintsha njani. Umhlobo wam akazange axoxe nomama wam malunga nonyaka. Babuya beza kunye. Akukho mntu watshela nabani na, kodwa njengokungathi ngomlingo, umama wam waphenduka waba ngumfazi othabisayo. Mhlawumbi wayengafuni ukulahlekelwa ngumntakwabo. Okanye mhlawumbi ubudlelwane begazi bukhona kwaye umntu ongenamagama uyafika nathi. Ndifuna ukukholelwa kule ...
Kuba kukho enye into ephazamisayo. Ngethuba lethu, xa iintsapho zeentsapho zihlala ebudeni bexesha elidlulileyo, ubukhoboka abathathu imigaqo yobudlelwane kunye neentsapho nayo ichazwe ngento yokuba si ... sikhohlwe ubudlelwane obuhle bokudala beentsapho kunye nezihlobo! Yinto enye xa intsapho ingumama ongatshatanga kunye nendodana yakhe endala, wathi kuye: "Ndibingelele konke, kwaye, ngaphandle kwakho, andinayo." Kwaye ngokunye, xa sondele kumashumi amahlanu - abazala, abazala, abazala, kodwa beziva bebahlobo oluqhelekileyo! Yaye unako ukukhetha kubo abo bafanele umoya kunye nomqondiso we-zodiac. Yaye ukuba ufuna uncedo, kwaye umyeni uxakekile - ubiza umnxeba wakho okanye umzalwana wakho. Kwaye umonakalo ongeyingozi unobungozi obuncinane, ukuba awunabo abathathu, kodwa oomama abangamashumi amabini, ootata, abazala babo kunye nabazala babo bahlala emthendelekweni etafileni. Uhlala nje kwelinye isiphelo setafile kunye nabathandekayo kuwe. Kwaye nangenye imini ungeke ufike, akukho mntu uza kukumangalela ngokungcatsha izithethe zentsapho ... Kulo kagal akuyi kubonwa!