Ngubani osengqondweni?
Xa bathi "ingqondo yeengqondo", enyanisweni, isoloko ithetha "ingqondo yengqondo". "Inyaniso kukuba i-psychologist ayiphilisi, kodwa inceda kuphela ukuqonda imeko ethile. Unelungelo lokubamba iintlanganiso ezintlanu okanye ezintandathu. Emva kokugqibela, iindlela eziyinkimbinkimbi zengqondo ziza kudlala. Oku kufuna ukuba uphando lwezakhono eziphambili kunye nobuchule. I-psychotherapist inokufunda ngokujulile iingxaki. Ukusebenzisana naye kunokuhlala ixesha elide: iinyanga ezimbalwa okanye neminyaka.
Uza kwenza ntoni?
Ukufumana kwi-psychotherapist yanamhlanje ayifani nesimo kwisithandle esaziwayo kumafilimu aseHollywood. Ulibale ngeengxaki ze-psychoanalytics kunye neengcali zexesha elide, ezi zinto azikho iimpawu zomsebenzi ophumelelayo ngokwakho. Enyanisweni, zifanekisela kuphela olunye ulwalathiso - i-psychoanalysis yesigaba.
Thetha uze u phu laphule
Amagama, okanye "ukuthetha ngomlomo" (njengoko u-psychotherapist wakho uthetha), zibalulekile kwi-Gestalt, unyango olukhoyo, i-Jungian psychology analysis, uhlalutyo lwentengiso kunye ne-psychoanalysis yesiqhelo. Ngomcebisi kule mimandla, kufuneka uhlangane kanye okanye kabini ngeveki ukuxoxa ngemibuzo ebalulekileyo kuwe. Ukunxibelelana kwakho kuya kuba njengengxoxo emide malunga nobuhlungu: uthando olungonwabanga, ukwesaba ukuguga, ubudlelwane obunzima nomama, amaphupha amabi okanye impilo yomntu wakho. Unokuxoxa ngokukhuselekileyo kunye neengcali zonke ezikukhathazayo ngoku. Kodwa ukuba uya kwi-classic psychoanalyst, lungela ukuba ibali lakho uya kuliphulaphula ngobunzima bomdlalo. Kulo lwakhiwo kuthathwa njengesibophelelo sokugcina umgama phakathi komgqirha kunye nomxhasi, ukuze kungabikho ukuthintela oku kuvela ekugxileni kumava angaphakathi ngangokunokwenzeka. Kwakhona kufanelekile ukufaka ingqalelo engqondweni: i-psychoanalysis yeklasi idinga umsebenzi omude (kwiichungechunge azikhohlisi: i-psychoanalyst inokuhamba iminyaka elishumi).
Dweba, udlale
Kwindlela yokwenza ubugcisa kunye neendlela ezijoliswe emzimbeni, umsebenzi ngokwawo ubangelwa kukuqhagamshelana nehlabathi elingokoqobo. Ukuhamba ngonyango lwezobugcisa, uya kuqalisa ukukrola kwiplastiki, ukudanisa kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukukhangela kwi-sandbox. Kule meko, u-therapist akayi kujonga nje imizamo yakho evela ngaphandle, kodwa naye uthatha inxaxheba ekwenzeni umsebenzi wokuphucula impilo. Ii-Psychodramatists ziza kudlala izibhengezo ebomini bakho, kwaye indima yomntu oyintloko kwisiqalo somntu (owayengumthandi okanye umakhulu-khulu) unokudlalwa ngusihlalo (ukumkelwa kuthiwa "isitulo esishisayo"). Kodwa, nangona kule ngqungquthela, iinkcazo ziya kuba ziqhwithi. Ngeendlela ezijoliswe kumzimba, umgqirha akafuni ukugcina umgama, ngoko ulungiselele ukuba ngexesha leseshoni unako ukubamba izandla, vala amehlo kwaye uhlale ucebile, ubukele ukuvalelwa kwangaphakathi. Inokwenzeka ukuba, baya kuqhagamshelana noonxibelelwano lwakho lokuqala nomama wakho.
Ukuqonda ukuba ngubani ofuna
Ukuba uthetha bhetele kunokuba udwebe, oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ukhethe iindlela zokuthetha. Mhlawumbi, ngokuchaseneyo, kubalulekile ukuphuhlisa izakhono ezingekho. Ngaphezu koko, uphando luboniswe: zonke iindlela ezisisiseko ze-psychotherapy zinika iziphumo ezifanayo. Ewe, kwaye oogqirha ngokwabo basebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo emsebenzini wabo, kuba bafuna ukukunceda, kwaye kungekhona nje ukuqokelela izinto kwiinqununu zesayensi. Ngokomzekelo, umhlalutyi womthengi unokusebenzisa inzuzo ye-psychodrama kwaye acetyise ukudlala umdlalo obalulekileyo ebomini bakho "ngesitulo esishisayo". Kwaye nawuphi na onguchwepheshe -buza umbuzo othi: "Uvakalelwa ntoni ngoku, luphi uvakalelo emzimbeni?" Kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba ungakhethi ulawulo, kodwa unogqirha onokuhlangenwe nakho noluthembekileyo. "Kwenzeka njani oku? Akunakwenzeka ukuba inzululwazi enokukhawuleza kwiseshoni yokuqala iya kuqala ukusebenza ngokuxhatshazwa. Kuphela emva kokuba ithenda ithe yavela, sebenze ngengozi inokwenzeka ". Sakhetha umgqirha ngokusekelwe kuvelwano: "Kufuneka kube nomnqweno, ukuthanda. Umgulane olungileyo uphilile, uyityebi kwaye uyavuya. Xa ugqirha enganelisekanga ngento ethile ebomini, uya kukhubeka phezu kwengxaki efanayo yomthengi, okanye azame ukulungisa iingxaki zakhe.
Uza kuziva ntoni?
Uya kukhulula iimvakalelo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, ezintle kwaye kungekho kakhulu. Imvakalelo inokuhlaselwa okanye ibuhlungu. Kodwa, ukuba emva kweseshoni yokuqala ufumana iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu, kuyafaneleka ukuba uhlale uqaphile. Ukutyelela kokuqala kumgqirha: uyakhala. Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba ngumqondiso wesenzo esibi. Ingaba i-therapist ayikwazi ukujamelana neengxaki, okanye izenzo ezinzima kakhulu. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba emva kweintlanganiso ezintlanu okanye ezisixhenxe kunokuziva ukuba akukho nto eyenzekayo, kungenzeka ukuba ugqirha uphethwe ngokungafanelekanga. Kuloo ntlanganiso yesithandathu okanye yesithandathu onokuqala ukuba nolwazi olujulileyo kwaye akusoloko imnandi kwimpilo. Oku kubizwa ngokuthi "ukudluliselwa". Imvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezaziye zaziva kumama, utata okanye nabanye abantu abasondeleyo, ngoku uthumela kumgqirha. Kwaye luba uhlobo lweskrini apho ifilimu iboniswa ngawe.
Yintoni ovakalelwa ngayo
Naye, naye, unokuxubusha iimvakalelo- "ukuphikisa." Mhlawumbi uya kumkhumbuza umntu osondele kuye. Kodwa yena, ngokungafani nawe, kufuneka aqonde ngokupheleleyo amava aphumayo. Ubunzima kukuba i-specialist ifuna ukuhlala kwindawo ethile ukusuka kuwe kwaye ingavimbeli iimvakalelo zakhe. Kwi-psychotherapy, into ebaluleke kakhulu kukudala indawo ekhuselekileyo kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ubomi obupheleleyo bendawo. Landela le migaqo enzima yomgudu oncedisiweyo ngabancedisi bezongamela (abanamava ogqithisileyo ngeengqondo) kunye nabo amacala anzima avela kwizenzo eziphathwayo. Ukongezelela, unokuhlala efunda kwakhona "I-Code Ethics of therapist" (isifungo se-Hippocratic for psychotherapists), apho kukho, umzekelo, ukuvinjelwa "kwimivo emibini", oko kukuthi, uthando okanye ubuhlobo ngaphandle kwekhabhinethi.
IMigaqo yoHlelo
Ungesabi ukubuza imibuzo. Emva kwakho konke, awukhathaleli nokuba ugqirha unelayisenisi kwaye uyakhubaza izixhobo. Kwaye silapha singathethi malunga ne-appendicitis, kodwa malunga nentloko, ongeke uyisuse xa kunokwenzeka. Nazi izinto ezimbalwa omele uzazi malunga nomgqirha wakho.
Imfundo:
I-psychotherapist iyadingeka ukuba ibe nootitshala ababini. Esinye sisisiseko (isifo sengqondo okanye i-psychology kwizakhono, inzululwazi kunye nokufundiswa kwemvume kuvunyelwe kwiindawo ezithile), okwesibini kukhethekileyo, kwisiseko sesinye seendlela zengqondo. Ezi zilandelayo azibandakanyi nje ingcamango, kodwa kunye neeyure zokusebenza.
Khontrakthi
Kwintlanganiso yokuqala yokubonisana, umgqatshe unyanzelekile ukuba achaze ukuba zibiza kangakanani, ziziphi iindlela ezisebenzisayo, yintoni ubude beeseshoni kunye nokuhlala ixesha elingakanani kunyango. Kwaye kufuneka axoxe kunye nawe iingxaki zabafikelele ngokukhawuleza kunye nokukhanselwa kweentlanganiso. Umgaqo oqhelekileyo: ukulumkisa malunga nabo ngaphandle kwelanga. Ekuphenduleni umbuzo malunga neendleko zokubonisana akukho nto ingabakho nkcazo efana nale: "Yaye ungathanda kangakanani? Siya kuvuma! ยป. Ukuthobela isakhelo sobugcisa. Ukuze uqonde ukuba ngaba umgqirha akagqithanga imida yakho, zibuze le mibuzo elandelayo. Ingabe sele ephuzile ukufumana, ngaba uyabanyamezela ngomzuzu wokugqibela? Ngaba uvakalelwa kukuba unxibelelwano oluninzi malunga nezinye izigulane? Ngaba uzama ukungena kwezinye iintsebenziswano kunye nabanye abathengi ngaphandle kwekhabhinethi?
Ukuchaneka
Akufanele ube nevakalelo lokuba uhamba ngokukhawuleza. Kukho abathandi bonyango olushukumisayo, kodwa akunakulungelekanga: akufanele ukhuthazele. Ngoko ke, ukuba uphando luchaza izinto ezintle, ngakumbi xa uhlalutya imeko ezinzima kuwe, into enjenge: "Ulililela ntoni? Kufuneka ukwamkele uxanduva: awuzange ubethe, uzibethe, "kungcono ukuba ungabhekani naloo ngcali.
Amava oLwazi
Ulunge ngaphezu kweminyaka emibini okanye emithathu. Ukuba umntu ekuxelela ngokuziqhenya ukuba unamava "amabini amabini", kubalulekile ukucinga ngokufaneleka kwakhe. Unokubuza imibuzo eyongezelelweyo malunga nokuba sele sele esebenze kunye namatyala afana nawe.
Ubungqina besuphavayiza kunye nokuhamba kwonyango
Buza umcali ukuba u tyelele umphathi. Buza ukuba uthathe unyango ngokwakhe. Kufanelekile ukucinga malunga nokuba uyaqhubeka nokuthetha, ukuba unike impendulo kumbuzo wakho into ethi "unyango luphazamisa ukuhamba komsebenzi." Kwiindawo ezithile, ezifana ne-psychoanalysis, inani elithile leeyure ze-psychotherapy liyanyanzelekile.
I-psychoanalyst enkulu
Unokubizwa ngokuba nje emva kweeyure ezingama-300 zonyango lomntu. KwiiJungians, ibha ingaphantsi kweeyure ezingama--250, ukusuka kumaGestalist kuphela ama-240 ayadingeka.
Iimvakalelo
Zama ukuphendula ngokunyanisekileyo imibuzo embalwa. Ngaba ufuna ukuthetha nalo mntu ukuba udibana naye kwinkampani jikelele? Ngaba uya kubonakala ehlakaniphile? Akunakho ebusweni bakhe, isenzo, indlela yokugqoka. Kodwa ke ungahambi kumntu othe wabangela ukuba unqatshelwe ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba iintlanganiso ezintlanu okanye ezintandathu zidlule, kwaye unganakulinganiseki, mhlawumbi akukho mnxibelelwano. Kodwa khumbula, ukuba unqumle ukuhlukana nale ngcali, kufuneka ube neseshoni yokuyeka, apho uya kubalisela khona iziphumo zomsebenzi - kunye neengcali ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuncoma omnye usebenza naye.