Umona - lo mqondo okhethekileyo wobulungisa


"Hayi, umona, umona! Ubuninzi bude! .. "- njengoko kuchazwe ngokuchanekileyo. Nangona, kule ngongoma, abaninzi abafazi babeza kuphendula ngokungafaniyo. Omnye ukholelwa ngokwenene ukuba umona uyisicatshulwa, omnye umntu uya kuthi umona uyindlela ekhethekileyo yobulungisa, kwaye umntu uya kucela unyanisekileyo isiluleko malunga nendlela yokulahla ngayo. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukwenza umona ngezinye iimvakalelo ezakhayo? Ngokugqibeleleyo! Into ephambili - ukufuna.

Umntu wokuqala ekuthelekisweni kobomi usalindela esibhedlele sokubeletha: "Wow, kwaye intombazana yethu yayinkulu kakhulu!" Okulandelayo kwoluhlu sisikolo, isiko, umsebenzi, intsapho. Ukuziphatha kunye nempumelelo yabantu abasijikelezayo kuthi sibe yintensiksi kuthi, apho sizama ukuzitshiza kwaye siyakhathazeka kakhulu xa singenako ukwenza.

Ukujonga emva komnye umhla, ufumanisa ukuba umngane oneminyaka efanayo uphumelele umtshato, uhamba ngokukhawuleza kwinqanaba lomsebenzi kwaye inqeni inamacentimitha amahlanu ngaphantsi. Uhlalutyo olunzulu lweendlela zakhe zobomi alubonakali nto into ekhethekileyo kwimpawu kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe. Wayefanelwe ntoni konke oku?

Abamelwane banotshani obuluhlaza ...

Isilingo sokubheka ebomini bomnye umntu sivela xa izinto zingasilungele. Kukho uvakalelo olukhethekileyo, kuba lula xa uqinisekisa ukuba akukho zonke iindonga ezipinki. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo? Emva koko kukho umona. Ukuzithemba kuya kwehla ngokukhawuleza, kukho ukungathandabuzeki kunye neemvakalelo zokunganeliseki ngokwakho.

Kukho enye inokuphendula: ukumkela umngeni kwaye ulwe "ukunqoba," ukubonisa ukuba awukho ngaphezu kwabo baqhathaniswa nabo. Oko kukuthi, hamba uzithenge iingubo ezifanayo njengommelwane. Ukupenda izindonga zendlu yokulala ngombala ococekileyo, ofana noNadia. Ukongezelela, unako ukuphakamisa ibha encinci, uqinise ngakumbi ... kwaye ube ngumnini onwabileyo we-dorogusche kunye neprojeksi yokutya engadingekile kunye nomsebenzi wokufikelela kwi-intanethi. Umhlobo wam, umzekelo, wayemkhusela isicatshulwa sakhe kwisenzo somntu owayesefunda naye esikolweni kunye nabafundi ababini aphakamileyo. Isatifikethi sokuba ungumviwa wezesayensi zobugcisa, ngoku sibheke kwikhabhinethi yakhe. Yena uqhubeka nokusebenza njengomcebisi kwi-salon yefenitshala. Yaye uvakalelo lokunganeliseki ngobomi bakho lukhula njengebhola lebhola.

Kutheni ndifuna ibhotwe?

Kuyathakazelisa ukuba ukuthelekiswa ngokuphantse kubakho "kwisigaba sabo sobunzima." Umhlali we-"Khrushchev" endala akayi kumkhumbula umSultan waseBrunei, ohlala kwibhotwe. Kodwa unomdla kakhulu kwiNinochka ekungeneni kommelwane kunye nendlela ayenako ukunyuka kwihostela ye-posh ephakathi kweso sixeko, ngaphandle kokuba nabayeni abacebileyo okanye abazuzileyo kwiimpahla.

Kuyafana nokubonakala. Akunakuqonda ukwakha ngokuhambelana neentlobo "ezihamba phambili" eziphezulu, ukuxhaswa kwiplanga. Kodwa kutheni ungaziqhathanisi nomnye osebenza naye osebenza naye, eneempendulo ezifanayo ukugqiba, unomfanekiso omncinane?

Kuye kwenzeka ukuba inyaniso yoqhathaniso iqulethe into efihlakeleyo: ukuba ngaba oogqirha bakho abaqhelekileyo, abahlobo, abajwayelene nabo banokufikelela into ethile ebomini, ngoko uya kuba nakho!

Uhlala ulunge umntu

Umona kunye nomkhwa wokuzifanisa nabanye ungadlala ngokukrakra: izinto ezizimeleyo ziza kuphelela phambili kwempumelelo yabantu. Ukuthelekisa nantoni na, sizama ukuzikhangela, sithintele ukuba siqhubele phambili. Yiyiphi ingongoma yento into eya kuyenzeka ukuba intombi ihlala isengaphambili? Kwaye kubonakala ngathi ebomini akukho ndawo yobulungisa.

Kodwa nangona umntu esoloko anqoba loo mifanekiso, uwela emqameni okhohlisayo. Ngokukhawuleza uqala ukukholelwa ekuthini kwakhe kunye nokukhethwa kwakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi bunjalo ukuba kukho umntu ongcono kuyo. Kwaye ukuba ujwayele ukuziqhathanisa, ukuxinezeleka kwemizwa kuqinisekiswa kuwe!

Ungayilahla njani umkhuba wokuzifanisa nabanye?

• Ukuchonga iimfuno zakho kwaye uziphumeze. Xa sisebenza kwi shishini elithandayo, asinaso ixesha (kunye neminqweno) yokuziqhathanisa nabanye.

• Zama ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho. Ukwaziswa ukuba unikezele inkqubo epheleleyo kuya kukunika isizathu sokuziqhayisa, nokuba ngaba umphumo awuzange uhlangabezane nawo onke amathemba. Ukongeza, sele usuphumelele ukhuphiswano olubaluleke kakhulu - ngobunene bakho.

• Vumela ukuba ungaphelelekanga. Emva koko, ngubani owathi rhoqo kwaye yonke indawo kufuneka ube yinto engcono kakhulu? Ukufunda ukukholiswa nawe, uya kuphelisa izizathu zokungabaza.

• Musa ukuthelekisa abanye abantu kunye nomnye, okanye usengozini yokuwa kwinqanaba eliqilileyo: xa uqhathanisa nabanye, ngakumbi bakuthelekisa. Uvivinywa ngokusebenza.

• Xa ixesha elilandelayo unesilingo sokuqala ukujonga emva komntu, uthathe umoya ophefumlelweyo kwaye ubale ngokwengqondo kwishumi. Into ephambili kukuba uzibambe ekuqaleni kweso sifo.

Sample of success

Ekubeni sinikwe amandla okuba nomona, makube sisikhuthazo sokuziphucula. Ukuthetha ngomona "lo luhlobo olukhethekileyo lobulungisa" aluyi kunceda. Awunakuyeka ukuthelekisa nokuhlupheka. Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde indlela yokuzama ngokuchanekileyo ukuhlukahluka kweenguqulelo zobomi. Umhlobo wavula i studio yoyilo? Akukho ndawo yokumona okanye ukuzama ukulandela ezinyathelweni zakhe. Kukulungele ukukhumbula ukuba yeyiphi imisebenzi ekhanga wena. Mhlawumbi unomdla wokuhlala ixesha elide okanye iphupha? Yinyamekele eli shishini, cinga ngeqhinga lokuphuhlisa, kwaye impumelelo iya kuza ngokwayo.

Ukuba ngokukhawuleza indawo yezimfuno zakho zihambelana noko umhlobo wakho akwenzayo, bonisa umdla onomdla kwaye umbuze malunga nendlela aphumelele ngayo ukuphumelela ngempumelelo. Cela uncedo. Ngokuqhelekileyo utshintshiselwano lwamava lukhuthaza ukuba sithathe amanyathelo okuzimela size sihlakulele zethu iitalente.

Ukukhetha ngokuchanekileyo isikhokelo sakho, kunceda ukuzama ebomini bomnye umntu, njengempahla esitolo. Zibandakanye emdlalweni: zibonise wena "ngesikhumba" somntu onomona. Ungesabi ukunyuka, ngengqondo, ukunambitha ubomi bakhe, indlela yentsapho, ubudlelwane bomntu, uziva ukhululekile, ungacinezeli nantoni na, ungayicongi? Mhlawumbi into enomona, xa uhlolisisa ngakumbi, awuyi kubonakala unomtsalane. Ewe, ukuba umfanekiso "osuka ngaphakathi" uthanda, khusela ngokuphepha ukuphupha kwakho iphupha. Futhi ungakhangeli mntu!