Ukulwa neengcali.
Okokuqala, ziqonde ukuba akukho mntu unokulawula ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo zakhe. Akunabo abantu abafumana ulonwabo yonke imizuzu yobomi babo kwaye abazange bathukuthele okanye bacaphuke. Ewe, kulungile ukuba awukwazi ukuzilawula kwaye ubilise ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na into encinci. Kodwa, ukuba kukho inkxalabo enkulu, unelungelo kwiimvakalelo, ukuze wena okanye abanye bangenakucinga ngako.
Ngoko ke, ungazitshitshisi ngoku. Kungcono ukuvuma ukuba unomsindo okanye ukhubekile, ukuba ucaphukile okanye ucasulwa. Ngokunyanisekileyo uya kuba nawe, uziva ukhululekile ngakumbi.
Iqhwithi ngaphandle kwemiphumo.
Vumela ukuba uhluke kwaye ufumane iimvakalelo ezahlukileyo - akuthethi ukuba uziphatha ngokungahlambulukanga, uphawule ngobomi bemihlali yabantu kwaye uphazamise umsindo kubantu abathandekayo nabokuqala.
Jonga wena kunye nemeko evela ngaphandle. Mhlawumbi akukho sizathu sokuba wakho umsindo okanye intukuthelo. Ingaba lo mntu unecala phambi kwakho okanye unomntu onobuhlungu?
Ukuba iimvakalelo zibilisa, yenza ixesha-phandle, ungazami ukufumanisa ubudlelwane ekuphakanyweni kwentlungu. Xa iinqununu zihleli, unokuthetha kwaye usombulule ingxaki. Kwimeko apho umntu ngokuzithandela akukhupha ngaphandle kwakhe, usebenza kwiimvumba zakho kwaye uyaphukisa, umise kumdiliya. Futhi ungalibali - abanye abantu bathanda ukudlala ngezinye iimvakalelo zabanye kwaye baqhubise abanye ngamabomu, baqaphele kwaye baphakamise abaphulaphuli kwaye bangakhokeli ekuphambeni.
Ukuze ulondoloze ubuso kwaye ungagcini yonke into engalunganga ngaphakathi kwakho, kufuneka uhlukanise ngokucacileyo ixesha xa uzinzakala ngokuzikhethela kwaye xa uphefumula. Ukuba iphoso le-pms yonke, isimo sengqondo esibi, ukuxinezeleka kwakho, ngoko kukho inkqubela eninzi inokuveliswa. Ukuze ungaziva unetyala emva kwesinye isikhalazo, ungathathi umsindo wakho kwabanye, kodwa ungavumeli abanye bakwenze oku nawe.
Hlaziya.
Kulungile ukuba uzola, kungekhona umntu onobuzenzisi. Emva koko iingxaki ezininzi ziya kudlulela, kwaye awuyi kubona. Ukuba usebenza ngokugqithiseleyo nangaphandle kokubona umntu ongaphandle, akufanele uhlabelele ngokumnandi kumagama aphonswe ngushisa. Abanye, ingakumbi i-hypochondriacs, banokuqokelela umthetho ngenxa yeminyaka, de ibe ikhula njengebhola le-snowball kwaye ayifaki yonke iminye imizwelo. Ukuvuma, abantu abanjalo abahlali buhle.
Funda ukubuyisela emuva, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani. Ukukhawuleza ukulinganisela, nangemva kokuxabana okukhulu, uya kuba nolonwabo ngakumbi.
Hlaziya imeko xa uxolo. Cinga ngoobani owenene ukutshutshisa into eyenzekayo, indlela onokuyiphepha ngayo ingxabano nendlela yokuzikhusela ngayo, ukuze ungabi nexhala kakhulu. Musa ukuzisola ngezinto ezenziweyo, kodwa izifundo ezivela kwiinkathazo kufuneka zikwazi ukukhishwa. Ukuba isikhalazo asihlali ixesha elide kwaye kukubangela ukuphazamiseka - ukuphindisela kumntu owonayo, kodwa kuphela ngengqondo. Cinga malunga nento ongathanda ukuyenza ngayo, into oyithethayo nendlela yokugweba. Vumela le nto ibuyiselele kwaye ibe yintetho yakho inkululeko.
Xa uphakathi kwenkquzulwano, ungavumeli iimvakalelo zikunciphise. Abantu abanomdla kakhulu bahlala belahleka ngenxa yokuba abanakucinga ngokuqiqa. I-Master i-gymnastics yokuphefumula, uphefumle ngokujulile kwaye uzame ukuqonda okuvela kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo.
Ngexesha leengxabano, inani elikhulu le-adrenaline likhishwa kwigazi. Oku kusikhuthaza ukuba senze izenzo zokukhawuleza. Kodwa unako ukulahla i-surprenal adrenaline ngoxolo, umzekelo, ukuqeqeshwa kwindawo yokuzivocavoca okanye ukubukela "ukukrakra." Oku kuya kukunceda uhlalise, ubeke enye imvakalelo ngomnye.
Ukuba awukwazi ukujamelana nawe, kwaye ukugquma kwentlungu kubangela ingxaki enkulu kuwe kunye nabathandekayo bakho, cinga, akuyixesha lokutyelela isazi sengqondo? Ingcali iza kukunceda ufumane isizathu sokuba ulawulwa yimvakalelo, kungekhona ngesizathu kwaye "uquka" indawo yokugcina ingqiqo. Ngoko uya kufunda ukulahla intlungu kunye nomsindo ngaphandle kokulimaza wena nabanye.