Yaye ke, njengesixhobo, funda iindlela zokukhusela! Masiqale, siyazi ukuba ubuqili bamabhinqa bubunamandla bomfazi.
Iqhinga lomfazi - amandla omfazi - siya kucinga ngomsindo njengobuqili №1. Abasetyhini banomdla, bahlala belila, bekhangele kwiimpawu ezibuhlungu ezivela kwi-movie. Abasetyhini banokuphazamiseka ngenxa yezinto ezintle nje - ukubonakala kwincinci kwinqanaba labo okanye ukuthetha okungakhethiyo kumphathi ovusiwe ukuma ngeenyawo zakhe. Bayafana ngokukhawuleza baxoxe ngeendlela eziphambili zobomi be-Rosita kunye neengxaki zomhlobo wesikolo. Ngenxa yezinto ezincinane banokukhubeka kwaye banokulibala ngokukhawuleza ezi zikhalazo. Oku kubangelwa iimvakalelo ezithintekayo kubo, zibalekela phezulu.
Amadoda ayinikwe oku . Akunjalo kuba aphantsi. Ngokuqala, okokuqala, i-hemisphere yasekhohlo, ejongene nokuhlalutya, iphuculwe ngakumbi kubayeni, kwaye kubasetyhini kulungile, "uxanduva" lobutyebi. Okwesibini, amakhwenkwe ngesizathu esithile akhuliswa phantsi kwesiqubulo esithi amadoda ayalili phantse. Ngoku, xa bekhulile, ababi. Kwaye kwangaxeshanye udibanise ukubonisa zonke iimvakalelo. Amantombazana le nto yokunethezeka ivumelekile!
Iyintoni umphumo wale nkohlisokazi? Okokuqala, ngokwayo, ubuqili besetyhini ngumandla wowesifazane, oku kukwazi ukuvakalelwa yinto yonke eyenzekayo, njengokuba oogqirha bathi, uyasikhupha ukuphazamiseka kwemiqobo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwintliziyo yomzimba. Okwesibini, asixhomekekanga kuphela kwizinto ezenzekayo, sinokubamba lula iimvakalelo ezivela kwabanye. Okwesithathu, ikhono lokubala umlomo wabo, apho amadoda anyanzelekile ukuba afunde ngokuthe ngqo, kubafazi bazinikelwa ngokwemvelo.
Uzikhumbule ngokwakho , yintoni ekhangayo ngakumbi: intetho eyomileyo ezaliswe ngamaqiniso enomdla kakhulu, okanye ibali elibuhlungu lobomi? ngengqondo yesibini kwindlela abantu abasabela ngayo ngokufanelekileyo. Ngoko, uya kuvezwa, khumbula, amazwi akho aya kubachaphazela abanye, uya kufumana "ibhonasi" kokubili emsebenzini nakwintetho! Kwaye ke, isixhobo esinamandla kunayo yonke isilizi. Abagcini nje ukukhulula umzimba wamahomoni enomsindo kunye nentukuthelo, kodwa unokunceda ukuxazulula iingxaki ezininzi: bambalwa bamadoda abanokumelana nokubona kwezinyembezi zeentombi. Kodwa khumbulani: oku kungamandla, amandla omfazi, onokufaniswa nokuphumelela kwizixhobo zokutshabalalisa. Ngako-ke musa ukukhawuleza ukukhala ngamanye amaxesha ukuba ufuna, kodwa ungenzi iinyembezi indlela yokuxhaphaza - ininzi kakhulu inokutshabalalisa nothando oluqinileyo noluthandane lomntu wakho.
Ukukhuselwa kwabamakhosikazi. Iimvakalelo zilungile. Kodwa gama uzama ukuqinisekisa ukuba abagxininisi amazwi omqondo. Ngomzuzu obalulekileyo, ngaphambi kokuba uthethe okanye wenze nantoni na imvakalelo, qhalela ukuya kwi-10 ngendlela ebonakaliswe ngengqondo! Funda indlela yokuthulula iimvakalelo ezingathandeki kwabanye, kodwa kwi-space: cofa kwimpumlo yompheki odibeneyo, uphephe iipareji zebhokisi, ushiye imithwalo, ujikeleze isangqa okanye amabini kwibala lezemidlalo, okanye umemeza ngokukhawuleza (indawo yokugqibela ifaneleka ukuba yenziwe kude nabantu, ukuze ungabi abamelwane kunye nabadlulayo-abadlulayo).
Iqhinga lamadoda - amandla abantu besetyhini-ngokwesini kuboniswa njengeqhinga # 2. Ngokomlando, ibhinqa idinga indoda. Kwaye kungekhona nje kuphela ukuzonwabisa, kodwa okokuqala-konke ukuqhubeka kwentsapho: inokutya nokukhusela loo ntokazi kunye nabantwana bayo. Kwaye ukuba indoda iyanqoba intliziyo yowesifazane yayanele ukuba idonsa isidumbu sesandulela semfuyo emqolombeni, umfazi, ukuze atyelele indoda enamandla, kwafuneka agxininise yonke into ayithandayo. Ukukwazi ukubheka, ukuxhaswa ngeminyaka eyi-milleni, kusenceda iintombi zikaEva ukulungisa iingxaki ezininzi. Kwaye ukuba ngaba abameli besigxina esinamandla sabantu bazama ukusebenzisa ukukhwabanisa ngokwesondo, baya kuthiwa "baxhatshazwayo" okanye bathiwa elinye igama, ngakumbi. Abasetyhini banokuluvuyela eli lungelo ngelixa bafuna.
Iyintoni umphumo wale nkohlisokazi? Ukudlala amehlo, i-decollete ejulile, ilizwi eliphantsi kwesifuba - kwaye ngoku iinyawo zakho ezincinci azigcini nje ngabalandeli, kodwa kunye namaqabane omsebenzi - ungayenqaba njani loo ntokazikazi entle! Ukugxininisa ubufazi bakho, uthi: "Ndingowesifazane, kufuneka ndizinyamekele, ndiphathe ngokunyanisekileyo, kufuneka ndiyithande!" Nangona ukungaqondi, kodwa abantu baya kubamba le nto-kwaye baziphathe ngendlela efanayo "uyala ngokuthula". Omnye uya kuzalisekisa yonke iminqweno yakho, enethemba lokuba "ukuqhubekwa kwedlo." Kwaye omnye umntu ovela kumashishini athile uya kuphumla, ekufumaneni nje idoli enhle, kwaye udibanise ngokungadingekile, kwaye wena okwangoku umoya ufumane ulwazi oluyimfuneko kwi-mustache kwaye uyisebenzise ngobulumko. Ukukhuselwa kobuqhetseba besifazane. Ukuba ngaba "ukuqashwa" abalandeli bezesondo kufuneka bavule ngokuzeleyo, ngoko ke emsebenzini, kubalulekile ukuba "uqinise i-volume knob" encinci. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umfanekiso awuninzi "ibhokhwe yesondo", kodwa ngabafazi "babini kwelinye": behle kwaye bahlakaniphile ngexesha elifanayo. Ukongezelela, akuyi kuba lula ukuxhaphaza umfanekiso wesondo ngaphandle kokuba indoda isondele kuye, unokutshatyalaliswa, ugqibe ekubeni uhamba naye ngeempumlo. Ngoko-konke ngokumodareyitha!
Iqhinga lamadoda - amandla omfazi-intuition - iya kuba phantsi kwenani lesi-3. Ngaba uye wakha wacinga ukuba kutheni inqaku elithi "intuition feminist" liphendukile libe yinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa malunga nenkohlakalo yindoda abaphandi bayathula? Ngenxa yokuba intuition iphuculwe ngakumbi kubafazi. Kwaye kukho inkcazelo yaloo nto. Siye sichaza ngokubanzi ukuphuhliswa kwelungelo elifanelekileyo - lijongene nokukwazi ukuphulaphula umzimba wakho, kunye nokufumana intuition. Okwesibini, izazi ze-anthropologists zikholelwa ukuba umfazi obuthathaka, ukuze azikhusele yena kunye ne-cub yakhe ukuze azikhusele, kufuneka ahlakulele zonke iinjongo ukuze abone, azive, azive ingozi ngexesha kwaye abe nexesha lokufihla okanye ukubalekela. Ngoko wahlakulela intuition yakhe ebusika obude, ngelixa umyeni wakhe egijima ngomkhonto emasimini nasemasimini. Kwaye kwandula nje izazinzulu ziye zafumanisa "umthombo wendalo" we-intuition. Ukuqokelela kweeseli kwisigxina sethu sesisu, ngokufanayo ngokumangalisayo kwisakhiwo kwintsholongwane yengqondo yengqondo, yayibizwa ngokuba yingqondo ye-visceral. Njengengqondo, le ngqondo iyakwazi ukuchukumisa impembelelo engenayo kwaye ifuna ukuba kuthathwe impendulo ebalulekileyo emzimbeni (ngaphandle kwesizathu, kuvela ukuba sinamazwi athi "isibindi sinomuzwa", kungekhona ngaphandle kwesizathu ezininzi "ezintle" ezingenangqondo ezivela kwisisu!). Ingqondo ye-visceral ikhona kumadoda kunye nabasetyhini, ngenxa nje yezinto ezichazwe ngasentla, abafazi abahle bayakwazi ukuva "ilizwi le-visceraltonics." Kwaye ukuthatha izigqibo ezichanekileyo, nokuba ngaba kwiimeko zomsebenzi akwaneleyo okanye ezimbini "ezinengqiqo".
Iyintoni umphumo wale nkohlisokazi? Ngoku sele uyayazi ukuba intsingiselo engaqondakaliyo "umntu makenze ngokukhawuleza oku!" Akunjalo iifomms zomzimba wakho, kodwa iimpembelelo ezicacileyo. Yingakho kungenxa yokwaphulaphula! Hayi, abaninzi bethu bahlambalaza "inkolelo yeentombi" ezenza "izithulu" kwizwi lesithandathu. Ewe, makhe sihlakulele intuition!
Phawula enye: funda ukuziva umzimba wakho. Into e-zakollo-igula kwaye ungazami ngokukhawuleza ukuphonsa ukuvakalelwa okungahambi kakuhle kunye neqondo lehashe le-anesthetic, bhetele ubuze umzimba wakho: "Yintoni ephosakeleyo? Ulahlekelwa ntoni? Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuze uzive ungcono? "Ulambele - ungazigijimali ukukhawuleza oko kusemandleni, zibuze umbuzo othi:" Ufuna ntoni ngoku kutya ngoku? "Lindela kancane - kwaye umzimba uya kukunika inkcazelo echanekileyo ngokufanelekileyo , kufuneka ulandele ilizwi lakhe kuphela.
Isiqendu sesibini: zama ukuphulaphula ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba usayine uphawu ngaphakathi kwakho. Ngaba ifowuni iyakhala? Musa ukuthabatha ifowuni, zama ukuqikelela ukuba ngubani obizayo. Ngaba umphathi ubiza? Hlala uthule ngomzuzu wemizuzu, uzibuze umbuzo: uya kuthetha ntoni kwaye ngumoya onjani umphathi? Uya kumangaliswa ngokukhawuleza ukuba "uvakalelwa" kungekhona nje igama lomntu othetha naye, kodwa nawuphi na umxholo ofuna ukuthetha nawe ngawo. Kungekudala uza kukwazi ukufumana ulwazi olungenanto oluvela kwabanye, ukungena kwiinjongo zabo ezifihlakeleyo kwaye uzive ngendlela omele uyenze ngayo ngoku. Ukukhuselwa kwabamakhosikazi. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ufunde indlela yokuhlukanisa intuition ukusuka ekugqibeleni: okwesibini, ukuba uyayiphulaphula, inokukukhokelela ehlathini apho abantu abajikelezeyo bafana nje: "Nantsi ingqiqo yabesifazane!"
Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo . Okokuqala, iziphakamiso ezinemvelaphi zibonakala ngathi yingqiqo kwaye aziphindaphindi, iingcamango ezigqithisileyo zijika entloko ixesha elide, zipheka zivule, njengenduku yeparele kwisitya senqwelo. Imvakalelo ye-Visceraton izisa uvuyo - "Njengoko andingacingi ngayo ngaphambili!" - kwaye ungashiyi emva kokungabaza. Iimbono ezigqithisileyo ngokuchasene nazo, zikuphosa entlango yenkomo yokudideka; "Ngaba unokuyenza, okanye mhlawumbi akunjalo?" Funda ukungaziboni iingcamango ezingapheliyo kwaye uthobele intuition yakho - kwaye yonke into iya kulungile!