Ukuba umntu wakho unganxiba, oku kubonakala ukuba kuboniswe kwiingubo ezinqamlekileyo, iisokisi ezivuzayo, ijee ezigugile kunye neebhattshi ezigugu. Xa ebuzwa ukuba kutheni engakwazi ukuzondla, loo mntu udla ngokuphendula ukuba ukhangelekile. Amantombazana amaninzi acinga ukuba angayinqoba njani into endiyithandayo ngumntu ocinga ukuba abantu abaselula bayamhlekisa. Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo. Ewe, kunjalo, sikufumana kunzima ukuqaphela ukuba umntu ondibathandayo unokuthetha into enjalo. Le yindlela nje eyiyo. Ngako oko, ukuze ulwa nomhlaba onjalo, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda isizathu sokuba umntu wakho acinge njalo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwinkampani yabantu abancinci kakuhle kunye nabanyanzelekileyo, awuyi kufumana umntu ongatshintshi iisoksi ubuncinane ngeveki. Ngako oko, sinokuthi ngokuzithemba ukuba abafana bayathinteka kwiindawo ezikuzo. Kwezinye iinkampani, amadoda ahleka ngabahlobo abafake i-t-shirts kunye nokuzama ukugcina isitayela esincinane. Ngelishwa, abafana abayiqondi indlela abaziphatha ngayo ngobuqhetseba kunye nokuba bahlekisa njani ngaphandle. Bathembele ngokupheleleyo ukuba xa bebukele, baya kuphelelwa ukuba babe ngabantu bokwenene.
Ukongezelela, abanye abafana abanandaba noko bakubekayo noko kukuthandayo. Abantu abancinci abanjalo abanalo umxholo wesimo ngokupheleleyo, kwaye baqondanga ukuba kutheni ukuba bakhethe into ethile, kuba ihembe ngalinye linemikhono emibini, kwaye i-jeans ineemilenze ezimbini. Ngoko ke kutheni uhlawula ngaphezulu kwaye uchithe ixesha elongezelelweyo ukuba unokubeka okokuqala uze uye kwikhoyunivesithi, kwiqela okanye kwiintlanganiso zebhizinisi.
Aba bantu abanako ukufakazela ukuba babukeka bengenangqiqo xa usebenzisa iingxabano ezinjenge: "Akuyiyo imfashini ngoku." "Ijacket yakho ayifanelekanga ijeans", "Ayi ukuya evenini yokudlela, egqoke iifutshane kunye nekhasi laseHawaii". Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, emva kokuphulaphula izinto ezinjalo, abafana bawaxhaphaza besithi sinika ingqwalasela enkulu kwiidragi.
Ngoko ke, umntu ongenasiphelo kufuneka asebenze ngezinye iindlela. Okokuqala, njengaye nawuphi na umntu, uzibheka njengowona mhle kunene kunye no-sexy. Kodwa, ngaphezu koko, ufuna ukuba ngcono. Ngako oko, ukuba, umzekelo, ubona enye indoda kunye nezaziso zokuthi uyathandwa kakhulu namantombazana, ukuba loo nto indoda igqoke kakuhle, njengokungathi ngengozi: uvele kwiphatho lesikethi (jeans, shirt). Akukho nto ikhethekileyo, kodwa iingubo zigxininisa zonke izibakala zayo kwaye zibacaphula. Kwakhona, xa uhamba kwiivenkile, ngezihlandlo ubonise iimpahla zendoda ecinga ngayo, zikhangele kakuhle kwaye ziqaphele ukuba kule ngxowa-mali iya kuba yinto engenakuphikiswa. Kwaye, nokuba kunokwenzeka, yenza isipho kumntu. Uya kuthwala izipho ezinikwe kuwe ukuba uzikholise, kwaye ngoko ukubonakala kwakhe kuya kuphucula kakhulu.
Ewe, ukungabi naliso lwesimboli, oku akuyona inkathazo enzima xa kuthelekiswa ne-slovenliness. Nangona loo mfo ugqoke unambitha, kodwa iingubo zihlambulukile kwaye zenziwe nge-ironed, ayibheki njengezinto ezimbi njengezinto ezihlambulukileyo. Yingakho ufanele ufundise umfana ukuba anakekele ikhabethe lakhe. Ukuba uhlala kunye, usitye uze uhlambe, kwaye utshintshe iimpahla zibe yimfucuza ngelinye ilanga, khuluma naye malunga nendlela angayithanda ngayo umsebenzi wakho. Ukuba umfana uthi akayikubuza malunga nayo, cacisa ukuba awufuni abantu bacinge ngawe njengomntu osasazekayo. Ndixelele ukuba wena ufuna ukumbona ucocekile kwaye uhlambulukile, kwaye xa emva kobuhlungu bakho bhalazela ukuba awuhambanga ukubonakala komntu othandekayo, kuba nzima kakhulu kuwe, kuba akunjalo. Kwiimeko ezigqithiseleyo, vele uchaze loo mfana ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe ukuba ubukeka njengaliti. Emva koko, eqinisweni, kuye akunzima nakubonke kwaye akaphuli amalungelo. Ngoko kutheni ungaboni nje.
Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukuthetha naye malunga nokuziphatha kwiimpahla. Ukuba umfana wakho uzijonga njengengqiqo kwaye uyisilumko, le yile nxalenye leyo ongayicinezela ngayo. Mkhumbuze ukuba kungenxa yeengubo esizibonisa ngayo ihlabathi lethu. Ngoko ke, ukujonga iisokisi zakhe eziqwenguliweyo kunye nekhati kwindawo, ama-interlocutors abamboni umprogram onetalente, kodwa unotshani we-PTU-shnik ongenakukwazi ukugqoka kakuhle. Ngendlela, ukuba indoda yakho ingazigqoki kakuhle, musa ukwenza okufanayo kunye nawe ukuze umbonise ukuba kubi kangakanani. Ewe, kwezinye iimeko le nto isebenza. Kodwa, ngokwenene, abafana abaqapheli ukuba into ephosakeleyo kuwe. Kodwa uya kuziva ukhululekile kwaye ungakhathazeki phantsi kwezinto ezihamba ngayo nabahambahambayo, abahlobo nabaqhelana nabo.
Ngako oko, ukuba umntu wakho engabonakaliyo, zama nje ukuzama ukumqinisekisa ukuba uya kubonakala engcono kwiingubo ezicocekileyo nezesitayela, amanye amadoda aya kumona. Ukongezelela, uya kuzingca ngaye. Aze ungatsho ukuba unentloni ngokubonakala kwendodana yakho. Kwabaninzi abafana, oku kuyicala elibi. Abaqondi ukuba unentloni ngeengubo zakhe, kungekhona kobukeka bakhe nobuntu bakhe. Ukungaqondi kakuhle kukhokelela ekuxabaneni okukhulu. Ngoko yenza ngobulumko kwaye ungasebenzi, uze uphumelele.